AIBU

I echo what BlueBelle has said.

These aren't your children. She is their mother. As long as she's not abusing them (and it's pretty clear she is not), her parenting is not something you can control.

Welcome busby
Each to their own if she likes playing with the kids good for her you would have mote of a reason to worry if she paid no attention to them ?
It really isn’t your place to tell your daughter how much time she spends playing with her own children whether in your house or her own It sounds as if you have it how you like it when the children are on their own with you and when you are in charge so really don’t worry if she has a different way of handling her kids it’s really not up to you when she’s in charge of her own kids

How useful a playpen used to be for those times when you just wanted to sit and drink an uninterrupted cuppa, or talk face to face with someone adult for a change. They are frowned on these days, but they saved the sanity of many of the mums in my generation. You could still talk or sing to a child as they too were sitting concentrating hard on their own playing. They weren't locked way in some solitary jail, as "liberated" millenium mums are inclined to claim, and they weren't there all day, just while you had a desperately needed hot drink without being afraid they would grab it and spill it over themselves, or while you chopped vegetables for a family meal with a sharp knife and juggled boiling pans.

I think it is great that your DD is putting a lot of effort into parenting. Be grateful that she is a good mum and not glued to her phone instead!

Hi there BusbybagI.

My daughter in law is a bit this way. My daughter not so much.

I find that the best way to keep things on an even keel is to allow Mums to do their own thing.

She probably likes playing with them!

And at 10 months I don't think it's the best idea to leave them to their own devices!

Don't sweat the small stuff as my Grandma used to say

I always found playing with my DS really boring when he was little and struggled to do it. I often wondered if I was failing to do my job properly!

I found it just as difficult to play with my DGD when she was little.

If your DD enjoys doing things with the little ones, I should step back and let her - she can wear herself out!

As they get bigger and more independent (or are at school) they probably won't want her to play with them and she'll be glad to sit and chat with you - I hope!