Faffing about.

I think it says more about them than me.?

Well Kircubbin you'll know not to grumble here again!?

Kircubbin, next time, just get a cab to the doctors and call another to return - simple!

Good idea, annodomini, a friend of ours used to volunteer for the hospital car service.

And, of course they often have more than one passenger, so you have to be prepared to wait whilst other patients are seen by the doctor.

The Lidl bit would have driven me mad. No one should be forced into one of those shops.

There are charitable organisations in many communities who provide transport for people unable to attend appointments under their own steam. There is one here for which I was very grateful after I broke my shoulder and had to attend hospital appointments. A kind driver took me there, waited with me and took me home. No money is asked for, but donations gratefully received. Your local health centre should know if such an organisation exists in your area.

I have to say that in her place I probably wouldn’t be offering again.
If you knew she was such a bad driver I am surprised you accepted the lift and having done so, to moan about the fact she did her own errands while out is very much a case of looking a gift horse in the mouth!
If you want a dedicated taxi service - pay for it. If a friend puts herself out to take you to the doctor and wait for you, it is a bit rich to moan about her and call it a “punishment”!

So, let me get this straight, your friend came and picked you up, took you to the doctor, waited for you, then drove you home, stopping on the way for a couple of errands. And you are complaining and criticising her driving?

never known to get in and out of GPs in less than about an hour, that's for usual 10 min appt, arriving on time.
I can see this from both sides. could you not have got a few bits in Lidl too, make use of the trip.
but on a serious note, what can be done about people whose driving has become risky, they so often do not realise. that's part of the problem, lack of self-awareness.

It was nice of her to give you a lift but spending so much time faffing about afterwards was, in my view, a bit inconsiderate of her. It's like because she'd done you a favour she then felt she had the upper hand and was at liberty to take as much time as suited her.

I'd prefer to take a bus or get a taxi (if not too expensive) - then I could do as I chose without inconveniencing anyone or being inconvenienced myself.

I see I'm in the minority on this one so perhaps I'm an ungrateful too (but I don't think I am).

It made me notice how doddery she has got,the u turn,the bad parking etc. She didn't know where the bank was which didn't help. I was grateful and did thank her and wonder how many of us are driving about who perhaps shouldn't be.

I think I'd find the U turn in traffic a bit alarming

I am not keen on being a passenger.

Some people seem to have no plan to their trip, such as calling into the shops in sequence.

You think you're done in but oh, no!
Now they've got to go back to the shop you first went in to queue up again to buy the thing that's first on their list.

I get your point , I depend on lifts , having never driven , and am now not too good on my pins .
I dread the erratic driving , the sitting outside the shop and the sheer exhaustion of being grateful
I try to go by bus and take my walker , but sometimes I just give up and ignore appointments
Then I get an earful from everyone ... you should have said .... etc etc !

I'd be fed up with faffing too.
Yes, it's kind, but I would rather make my own way than put up with someone piddling about.

She also said she was punished, and it's not very nice to moan about your friend after they did you a favour.

Oh I think you're all being a bit hard on Kircubbin. She's just having a grumble about all that driving around and waiting. She has said it was nice of her friend.

15 mins at the GP. In exchange for an hour and a half for banking & shopping?

Kind of her.

But I’d get a taxi and back to the surgery next time.

You are lucky to have such a good friend.

The thing is we all do people favours when asked because they need help with things but we don't know what they actually think about us because they don't say. No doubt you thanked your friend and she went off thinking she'd done a good turn not knowing you then came on here telling us how you'd been punished. Tbh I wish I hadn't read this thread because now whenever I do someone a favour I really don't want to be thinking about them possibly bad mouthing me to all and sundry. Whether you intended it or not you sound selfish and ungrateful and I feel sorry for you but not as sorry as I feel for your friend.

Definitely you ABU! Not quite sure what your gripe is to be honest! You got a lift back when you couldn't drive yourself. Presumably the time it took was only a couple of hours out of your life?

Not sure I would want to volunteer to help someone who is so ungrateful.

Oh I see. Lol. I got that wrong. Oops.
I still think the driver could have warned you though that she would be doing all those errands.

I don't suppose she'll bother again!

Oh right! I thought 10 minutes wasn't very long for an eye op.

It was only a visit to the doctor. Oh come on! Just be thankful.

She wasn’t driving her home after her eye op??