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Was I being inappropriate?

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Gizmogranny Mon 19-Aug-19 23:53:22

Dear Gransnetters,
I have been sleeping au natural for many years. I’ve tried wearing nighties and pyjamas but I find them very uncomfortable so I just don’t bother with them anymore. However, if I go away I always take a nightie with me but once in bed, it has to come off otherwise I cannot sleep.
My 6 year old granddaughter came to stay with me for a week and as she’s not used to being away from home I slept in the same bed as her. DGD slept under the duvet, I slept on top of the duvet, making sure I was covered with a sheet and blanket. I made sure that I was up before she awoke and always wore a gown before I got dressed.
My DGD has seen me naked - couldn’t be helped as we shared a cubicle to get changed when I took her swimming.
I’ve just received a very curt message from my DD. DGD has told mummy that granny snores and sleeps naked. DD went on to say that it’s inappropriate and in future I must wear a nightie.
What do other GNs think? Was I being inappropriate?

notanan2 Sat 24-Aug-19 16:12:56

I find the scenario impossible to believe ,and that the only sounding board for this mysterious happening is GN.

No its not. Innocently posted stuff about kids is lifted from all over the internet and used for.... well...

Can also be used to identify adults who are a bit gullible. Often adults are groomed before the child is. Easier to chat to a child online if you can convince them you are a friend of nans etc

BlueBelle Sat 24-Aug-19 16:11:37

Has anyone reported or asked HQ to observe this thread

Lessismore Sat 24-Aug-19 16:09:24

How absolutely vile.

I find the scenario impossible to believe ,and that the only sounding board for this mysterious happening is GN.

notanan2 Sat 24-Aug-19 15:59:57

So regardless of OPs intent, do not share tales of your GC when it comes to nakedness/masterbation/etc

notanan2 Sat 24-Aug-19 15:59:10

Even if the OP is genuine, this kind of content is lifted and shared elsewhere.

But very often when MN DO investigate these sort of OPs they find the OP to be suspicous

MawB Sat 24-Aug-19 15:53:56

“Tales” not “takes”

Lessismore Sat 24-Aug-19 15:52:48

Yuck

MawB Sat 24-Aug-19 15:51:34

When I was a Samaritan I remember several callers who came up with “embarrassing” takes of accidental inappropriate behaviour.
The less said about them the better, an OP like this was always likely to arouse a prurient interest.

Lessismore Sat 24-Aug-19 15:46:45

notonan, well said. I was trying to allude to that, HQ will, however slap your wrists if they suspect you of " troll hunting"

They need to be more vigilant.

Anybody in their right mind would stick an old top on and not sleep naked with a child.

notanan2 Sat 24-Aug-19 15:38:32

Posters please beware that there have been people "fishing" for stories about being naked with children on MN.

Some are genuine. Some are not. Be safe and do not reply with any stories about your GC

Abuelamia Sat 24-Aug-19 15:02:22

Surely , whatever anybody else thinks, does or does not wear, is neither here nor there. If your daughter objects and thinks it inappropriate for her child to witness this, then in this instance it is inappropriate.

Lessismore Sat 24-Aug-19 15:01:34

How very silly. You could easily have worn an old t shirt or something.....assuming this is quite as it seems.

grandtanteJE65 Sat 24-Aug-19 14:38:51

Presumably, your daughter saw you naked when she was a child? Seems to me she didn't care for that if she is complaining that your granddaughter saw you naked.

I myself usually sleep naked, so does my husband, but he sleeps in boxers and I in a nightie if there are children staying here. Silly perhaps, but it seems right to us.

Tedber Fri 23-Aug-19 20:38:28

I must confess I don't really understand any of this? IF as OP says she was covered on top of bed and she got up before she awoke and put on a dressing gown on then when did her grandaughter see her naked? Also IF she had seen her naked, what exactly is the problem? Something not right here. Why would her own daughter suggest it was inappropriate? Surely if the OP has a problem sleeping with anything on then her own children must have seen this previously?

Why was the young grandchild so 'upset' grannie was naked? Not usual i.m.o. I don't actually flaunt myself but if my C or GC happen to come in a room when am getting dressed I can't think any of them are traumatised by this? I certainly would NOT expect a curt message from my daughter about it!!! Or anyone to actually'comment' on it for that matter!

As said it all seems to be very odd!

Coolgran65 Wed 21-Aug-19 04:26:46

I'd definitely have worn something if dgc joined me in bed. My dh always sleeps naked but wears boxers when dgc stay.

Do as Dd asks.

Alexa Tue 20-Aug-19 23:49:13

I'd accept its eccentric to sleep naked when my grandchild could see me naked.

Tangerine Tue 20-Aug-19 23:39:15

I'd do as your DD says. It obviously upsets her and you don't want to start a long-lasting quarrel with her as it might affect how often you see your granddaughter.

annep1 Tue 20-Aug-19 23:35:38

I do think it might be better to wear something.

BlueBelle Tue 20-Aug-19 23:31:13

Haha ??? and that my friends is that

Gizmogranny Tue 20-Aug-19 19:07:03

Thank you all, for your input. I will certainly listen to what my daughter said.
Have a nice day everyone ?

crazyH Tue 20-Aug-19 17:34:46

Where's Gizmo? Was this a sort of research and Gizmo's lurking?

MissAdventure Tue 20-Aug-19 17:23:10

I knew a family of boys whose stepmother used to walk about naked and perfectly comfortable with it.

The boys weren't though, they were thoroughly uncomfortable with it.

Atqui Tue 20-Aug-19 17:03:39

merlotgran grin

PamelaJ1 Tue 20-Aug-19 16:55:03

So Gizmogranny, what do you think of our comments?

Chewbacca Tue 20-Aug-19 16:52:48

I too sleep in the buff. My GD comes for sleep overs but insists that she doesn't want to sleep in the bedroom that I paid an arm and a leg to furnish and equip for her; she wants to sleep in my bed. So on those occassions, I wear a nightdress. Why would I want to traumatise the poor child with a sneak viewing of my blubber? It would scar her for life!