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Namsnanny Mon 17-Feb-20 17:02:15

I'm fuming! My husband has just gone outside and cut my prized rose down!!
Even as I was begging him to stop he carried on and on and cut at least 4 more stems to the ground.
He has form, he's done things like this before so I know he did it on purpose.
Sorry my nmother was the same, so I understand this stupid game.
She had half the plants in the garden killed or dug up to upset my Father, so I guess according to the experts I only have myself to blame for picking someone similar.

I can just imagine how ridiculous I sound, getting het up like this, but dealing with this narcissistic passive aggressive behaviour is so exhausting.
Too tired too sad to know or even care what to do about it. I just wanted to vent to someone
Sigh.

Fiachna50 Mon 17-Feb-20 20:39:28

Why do women put up with this? I bet if the boot was on the other foot hed be going nuts. I could not live with someone whose sole ambition was to push my buttons. It's not healthy.

M0nica Mon 17-Feb-20 21:01:00

I am just amazed you have hung around so long.

Bellanonna Mon 17-Feb-20 21:37:23

Is there anything of his you’d like to cut Namsnanny ? ?

Anoia Mon 17-Feb-20 21:56:20

Who’s got the frozen leg of lamb, sounds like it’s Namsnanny’s turn to use it.

Chewbacca Mon 17-Feb-20 22:02:39

He sounds cruel and mean Namsnanny and I don't think that I could bear to live with the constant worry of what he was going to do next to upset and hurt me. You're a better person than me, I think; I'd either have retaliated in kind or I'd have left by now. I truly hope you find a solution. ⚘