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Becoming 70yrs old

(11 Posts)
Tanya5 Fri 11-Sept-26 19:24:57

I'm 70 in October.

Any advice for the years to come? smile

Two pieces I've been given:

Spend it, don't save it!

If you always wanted to go somewhere - go!

Thoughts?

tanith Fri 11-Sept-26 20:19:41

I’m 78 and still trying to make myself spend and Australia is now never going to happen but it’s good advice.

greyfur16 Fri 11-Sept-26 20:20:46

Nice, if you have it to spend. Many don't

Meandrogrog Fri 11-Sept-26 20:26:24

greyfur16

Nice, if you have it to spend. Many don't

Does that mean that those who do should not enjoy it?

Wyllow3 Fri 11-Sept-26 20:31:18

Spend!

Go where you can, while you can.

Go where you have curiosity and learning

Go where there is a chance to let go and leave behind that which troubles.

Share what you learn about different peoples, eyes wide open, and the visual beauty you find.

Yes there are times and circumstances when we cannot do that.

If you have means give some to those who have not as well, or where you go, consider what your money is doing to help those working to help you enjoy your stay.

personally, like the 3 times I was able to go to Crete, 10 or so years ago (had the means and someone to travel with as I don't cope alone away from home:

I was as interested in what it was like for the non tourists, the non ex pats, those in remote parts, the customs and realities of the place as well as the extraordinary beauties, the tapestries of different lives lived wherever you go.

Wyllow3 Fri 11-Sept-26 20:32:49

(This forum is classed as "non judgmental")

sodapop Fri 11-Sept-26 20:48:54

I'm 80 now and those 10 years from 70 zipped by so quickly. Do the things you want to do and can afford, enjoy your life. My health has taken a down turn and the things I put off are not possible now. Enjoy life with small or big pleasures, good luck.

Deedaa Fri 11-Sept-26 20:49:39

You really have reached an age where you should be able to do what you like, wear what you like, and eat what you like. You don't have to pretend to like things because of what other people might think. It's perfectly acceptable to admit that you don't like a particular TV show, or a particular person. Other people seem less keen on trying to convert you to their ideas and it's really quite liberating.

MartavTaurus Fri 11-Sept-26 20:52:43

I like to treat myself, and 70 is the perfect reason. But then so is 65, 66, 67 and so on. Spend, spend, spend, the best hotels, the scheduled flights. Try a few new destinations, and see what else you can pack in while there. I'm going to Zürich and Basel, Switzerland, in December, then on to Strasbourg and Colmar for Christmas markets, killing a few birds with one stone, at 68 years, and more to come.
Do it now. Enjoy it!

greyfur16 Fri 11-Sept-26 21:17:47

Meandrogrog

greyfur16

Nice, if you have it to spend. Many don't

Does that mean that those who do should not enjoy it?

Why on earth would I mean that?

Scribbles Fri 11-Sept-26 21:20:11

It's your time and it may, sadly, be shorter than you think so if there's something you want to do, somewhere you want to go and you have the means: Go for it!
And don't ever let anyone tell you what you ought to do or what's age-appropriate. If you really want to wear a mini skirt, dye your hair green, have an affair, take up hang-gliding or naturism: Do it.

I'm 76 this week, was widowed at 69 just as covid was kicking off and expected to spend my 70s in miserable decline. My physical impairments are becoming more of a nuisance but I refuse to be beaten and, to be honest, I'm thoroughly enjoying my 70s - confident enough to speak up for what I want or believe in; enough sense of adventure to try new things or venture to new places; retain sufficient happy memories of my long marriage to unexpectedly fall in love again and establish a new partnership.

Most importantly, cherish your friends and all those you love. They, too won't be here forever and we miss them when they're gone.