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yogagran Tue 20-Aug-19 13:33:03

I had been planning a visit to see my DS in Canada at the beginning of October. I was going to spend the weekend with him and his family (both parents work & kids at school so weekend is the best time). All flights booked several weeks ago and now I get a WhatsApp from him saying that, on checking the diary, they realise that they have a Halloween weekend campsite booked for that weekend, trick & treating, pumpkin carving etc. Plus they have booked a pitch for their trailer near some friends that are also going. "How you you feel about that" he asks.
I'm really disappointed as I was hoping to spend time with them and halloween is really not my thing, neither is spending the weekend in a caravan.
My plan was that I would spend the weekend with DS then go on to see my brother on the Sunday evening and stay with them for three days then home again. My previous trips to Canada have always been for less than a week as that works best for me. Three days with my DS and three days with my brother.
My question is what would you do?

Bugbabe2019 Fri 23-Aug-19 10:19:50

I’m sure it’ll be fun!
Just go along with it you might surprise yourself!

Sara65 Thu 22-Aug-19 15:29:43

You are right missiseff, how often do we spend weeks dreading something, and it doesn’t turn out so bad, I’m sure your family will be happy to have you there

Specky Thu 22-Aug-19 15:25:25

I agree with everyone who says to go with the flow and give it your all! You might surprise yourself and have a great time but if you don't enjoy it then at least the family will get the idea and hopefully suggest a visit next time that's more everyone's cup of tea. Start working on your outfit now and maybe plan a few tricks of your own to get your own back!!! I hope you have a great time.. X

Missiseff Thu 22-Aug-19 15:03:44

I'd do anything to be able to see my Son, so would gladly do anything just to be with him.
Sometimes the dread of something turns out to be better than you thought it would be.

love0c Thu 22-Aug-19 14:51:50

I think on this occasion go with the flow. I think if you let your son know you are not too keen it will cause bad feeling regardless of the fact he has asked how you feel. You will enjoy seeing your grandchildren having fun doing halloween stuff. This is something you haven't done before including seeing your grandchildren enjoy halloween. Children get bored very easily so you may well find they are in a 'good mood' for the whole of the time. Not a bad thing!!

Theoddbird Thu 22-Aug-19 14:26:27

You might just enjoy it. Give it a go. I would. Don't forget to pack a witch costume. Trick or treating with grandchildren is so much fun x

Scribbles Thu 22-Aug-19 14:18:58

Lucy2: it wasn't me who suggested Halloween might go on for weeks. That was the OP.
I was astounded to read it!

Diane227 Thu 22-Aug-19 14:06:14

Playing devils advocate.
Do you think your son might prefer you to change your plans and go another time?
Unless you have a fantastic relationship with your son and DIL , wont it be intrusive for them and uncomfortable for you ? to share a caravan.
I cant help thinking that you are making all the effort here, going all the way to Canada which they have obviously known about for some time. Its not like its just down the road.
I think its a bit unreasonable of them.
Its only Halloween.

4allweknow Thu 22-Aug-19 14:00:13

Check exactly when DS would be available. Cancel flights then rebook. You will be down financially but up on happiness not dealing with the Halloween and camping.

Nanny41 Thu 22-Aug-19 13:43:35

As others have said book in to a cabin on site, or a nearby Hotel,I wouldnt like the caravan idea either.I was in the US at Halloween when my Daughter lived there I enjoyed seeing all the houses decorated, and little children knocking on the door accompanied by a parent.
You may enjoy Haloween more than you think, give it a try.I think the time you are in Canada seems very short for the lenght of journey, but you are used to it,so I hope you enjoy the time spent with your family.

Skinnylizzie Thu 22-Aug-19 13:19:45

Go for it! Embrace it! It’s not camping as you know it and Halloween is an amazing thing there. Plus you’re going to see your family.... enjoy 😊

Llamedos13 Thu 22-Aug-19 13:06:13

I am a bit puzzled on the timing, I live in canada and all our camp grounds close down for the season after labour day which is the first weekend in September. Also, I have never ever heard of month long Halloween celebrations! Perish the thought.

nipsmum Thu 22-Aug-19 12:58:40

Sorry to sound unsympathetic, but most of us who have lived to be Gran,s can put up with anything for 3 days. Its not the end of the world. If its so bad then maybe just do not go.

schnackie Thu 22-Aug-19 12:49:26

yogagran if you are fit enough to fly to Canada, visit two different family members and fly home in 6 days, it seems you would be strong enough (mentally and physically) to go on this camping trip!
Things like this are the memories the children will treasure for years to come!

Lucy2 Thu 22-Aug-19 12:16:59

Scribbles: “The American way of celebrating Halloween goes on for weeks and everywhere” ?? Where did you get that idea? It’s ONE night only in America. Some schools have a short party to show off costumes, then an evening trick or treating, but that’s it. Of course yard decorations can be seen for the previous week, but celebrating is a one nighter. I always hope Halloween will fade away, but the merchandise pushers won’t let it go. I’m a retired teacher & always dreaded the day after with hyper, super-filled kids!

maddyone Thu 22-Aug-19 11:47:57

I think Scribbles has the best solution. It it was e, I would find a hotel nearby and then spend the days with the family. You would have your comforts and see the children and your son.

Sara65 Thu 22-Aug-19 11:37:59

I quite like Halloween, I don’t think I’d want a month of it, and I agree that it’s tons of rubbish to end up in landfill. My Halloween age children always come to us to do trick or treating (only in houses participating) then we have spooky supper and watch spooky movies, next day, all over!

Lessismore Thu 22-Aug-19 11:24:28

Agreed anno, I have memories of apples in washing up bowls full of cold water!

annodomini Thu 22-Aug-19 11:16:26

Every year we have to repeat that Halloween is NOT merely an American tradition. It goes a long way back in Scotland and Ireland. As children we would go out 'guising' with our friends. We dressed up in costumes - usually bed sheets for ghosts! and said our 'party pieces' for neighbours who would give us sweets or nuts in exchange. We would make our own masks - none of these shop-bought monstrosities.
I do agree that the commercialisation of this tradition has crossed the Atlantic and the old customs are unknown to today's children. It was never what the Americans call a 'holiday'. Costumes and lanterns were home made. Vampires and zombies were unheard of. Our innocent 'guising' has morphed into 'trick or treat'.
It's not what it once was, but I repeat: Halloween is not an American invention.

Lessismore Thu 22-Aug-19 11:03:40

Hurrah! A fellow grumbler, it's vile and silly and a load of tat and landfill. Lemming like, we buy this nonsense because if we don't the kiddiwinks will be disappointed.

A simple, ancient festival jumped on by marketing people .

absthame Thu 22-Aug-19 10:44:17

Halloween is another b****y American ridiculous “tradition” designed to ruin the world angryangryangry It seems to have replaced our Guy Faulks celebration. Who the heck would with even rudimentary brain would celebrate the works of the powers of evil to celebrate All of the Saints. (Grumble grumble grumbleangryangryangry)

DanniRae Thu 22-Aug-19 09:05:41

No yogagran those details haven't put me off! It's only 3 days and you'll be out of the van most of the time doing exciting things.
What amazing memories you will have to look back on! smile

yogagran Wed 21-Aug-19 22:42:49

starlady, I'll definitely get a check done on calendar dates before any future trips grin

yogagran Wed 21-Aug-19 22:39:45

Yes danniRae I love caravans too, we had our own for many, many years - but a caravan with two other adults, three children and a dog.....

DanniRae Wed 21-Aug-19 18:18:38

Oh go yogagran it'll be fun! I love caravans (same as trailers?) and I think it's so lovely that they want you to join them.
Think of it as an adventure.......and come back on here and tell us all about it, please!! smile