60 years married

We, as a family had a surprise family meal, a barbecue for the extended family and then paid for my parents to go on holiday for their 50th but I think that my dad would have been happy just with the holiday!
Do what you want, you are not being selfish - it is your anniversary after all.
If anyone else would like to arrange a party for you, that's a different matter!

How you celebrate is upto you, your friend should respect your decision. If they want to give you a party let them pay and organise it. Go away and enjoy yourselves.

Congratulations on your 60th Anniversary. What an achievement! I think you’re entitled to do whatever makes the two of you happy. It’s about you and your husband no one else.
I think your friend should mind her own business, it has nothing at all to do with her. Have your holiday together you deserve it.
It’s our 50 th next year and we’ve having a special holiday. To be truthful I can think of nothing worse than a party.?

I can't understand why your friend thinks you are being selfish. Surely this is your celebration - you celebrate it how you want to - and congratulations.

Absolutely nothing wrong with going on holiday instead of throwing a party. DH's family aren't speaking to him atm because we didn't throw a party for his 60th birthday on Christmas Day. Why should anyone be expected to pay for a shindig that they don't want just to please other people? If they want to throw you a party (and pay for it) then fair enough but, if not, go on holiday and make new memories with you DH.

You are not being selfish. A holiday with your beloved sounds far preferable to a party.

I think it’s your friend that’s being selfish not you. I think after 60 years you deserve to make the choice how you spend it. Why not suggest that your having a holiday, and if she’d like to arrange a lunch to celebrate on your return you would be happy to attend. Congratulations

Oh have the holiday,you never know maybe the family will plan you a party for when you get back,could do it in church hall or something just for family to cut costs?Congratulations!

Enjoy your holiday. We are planning a special holiday for our big anniversary too.

Go on holiday. Spend your money on yourselves. Often people are not at all bothered about going to a ‘do’, and it’s a relief not to be invited to one!

Congratulations! You are not being selfish at all - go away and have a lovely time together & enjoy!

Your birthday, your choice! Enjoy xx

Congratulations and celebrations! If you cannot do as you want after achieving 60 years of marriage it’s a poor tale. Your ‘friend ‘ is wrong. It’s your special day, not hers, enjoy it.

Another vote for a holiday from me. We have just had three weeks in India over Christmas and New Year. Family plans were complicated so we just opted out. It was great!

How about throw a party but DON'T invite the friend who says you're selfish!

Sorry, doing this on my phone.

You are not being selfish at all. Have your holiday, it’s your anniversary. Enjoy and best wishes.

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I get these kind of remarks from my older sister all the time (about doing the 'right' (boring, traditional, predictable) thing).

She is very concerned about fitting in, social status, family duty - putting these way above her own enjoyment. It all stems from a very deep insecurity that compels her to advise and act superior.

What do I do? I just laugh and carry on with my own plans!

Congratulations

I do empathise, we had that kind of pressure for our 50th. I told my sister we would just like it to be the two of us and she said that as family had attended our wedding then they should also be there for the anniversary.
Same sibling made a fuss about my 60th birthday and DH ended up taking the entire family to a hotel for the weekend, I am not a party person.
I think you should have a holiday .

ExD1938. If you can't choose what you would wish to do to celebrate 60 years of marriage, then something is wrong! Go ahead and book your well earned holiday together and have a wonderful time. If your selfish friend wants a party, let her arrange it! Many congratulations to you both.

Your friend should butt out, its your anniversary ExD1938 celebrate however you want and enjoy yourselves.
Happy Anniversary

Lol, well she is a party animal and I have to say I'm not, I get very tired after 10pm (lightweight {) ) also we haven't had a good holiday together for years although I have been known to take myself away for a week on my own now and then.
Thank you for your encouragement.

Congratulations - and definitely go for the holiday! It's all about the two of you and it's totally your choice. Not "selfish" at all. (I think it's selfish of your friend to make such a comment: I can only guess that she wants a party because she'd enjoy it!)

Amazing 60 years married many congratulations!

Oh never mind what your friend says, do exactly what you want and enjoy every minute of it