If you had given your grandson for Xmas...

Apparently BP is the enemy.
Really gonegirl you should have known that It's why Sir Mark Rylance has severed ties with the RSC.

Once I have given someone something, I try to remember that it is theirs to do what they like with.

Hard sometimes I know.

You don't say how old the grandchild is, which to my mind has something to do with it. If he is small then mentioning that you were hurt that he had spoiled a present he had seemed glad to get might teach him consideration. If he is a teenager, it's too late to teach him anything.

I’m sorry gonegirl, I think anyone would be taken aback a bit.

But as other posters pointed out once a gift is given the receiver can do whatever they wish with it.

I would also follow other posters advice and remember this for future gifts and their expense to you.

But no, never post anything reprimanding on someone else’s social media, nothing good can come from it.

I think 6 months is good going ? I m sure none of my grandkids have worn the things I ve bought ( always with their approval) for that long ?
BP was always the enemy I remember protesting against them in the anti apartheid days when I marched in London

Yes. Thank you petra. I sometimes forget that he's a good boy really.

I'd be very proud that he was protesting ?

I agree with Kitty I would be thrilled he loved it so much to personalise it.

My brain doesn't always engage before my mouth so I would have commented gonegirl
My grandchildren are very tolerant though and just roll their eyes

Yes, let it go Gonegirl, just bear it in mind next Christmas

I thought it might be that newnanny but his mum says it's not that. (Can't get much sense out of her tbh )

I will just have to let it go.

I would be a bit annoyed too gonegirl. But try not to leave messages on instagram as their friends will see them and laugh at them. That is probably what he is upset about, not the message itself.

Wouldn't bother me at all,his clothes his choice .I remember customising things back in the 60's and nobody blinked an eye .I was very into CND then my badge was fine for school but I wanted everyone to know and get involved ....lol

ElaineI it was for one of these Extinction Rebellion demos. Apparently BP is the enemy.

Yep. You're right. I think I knew all along I was being unreasonable. Sigh!

And yes, I do agree with you leyla. Bad granny alert!

It probably feels old to him by now - Christmas was ages ago.
Anyway, it's his, to do with as he wishes (although it seems a shame to me).
I would try to refrain from writing any comments on Insta - my MIL writes stuff on DDs posts and DD usually cringes. It's massively uncool for your Mum or your Nan to leave comments.

Try to think of it as “customising it” ?

I think I agree with nanasam, at least he’s wearing it, I hate to think how much stuff I’ve bought over the years that has never been used!

No I wouldn't say anything. It was given as a present so let him do what he wants with it. Swear under you breath and keep calm.

If it already has a slogan on it, I suppose you can't blame his logic.
How old is he? I would be more surprised at his parents for allowing him to damage new, expensive clothing; bit like drawing on walls; once allowed one area, they draw everywhere.

I never buy my DGSs clothes just send them the money to buy what they want.

Well I would be annoyed, but would I say anything, probably not if only to keep a good relationship. Could be tempted to on a face to face meeting, just to see him squirm a little bit ?

Actually, I'd be quite chuffed! Sorry, gknegirl.

No I wouldn't but what does that mean?

Well, I might hold my tongue, but I wouldn't be buying him anything else like that.

Say nothing !