60 years married

Like the other posters, if you want a holiday have a holiday. It was our 50 th last year, we had a bit of a do though dh wanted a holiday. The do was hard work, I wish we had had the holiday.

ExD1938, congratulations.
Go ahead and have a lovely holiday.

If you want a holiday, have a holiday. Your anniversary is for you.

I agree with what others have said. If a holiday is what you want, then that's what you should do. Nothing "selfish" about it!

Congratulations on your 60 years together.

No, you're not selfish. If your so-called friend wants a party she could arrange one for herself.
I've got a BIL like that. He asked if I was having a party for my last significant birthday and I said no. We've never fussed about birthdays anyway. I certainly wouldn't invite him so that he could get drunk and make a spectacle of himself. It's your celebration - spend it as you wish. Congratulations.

Congratulations! Here’s to many more happy years together ??

Not selfish at all - a special holiday sounds wonderful and as others have said, if your friend feels so strongly about it she can organise one for you.

Congratulations!
You should celebrate in whatever way you wish.
If anyone else is so keen for a party perhaps they would like to arrange it.

The Bodach and I always went to Paris on any ‘ special’ birthdays or anniversaries, and never felt at all selfish!

Congratulations!

We went to Iceland for our 50th - but then did have a bbq for special friends when we got back. Not a big Do though.

If your friend thinks you should have a big family and friends do why isn’t she organising it?

Huge congratulations
Holiday definitely

No, not selfish, go and have a lovely holiday.

If your friends and family want to throw a party for you, that's a different matter. But I don't think it's up to you to organise it.

Congratulations!

We would definitely go for a holiday. The thought of arranging a family party would fill me with dread

Your friend is wrong

You go and have a super holiday

I think it’s a wonderful idea ignore the naysayers and enjoy ?

Congratulations. No not at all. We were married 50 years this year. There was no party or celebration. We had a weekend away by ourselves. Neither of us like being the centre of attention.

No it certainly isn’t out of order it’s a lovely thing to do, 60 years married how wonderful ExD1938. Personally I think your friend is out of order saying that, what does she mean by saying you are being selfish,if you can’t do what you want to do after 60 years when can you, congratulations to you and hope you have many many years together , you have your lovely holiday x

For myself I would have the holiday, but that's because I'm not always that sociable with loads of others, even family.
You never know, someone may put on a 'surprise' party for you on your return?

Congratulations on sixty years married!

I think you should do as you wish and enjoy a special holiday together. If your friends want to have a party maybe they could fund it and invite you to attend.