I try and help out where l can with Money, but with 4 adult Daughters and 12 Grandchildren, and a belief that they should all be treated equally, what l can afford to give each of them equates to very little, although l never expect it to be repaid once given as a gift. My Husband does rather annoy me on this matter though, our youngest daughter and her children see him as a cash machine, they are always asking for things from him, from designer label clothes for the 13yr old, to money for household items and holidays, he’s even given them most of our weekly food shop before now! This can and does at times cause friction between the sisters, but he simply will not listen to reason. My next eldest comes to help with the housework one day a week, which is a 20mile round trip for her, she also carries out some personal care for me applying cremes and massaging my feet, so l do pay her the going hourly rate for this, which she uses towards running her car. My eldest daughter is always complaining and pleading poverty, yet she’s financially better off than me, and never visits unless to collect Birthday gifts for herself and her children. If she holds a family gathering of any kind, she calls me with a request for funding to cover the cost of the buffet food or whatever takeaways she plans to order for the event, the last bill for one of these where she invited all the neighbours and their families came to £148, which l had to pay on the night, but could Iill afford. I now refuse to attend if l know she is planning takeaways for these gatherings in the future.