60 years married

I think you should do as you wish and enjoy a special holiday together. If your friends want to have a party maybe they could fund it and invite you to attend.

For myself I would have the holiday, but that's because I'm not always that sociable with loads of others, even family.
You never know, someone may put on a 'surprise' party for you on your return?

Congratulations on sixty years married!

No it certainly isn’t out of order it’s a lovely thing to do, 60 years married how wonderful ExD1938. Personally I think your friend is out of order saying that, what does she mean by saying you are being selfish,if you can’t do what you want to do after 60 years when can you, congratulations to you and hope you have many many years together , you have your lovely holiday x

Congratulations. No not at all. We were married 50 years this year. There was no party or celebration. We had a weekend away by ourselves. Neither of us like being the centre of attention.

I think it’s a wonderful idea ignore the naysayers and enjoy ?

Your friend is wrong

You go and have a super holiday

Congratulations!

We would definitely go for a holiday. The thought of arranging a family party would fill me with dread

No, not selfish, go and have a lovely holiday.

If your friends and family want to throw a party for you, that's a different matter. But I don't think it's up to you to organise it.

Huge congratulations
Holiday definitely

Congratulations!

We went to Iceland for our 50th - but then did have a bbq for special friends when we got back. Not a big Do though.

If your friend thinks you should have a big family and friends do why isn’t she organising it?

The Bodach and I always went to Paris on any ‘ special’ birthdays or anniversaries, and never felt at all selfish!

Congratulations!
You should celebrate in whatever way you wish.
If anyone else is so keen for a party perhaps they would like to arrange it.

Congratulations! Here’s to many more happy years together ??

Not selfish at all - a special holiday sounds wonderful and as others have said, if your friend feels so strongly about it she can organise one for you.

No, you're not selfish. If your so-called friend wants a party she could arrange one for herself.
I've got a BIL like that. He asked if I was having a party for my last significant birthday and I said no. We've never fussed about birthdays anyway. I certainly wouldn't invite him so that he could get drunk and make a spectacle of himself. It's your celebration - spend it as you wish. Congratulations.

I agree with what others have said. If a holiday is what you want, then that's what you should do. Nothing "selfish" about it!

Congratulations on your 60 years together.

If you want a holiday, have a holiday. Your anniversary is for you.

ExD1938, congratulations.
Go ahead and have a lovely holiday.

Like the other posters, if you want a holiday have a holiday. It was our 50 th last year, we had a bit of a do though dh wanted a holiday. The do was hard work, I wish we had had the holiday.

Amazing 60 years married many congratulations!

Oh never mind what your friend says, do exactly what you want and enjoy every minute of it

Congratulations - and definitely go for the holiday! It's all about the two of you and it's totally your choice. Not "selfish" at all. (I think it's selfish of your friend to make such a comment: I can only guess that she wants a party because she'd enjoy it!)

Lol, well she is a party animal and I have to say I'm not, I get very tired after 10pm (lightweight {) ) also we haven't had a good holiday together for years although I have been known to take myself away for a week on my own now and then.
Thank you for your encouragement.

Your friend should butt out, its your anniversary ExD1938 celebrate however you want and enjoy yourselves.
Happy Anniversary

ExD1938. If you can't choose what you would wish to do to celebrate 60 years of marriage, then something is wrong! Go ahead and book your well earned holiday together and have a wonderful time. If your selfish friend wants a party, let her arrange it! Many congratulations to you both.

I do empathise, we had that kind of pressure for our 50th. I told my sister we would just like it to be the two of us and she said that as family had attended our wedding then they should also be there for the anniversary.
Same sibling made a fuss about my 60th birthday and DH ended up taking the entire family to a hotel for the weekend, I am not a party person.
I think you should have a holiday .