to think the length of time UK friends have to wait for funeral is cruel

whats the rush jura? Been there, wasn`t cruel at all, gave us ample time to say goodbye

Cultural expectations. Short notice tends to mean some mourners can't attend, and some have to ask suddenly for favours from work or family. Some think this acceptable. When our children were small, I had to cancel a much anticipated and rare treat so my DH could cover for a colleague who had 24 hours' notice to get to Bangladesh for his dad's funeral. He was most grateful, but we would have liked more notice!
I personally have been glad of the notice we usually get, so we can organise to attend.

I think there is something to be said for waiting a couple of weeks. The hiatus gives some calm time to organise and get everything in order especially for those travelling.

I thought two weeks was too soon. I suppose I didn't want to accept the situation.

When my dad died two years ago, the soonest slot available at the nearest crematorium was about two weeks later. That was acceptable to us, but it does seem a shame that those who might want a quicker funeral can't get it.

It depends on the area GG13.

In our area cremation/burial within 5-6 days is possible.

The practicalities of people wanting to attend is more of a factor than “shortage of facilities” jura2

Has anyone had to wait long- too long in their mind- and how long? As said, if it is a choice, it is very different.

Funerals here are within 4 days , but usually on the third day . If someone has to come from a distance they have to jump on the first plane , as my son did from France for his Grandma s funeral , my Daughter couldn’t get a flight from Canada

The shortage of facilities is responsible and should be remedied. GG13, of course if it is a choice, then it is different.

I think the wait is reasonable, and then you have to work around those who would like to attend.

Too soon would have seemed too much to cope with, for me.

We decided to wait nearly four weeks before having our Mothers cremation.

Many contributing factors, but it was best for our family, and she always put family first.

Whose fault do you think this cruelty is, Jura? How would you suggest the wait could be shortened? If earlier "appointments" were available, do you think people would choose them, or take a later one ? Would those who have to travel far for a funeral be able to make arrangements in the shorter time?