Not sure how to react

Boys' mothers worst..hmmm

Pardon! What on earth ...I cant believe anyone can say that as if every person who has a son is part of some amorphous mass!!! Individuals exist you know!

Thank you again, I am just going to go with the flow and enjoy dgc

Hi Kittymae and welcome if this is your first post.

So, you ask, What would you do?

Well I think I'd choose to give them space and encouragement to make their own decisions and then support them 100% in whatever they decide. I'm not saying that's easy, but you're in it for the long haul so do what you can to keep relationships positive.

Try not to worry about them being half an hour away - there are many of us on here whose families are half a world away.

Madgran77
It is USUALLY the boy’s mother who is worse than the girl’s ,apparently.
You are obviously one of the exceptions.

I am, lancslass1, I am, an exception.

“It is USUALLY the boy’s mother who is worse than the girl’s“

Who says???

Bet I don’t get a reply......

Madgran and paddyann - for clarity forget blokes. You have a baby, its mother and her mother. They probably both agree about how to look after baby, maybe. Mother of baby's father has very different ideas - so clash between mother and paternal grandmother. All in general terms, of course not universal.

*It is USUALLY the boy’s mother who is worse than the girl’s ,apparently.
You are obviously one of the exceptions know a lot of exceptions!*

I think it is a shockingly generalised statement based on presumably that Dr encountering quite a few mothers of sons having problems! But to then equate that to some sort of generalised fact when talking in a professional capacity is pretty shocking!

But hey ho, we exceptions know who we are! Anyway I'm a mother of a son and a daughter so maybe I'm a hybrid!!

Oh for goodness sake lighten up.
The Dr. in question was not talking in a professional capacity .
He probably only said it because I had sons and no daughters.
I didn’t take offence but I did take notice.
I didn’t expect anyone to get so upset about it.
Another thing he said was -go on tell me that he shouldn’t have done this either- was that a parent should never be involved in arguments between husband and wife .
I hope at least you agree with that.

A piece of advice I was given when my first grandchild was born was to learn to 'zip it' - very hard I know but try to remember how we often felt when told by our mother/mil what to do. Don't worry about seeing your grandchild once your daughter wants to return to work you'll be called on!

*Another thing he said was -go on tell me that he shouldn’t have done this either- was that a parent should never be involved in arguments between husband and wife .
I hope at least you agree with that.*

Yes I do. And it's not the same sort of statement atall, the other one remains an unwise generalisation in my view. However, despite disagreeing with him saying it, I did actually make a lighthearted comment about being a hybrid in my last post, which was intended as a joke on myself. Oh well ?

I’d buy them a nice housewarming present.
It can’t have been easy for him living with the “in-laws” fingers crossed their relationship may improve when they have their own space.
30 mins is no distance at all.

30 minutes away. My only gc is 12000 miles away !!

Do nothing say nothing but be ready to pick up any pieces.