Faffing about.

well at least she did take you

You sound ungrateful......

why shouldn't she run a couple of errands of her own whilst she was out and about in her car? drove and picked you up, waited for you and also brought you back, don't be ungrateful

She should have warned you she wanted to do errands on the way home - it wasn’t as if it were one quick stop. Then you could have either gone along with it all just happy to have a lift, or decide to find another way to get home. I bet you were gritting your teeth. She should have warned you so I think she was actually a bit thoughtless, even though she gave you the lift and had a very short wait for you.

The hospital always warns that your appointments might take a lot longer than they thought.

I have had the hospital eyedrops for a long time over the years .
Most of them are the quick ones and can drive but home but if there are any real problems you will be there some time and have to get transpotr
and If you have the simple short time ones you can get away with out the short time .
The longer term drops can make your eyes be out of focus for a long time, am
I am not taking risks our local hospital is good.

I had eye drops at the hospital a while back. I made the mistake of riding my bike there. It was late afternoon and getting dark when I came out. Everything was a blur and I pushed my bike through the traffic-ky bits and rode it almost blindly along the river part. I should have got a taxi but I didn't want to leave my bike overnight. How I made it home I don't know. It was horrific.

Be glad you had a lift. It could have been worse.

Theres not much to be grateful for imo. I don't think that was helpful at all. If I was driving someone home after an eye op I wouldn't do anything, except drive them straight home making it as smooth a journey as possible. I think I eould get a taxi next time.

Not could - would!

She wasn’t driving her home after her eye op??

Oh right! I thought 10 minutes wasn't very long for an eye op.

It was only a visit to the doctor. Oh come on! Just be thankful.

I don't suppose she'll bother again!

Oh I see. Lol. I got that wrong. Oops.
I still think the driver could have warned you though that she would be doing all those errands.

Definitely you ABU! Not quite sure what your gripe is to be honest! You got a lift back when you couldn't drive yourself. Presumably the time it took was only a couple of hours out of your life?

Not sure I would want to volunteer to help someone who is so ungrateful.

The thing is we all do people favours when asked because they need help with things but we don't know what they actually think about us because they don't say. No doubt you thanked your friend and she went off thinking she'd done a good turn not knowing you then came on here telling us how you'd been punished. Tbh I wish I hadn't read this thread because now whenever I do someone a favour I really don't want to be thinking about them possibly bad mouthing me to all and sundry. Whether you intended it or not you sound selfish and ungrateful and I feel sorry for you but not as sorry as I feel for your friend.

You are lucky to have such a good friend.

15 mins at the GP. In exchange for an hour and a half for banking & shopping?

Kind of her.

But I’d get a taxi and back to the surgery next time.

Oh I think you're all being a bit hard on Kircubbin. She's just having a grumble about all that driving around and waiting. She has said it was nice of her friend.

She also said she was punished, and it's not very nice to moan about your friend after they did you a favour.

I'd be fed up with faffing too.
Yes, it's kind, but I would rather make my own way than put up with someone piddling about.

I get your point , I depend on lifts , having never driven , and am now not too good on my pins .
I dread the erratic driving , the sitting outside the shop and the sheer exhaustion of being grateful
I try to go by bus and take my walker , but sometimes I just give up and ignore appointments
Then I get an earful from everyone ... you should have said .... etc etc !

Some people seem to have no plan to their trip, such as calling into the shops in sequence.

You think you're done in but oh, no!
Now they've got to go back to the shop you first went in to queue up again to buy the thing that's first on their list.

I think I'd find the U turn in traffic a bit alarming

I am not keen on being a passenger.

It made me notice how doddery she has got,the u turn,the bad parking etc. She didn't know where the bank was which didn't help. I was grateful and did thank her and wonder how many of us are driving about who perhaps shouldn't be.

It was nice of her to give you a lift but spending so much time faffing about afterwards was, in my view, a bit inconsiderate of her. It's like because she'd done you a favour she then felt she had the upper hand and was at liberty to take as much time as suited her.

I'd prefer to take a bus or get a taxi (if not too expensive) - then I could do as I chose without inconveniencing anyone or being inconvenienced myself.

I see I'm in the minority on this one so perhaps I'm an ungrateful too (but I don't think I am).