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Gonegirl Mon 09-Sept-19 10:40:44

I think it's absolutely diabolical that you think you can stay in the flat that is her home! She pays rent for it for goodness sake. Go as guests if she invites you, but you can't have your cake and eat it. ie rent and a handy place to stay in London.

It would be a different matter if she lived there rent free.

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M0nica Mon 09-Sept-19 10:36:29

Put a bath shower mixer on the bath in the bathroom and she need not come into your room to have a shower.

However, were it me I would not let her 'insist' that she has a shower every morning in the ensuite to the bedroom I was sleeping in. You have a perfectly good bathroom she can use when you stay. It is not that often. You could sweeten this by allowing her to live rent free when you and your partner at the flat.

But, I would just install the bath shower mixer as described above and then she can shower in the bathroom.

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tanith Mon 09-Sept-19 10:35:39

Well if it were me I’d tell her to have her shower in the evening or maybe arrange to have an over the bath shower fitted in her bathroom. Or simply swop rooms.

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lucyinthesky Mon 09-Sept-19 10:24:29

Sorry in advance for longish post but don't want to dripfeed. This is really a WWYD as I would welcome advice. This is rather a first world problem I know but it is affecting my relationship with my DD and OH.

For the at 10 years since my divorce I have been in a relationship with a French guy whose home is in Paris. I spend most of my time there and DD2 (34 years old) whose job is in London lives in the 2 bed flat I own there. She pays rent, buys all her own food, does her laundry etc. So far so good.

My OH comes over to London a few times a year usually for a week but longer in the summer hols and Xmas. He and DD rub along well enough but DD is so used to living alone that she finds it difficult when he stays.

We have a separate bathroom but the only shower is in the ensuite in my bedroom. DD insists on a shower every morning before work (around 7.30 - 8.00) when we are still asleep. She doesn't disturb us but she is now asking me to 'make sure OH is up/dressed in the mornings' so she can have her shower!

WWYD/answer?

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