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If you had given your grandson for Xmas...

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Gonegirl Mon 01-Jul-19 10:40:32

...a really nice red hooded sweatshirt, that he was really pleased with at the time, and then you happened, in June, to see on Instagram that he had spray-painted "Back Off BP" all over the front of it, would you be a little bit put out?

It had the slogan, "I just want to smell like a campfire" on the front. He loves camping. It was not a cheap hoodie.

And would you put a very mild little message, such as "Oi! I gave you that sweatshirt and look what you've done to it!" in the Instagram comments box?

Gonegirl Mon 01-Jul-19 10:42:08

Apparently I've upset him. Effin' little snowflake

Ilovecheese Mon 01-Jul-19 10:42:18

Well, no I wouldn't.

nanasam Mon 01-Jul-19 10:43:14

At least he's enjoying wearing it! I've bought things for my GC which have never seen the light of day.

Riverwalk Mon 01-Jul-19 10:45:28

Once you've given a pressie ya no longer own it!

As long as he's wearing the pesky thing, that's what matters.

He's being a bit snowflakey - that I agree with!

EllanVannin Mon 01-Jul-19 10:46:00

Say nothing !

Septimia Mon 01-Jul-19 10:54:11

Well, I might hold my tongue, but I wouldn't be buying him anything else like that.

ElaineI Mon 01-Jul-19 10:56:26

No I wouldn't but what does that mean?

kittylester Mon 01-Jul-19 10:57:03

Actually, I'd be quite chuffed! Sorry, gknegirl.

Yorksherlass Mon 01-Jul-19 11:03:15

Well I would be annoyed, but would I say anything, probably not if only to keep a good relationship. Could be tempted to on a face to face meeting, just to see him squirm a little bit 👹

glammanana Mon 01-Jul-19 11:03:48

I never buy my DGSs clothes just send them the money to buy what they want.

eazybee Mon 01-Jul-19 11:04:28

If it already has a slogan on it, I suppose you can't blame his logic.
How old is he? I would be more surprised at his parents for allowing him to damage new, expensive clothing; bit like drawing on walls; once allowed one area, they draw everywhere.

whywhywhy Mon 01-Jul-19 11:05:53

No I wouldn't say anything. It was given as a present so let him do what he wants with it. Swear under you breath and keep calm.

Sara65 Mon 01-Jul-19 11:06:09

I think I agree with nanasam, at least he’s wearing it, I hate to think how much stuff I’ve bought over the years that has never been used!

MawBroonsback Mon 01-Jul-19 11:09:22

Try to think of it as “customising it” ?

leyla Mon 01-Jul-19 11:11:03

It probably feels old to him by now - Christmas was ages ago.
Anyway, it's his, to do with as he wishes (although it seems a shame to me).
I would try to refrain from writing any comments on Insta - my MIL writes stuff on DDs posts and DD usually cringes. It's massively uncool for your Mum or your Nan to leave comments.

Gonegirl Mon 01-Jul-19 11:41:24

Yep. You're right. I think I knew all along I was being unreasonable. Sigh!

And yes, I do agree with you leyla. Bad granny alert!

Gonegirl Mon 01-Jul-19 11:43:23

ElaineI it was for one of these Extinction Rebellion demos. Apparently BP is the enemy.

paddyann Mon 01-Jul-19 11:51:25

Wouldn't bother me at all,his clothes his choice .I remember customising things back in the 60's and nobody blinked an eye .I was very into CND then my badge was fine for school but I wanted everyone to know and get involved ....lol

newnanny Mon 01-Jul-19 11:53:48

I would be a bit annoyed too gonegirl. But try not to leave messages on instagram as their friends will see them and laugh at them. That is probably what he is upset about, not the message itself.

Gonegirl Mon 01-Jul-19 11:57:29

I thought it might be that newnanny but his mum says it's not that. (Can't get much sense out of her tbh hmm)

I will just have to let it go.

Sara65 Mon 01-Jul-19 12:13:36

Yes, let it go Gonegirl, just bear it in mind next Christmas

sodapop Mon 01-Jul-19 12:21:40

My brain doesn't always engage before my mouth so I would have commented gonegirl
My grandchildren are very tolerant though and just roll their eyes

dragonfly46 Mon 01-Jul-19 12:32:07

I agree with Kitty I would be thrilled he loved it so much to personalise it.

petra Mon 01-Jul-19 12:41:16

I'd be very proud that he was protesting 🙂