To know that - I know what I don’t want to do ....

Our grandparents didn't have this problem. Once their children had left home, and Grandad was retired, they basically took to their armchairs by the fire. Most of them never felt the need to have hobbies.
On the whole, our generation is much healthier and more active, and I'm grateful for that. Now that I've had my hip replaced I'm busy taking off the weight that crept on through inactivity. I've enrolled in an exercise class, aqua aerobics, and have signed up with the local gym. I'm also walking more, and take part in a games and indoor kurling group with U3A. All this activity means that I have less time for housework - which is a bonus!
I've always sung in choirs, for many years, and I think that contributes to my mental and physical health, and occupies at least two evenings a week. Have you considered joining a Community Choir, Bridgeit? Don't say that you have a terrible voice, because everyone says that - and most people have a perfectly adequate one. Singing together is enormous fun.
I hope that you find something that takes your fancy, Bridgeit, but I'm a great believer in curling up with a good book, some knitting, or the tv as well. We all need to relax. Your cream bun sounds very tempting, but I will resist the temptation until I reach my target weight, then maybe have one to celebrate!
Good luck in your search!

My Meet Up groups (I belong to two) organise very different activities which you are free to go to or not as you wish, lots of theatre, meals out, coffee mornings, visits to NT Properties & weekends away etc. One group is over 60s, some men & more women but the men definitely don't treat it as a "pick up" group. The other group is a very varied membership, young, singles, couples & quite a few older members.

I'm one of life's do what I please, when I please. Not into exercise classes but I do try to get out for walks. I read, do crosswords, sudoku, enjoy gardening & recently been meeting friends to travel in England.

Some days I just like to "veg", nothing wrong with that

Please, Stoker what IS the NWR - it can't be the Great North Run as someone said upthread! Or did I miss the explanation somehow?

Great thread. Thank you for the suggestions of Futurelearn....I’ve signed up and started a course!

Yes, what is NWR!?

National Women's Register. We meet in each others houses and discuss many and varied topics. We also eat out, have theatre visits etc but it is much less formal than WI and a lot cheaper.

Miss adventure and Bridgeit I am with you I do like doing things but I Donington particularly want a group to be doing things more a group to be with. I guess that would be making friends?

Curse you predictive text that should say I don’t particularly

My grandparents were very serious gardeners indeed! No armchairs for them. I'm very lazy compared to them.
I like a bit of structure to arrange my weeks round. I don't particularly enjoy everything I do but that makes the other stuff better somehow. Eg yoga this morning which I find quite hard and also boring but it means I've had two good walks plus the class so I can veg in front of the TV this pm with a clear conscience.
I really enjoy aquafit. Its no penance going there. Bridge (after a lovely long lunch) is a highlight. Plus my various talks to groups large and small keep me pottering happily along.
Maybe OP try not to overthink things? Just go out and do stuff. You might find your get up and go again after a while?

I love yoga, and try to attend a weekly class. I absolutely enjoy the classes, but when I get home, I feel slaughtered and overcome with extreme tiredness. I don’t enjoy feeling like that, so I’ve cut down to every other week.

Maybe it’s an age thing. I am 74 years old and definitely slowing down as I get older.
Pilates classes made me feel worse.

I loathe joining groups, never liked that kind of thing.I do join a litttle group of women, we are six of us. once a week, we just chat and drink tea/coffee and a sandwich and put the world to right.
I have involuntarily had to go to the Rehab gym because of a hip problem, and I hate it, but needs must.

How about Amdram?
I’m part of an amateur musical theatre group. Can’t really sing but it’s just enough socialising without too much physical exertion! On stage in Hello Dolly tonight!

In my moments of reverie I imagine a time when I will wake up, shower, and then indulge in a beauty routine that consists of more than slapping on a bit of moisturiser. I follow this with a healthy breakfast and a morning walk to my book club/zumba class/aquarobics etc. before lunching with a friend and going on to an art gallery or having an afternoon at the cinema. A home cooked, healthy, dinner is followed by an evening of scintillating conversation with The Wonderful Man.

The reality is that I fall out of bed at a run because I only have an hour before my first meeting and I need to send off three emails and make a phone call first. I shower and then eat a banana on the go, I put my morning tea in my Costa cup and hope it's still warm when I get to have a quick slurp whilst running down the road........ and so the day progresses in like manner.

I will be 70 in four years and then I am going to retire and make my reverie a reality (and maybe join a choir!), but for now I love the work I do and although I do sometimes get tired (exhausted) I have days like today when my little charity has been successful at getting another homeless gentleman off the streets - and I think that life is very good as it is.

I'm doing what I love and loving what I do (most of the time).

i came across nice group of people in a wetherspoons pub quite by chance. mid-morning, just before lunch, drinking coffee, mixed group very friendly and easy going, laid back. we chatted and amused each other with anecdote, puns, snippets of local history etc. they were good-humoured and unintrusive.
they explained to me how the re-fillable coffee worked. very reasonable price. also nibbles available.
they were over 60, hence free in day time.
I guess there may be such self-selected groups in many wetherspoons, that you could perhaps dip into.
I'd actually gone there for another purpose but decided to join them and it was very pleasant.
if you feel awkward going into a pub alone, try about 11am, wander in with a visible crossword to do, if you see some likely people, casually ask if the coffee machine is now working, and that will probably start a conversation, whereby you can get a feel for the situation.
I don't like signing up for things. I rather be a bit anonymous and uncommitted. I enjoyed them and the serendipity of discovering them.
I feel a bit less comfortable in all-women groups sometimes, they can be overly-purposeful if you know what I mean. I like something more free-wheeling.
I don't like being quizzed on my particulars, which some women do, as if they are trying to put me in a category.
I am not like those highly organised women, admirable though they may be, who are so sure of themselves, who get things done, know what's what, can make a casserole, do sewing, and be useful, and wear skirts.

70 in four years

So, you're 66. Pah! Spring chicken.

I don't need to join an amateur dramatics group.
There's always drama right here in my home these days.

We have a daily 'whodunnit' about the wet toilet seat, tense thrillers weekly about whether dirty clothes will make it into the washing bin, and there may possibly be a murder mystery coming soon.

I joined the Rock Choir. It is absolutely amazing. Everyone is so friendly and inclusive and you don’t have to audition or read music. I always come home feeling uplifted and at peace with the world. Have a look on U tube. Over 30000 members in the UK. You can sign up for a taster session to try before you commit! I also walk 5 miles a day and sit and knit or crochet listening to audiobooks from my online Essex County Council library. Hope you find something to make you happy.

I love craft. Have revisited ones I dropped when the kids were little, have started new ones.
www.craftcourses.com/categories has lots of ideas, some you might find locally. Some Hobbycraft stores run classes/groups cheaply or even free.

You could start a language or learn a musical instrument.

Good luck.

Nicky7of7
I sing with one too! I come bouncing out afterwards. It's fabulous and I can highly recommend singing to anyone, even those who think they are tone deaf. My asthma readings have improved considerably since I began singing and therefore exercising my lungs ... but mainly singing has filled me with happiness.

Another Future Learn fanatic here , can’t recommend highly enough!

If you enjoy nature have a look at the RSPB website, and that of the Woodland Trust and your particular county’s Wildlife Trust. All of them put on events -cheap or free. We go to many and have enjoyed wonderful days whatever the time of year. For example we did a group night walk in local woods. It was fabulous to be somewhere really dark where we could see tree silhouettes, hear the stream flowing and hear Owls. On another walk (with a guide) we foraged for wild food and cooked it in a wok over a bonfire. Your local Council may also put on outdoor events. If you enjoy the outdoors you’d be amazed at how many events there are even in winter. These are what keep me going.

Whodunnit?
MissAdventure does it again.
19.03 yesterday.

Gonegirl

At the moment I'm more like an old hen I'm afraid!

When my hubby asks what’s on today I have great joy in saying “Nothing absolutely nothing” I’m retired and allowed to spend my time as I want and that doesn’t include unwanted exercise, yes I’m a bit overweight but I’m 73

I gave up pilates when I developed arthritis in my knees. I've joined a 'Silver Swans' ballet class for the over 55s. I cannot tell you how much I love it It is quite strong exercise but you don't notice it as it is such fun. It is one of those activities that 'lifts your heart'. You don't have to kneel down so no extra stain on the knees and a lovely teacher who can modify exercises if you have a health issue. I've done U3A and enjoyed it and lots of other things too but this is perhaps a form of escapism? Whatever it is I love it and knees feel a little better too.