bev797, you have said it yourself, it's all pie in the sky. Times up.
Welcome to the real world and (at 48!!!) it's finally time for him to grow up. If he hasn't made his millions (or even a few thousands) by age 48 the chances he will do so now are pretty much zilch.
The extended trip to a self deluding Fantasyland funded by other people's money is now over. No more money will be provided by family members. It's extremely unlikely any of you will ever see your money again. What his long suffering wife does is up to her. Perhaps she too will be facing a painful reality check about the man she married.
It's time for him to get a real job instead of sponging off other people. He may well have self deluding beliefs about his own "amazing talents", the reality is that he is going to have to accept a much more humble job that he thinks he's entitled to have. All part of the reality check.
It would seem that the main person who has let everyone down is your son. And that truth is going to be very painful for you all to deal with.
Alison Hammond waxwork. Is it a joke?
To go through chemo therapy or choose not to?