Am I being childish to be hurt by this?

I think the daughter was very unreasonable to book accomadation that is completely unsuitable for the op.
Non of them should be going but don't sound like they would think of that and are determined to have their jolly

If this was your birthday treat, why on earth did they book a cottage with only upstairs bathrooms?

In their situation I would have been booking a bungalow or house with downstairs bedroom and shower room.

Much like other posters I think its unreasonable to feel hurt when you were invited but turned it down. I don't understand why your family are continuing with this holiday unless UK restrictions are not as stringent as here in France.
I'm sorry you have health problems aries63 and you are in pain I hope things improve for you soon.

THIS is the significant part
I was told I was being taken away for a long weekend to a cottage in Scotland
The OP didn't say she was 'invited to join them' on a weekend away and 70 is a significant birthday. I would have expected them to have another think and plan something just right for you. Notwithstanding recent events, I have every sympathy, I would be very hurt too aries63. I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling with so much pain

I only saw 1 grandson, I was at the hospital the day one of them wanted to visit, I said I`ll see you on Saturday anyway.He like everyone else never let on they wouldn`t be here.

I m amazed that the grandsons visited you children and teens are the carriers I don’t want to be judgemental but your daughter isn’t being very responsible or thoughtful but not in the way you mean

I don’t think you are being unreasonable to be hurt. Especially as your daughter didn’t inform you that they would be going whether you went or not!
Though I think they’re being reckless going away together when we’re all supposed to be social isolating. You’re the only wise one!
And I’m sorry to hear that you have so much pain. God bless you. x

Sorry but you are being unreasonable, they invited you and you refused.

The situation has changed so much since they booked, so you really shouldn’t be going anyway, like others I’m surprised that they are still going.
You have been visited by your family, this is also something that shouldn’t have happened given your age and health problems.
Please don’t begrudge them their time away, it might be their last for a long time.
Look after yourself and try not get bitter about it, these are extraordinary times and many GNers aren’t able to see their family at all.

Yes, you can allow yourself to feel hurt but it’s only a weekend. But holding onto that feeling will not help you and might even make you ill.

How can you be going away if we re all in lockdown I m amazed the trip is still on I looked at the date thinking this must be an old thread rejuvenated
If it was normal times I d say they planned a trip around your birthday expecting you to be part of it (that’s lovely) you decided against it (Your choice) but why shouldn’t the trip go ahead anyway it sounds to me as if the planned trip although around your birthday wasnt actually FOR your birthday so yes in answer to your question you are being a bit silly about this you ve had cards and presents aand visits and an invite of your family and grandkids .....One lucky lady
I m still intrigued to know how these visits are all happening my family are only seeing me at the garden gate and face time I thought that’s what we were mostly all doing
Have a lovely birthday You have a lot more than many

They should not be going themselves. We are supposed to be social distancing. What are they thinking!!

Just to clarify things, this was arranged for my birthday.
I do not get more than 2 hours sleep at a time , I wake up in pain and have to eat something before I can take painkillers or I will be sick. The painkillers take up to 1 hour to work so I lie on a heat pad for the pain in my jaw and neck and have a hot water bottle at my back, this is my day even while the painkillers work I am restricted in moving I use a walking stick. I also have an overactive bladder and the 2 bathrooms were upstairs and because of sacroilitis I take ages to get up the stairs.
If she had not texted the next morning and asked if I was fussed about going and that she could cancel it no problem, I would have went and struggled on. I knew I would disturb everybody because I am up and down all night and they have a dog so you can imagine what would have happened. I did not want to disturb their sleep.

Perhaps they decided to go for their own pleasure and invited you thinking it would be a lovely birthday treat too. It would have been risky being in a car with family for a long drive anyway at this time. I think you should let it go and be glad that the rest of the family want to spend time together. Enjoy your birthday however you spend it and hope you keep well

It would have been nice of your family to tell you they still intended going away and IMO they should have done so. However, as you refused the invitation I do think you are being a little childish to be hurt that they are still going.