to think that perhaps we should be more tolerant of fellow posters?

Merlotgran perfect example of a member sticking their oar in! What is it to you? Am genuinely interested, as to why you feel it is for you to suggest I go on another site? What does it matter to you personally? Seriously, what does it matter? Why do you feel you need to tell me this? Are you feeling 'Gransnet' is a 'closed' group in some way? Only certain people are worthy of it perhaps? I am trying to work it all out.

Smileless occasionally and I didn't see it today.

What a shame I missed it, a great word, loved by some but disliked by other Gransnetters!!

I have a theory, lemongrove

Rufus2 is our Antipodean member
Rufus is Rufus Sewell, mentioned so many times on various threads that he must be an honorary member of GN.

Well that’s us “tellt “ as they say N of the Border ValerieF
Might I respectfully suggest you perhaps reserve judgement when you have had experience of a wider range of threads?
Yes, fuses are a bit short in some areas - hardly surprising under the present circumstances, when many are confined to barracks, isolated and deprived of company if they live alone and bearing the worry of AC or DGC under threat from Covid 19 or even suffering.
To paraphrase veni, vidi, vici,
You came, you saw, you judged
Dont expect those whom have criticised to roll over and ask for more though.

I am confused by so much angst today. We alll have personal view points which a forum like this allows us to express. You may choose to disagree, ignore a post, support a post or grow from the dialog. Attacking a poster stops the flow of ideas. This isolation has everyone on edge.

What does it matter to you personally?

Personally, I couldn't give a damn.

Do what you like.

We do seem to have a lot of new members lately perhaps because people are isolating at home.

Valerie
All are welcome and there is a 'welcome thread' too.

However, as in real life, people do have often very diverse views on many subjects and are entitled to express them, within the rules.

As with any new club or organisation, it is usually a good idea to listen, (read), get to know other people and to dip toes in cautiously at first and not get fingers burnt



Possiblyoo many clichés above

What MawB? who have I criticised? Just said what I have observed? Who am I expecting to roll over? What rubbish you are speaking. I was responding to someone who said she thought I should be on another site? What are you going on about??? Confined to barracks, isolated, deprived of company? What has that got to do with anything? Isn't EVERYONE in same situation?

'Ere we go, 'ere we go, 'ere we go.

May I have my head back please?
My goodness you do ask a lot of questions and such indignation too.
Not sure you actually want answers to them as they come across as a one-sided rant. So I’ll leave you to it

Merlot I’ll join you behind the sofa if I may?
Steel knickers on!

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Did someone say Rufus Sewell? :swoon:

Well obviously MawB you can't answer me so now you think ridiculing me is the way forward.

OK will rise above it. I still stand with what I said originally and there ARE a lot of nasty responses (original post) which I hope will now stop now. "If you can't say something nice, say nothing at all" Perfect advice four or more

Ridiculing?
No you have brought that on yourself.
And I have answered your question - we may all be in the same boat but some people have higher mountains to climb than others.
It beggars belief that you seem incapable of taking your own advice.

Me!

I'm sure Rufus is a lurker

OMG WHAT did I bring on myself? Look back. Have you just got it in for me no matter what I say? I am obviously not welcome on here according to the gospel of MAWB eh? So wouldn't really matter what I say. We ARE in same situation in one way or another! Fact! Because I am still working doesn't make it any easier for me I can assure you! I am still out there looking after people and wondering IF I will be next!

‘If you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all’ is about the most Victorian ,boring ,mealy mouthed cliche in the world.
There are times for something nice and times for something a little more robust, or just interesting.

Is there a Rufus in the house? Step forward and say something.?

Calm down, dear.
You have clearly had a bad day, why not have a and chill.

I am Rufus!

lemongrove
Rufus has just popped out to get me some essential shopping but I speak on his behalf with some sage advice:

Valerie when you join somewhere new it is not the best idea to jump in with both feet and start criticising everyone then, if they reply in defence, castigating them and generally making unpleasant retorts to them.

The other most overused cliché is 'Damned if they do, damned if they don't.'

Usually on arguments about the royal family.

Oh, I see Rufus is back in the room.

Did you manage to get my gin, dear?

Tomorrow is another day Callistemon

Has Rufus S got a penchant for grannies, Callinstemon?

He doesn’t give a damn about gin!

MawB, maybe has already been partaken!