I work at home anyway so apart from only having one child and no school runs at the moment, that's not changed.
My husband used to assume because I was at home, stuff would get done. No.
So I would leave what he would notice: eg he can see when the dishwasher needs emptying, so I'd leave that, but he can't see dust apparently...
He gets hungry so he will cook. I used to get the ingredients out and leave them on the worktop, eg for a bolognese, but nowadays he's already there with Mary Berry or Jamie Oliver to hand ?
He's also realised that when I
strip the beds he remakes them.
Now he's on furlough for god knows how long.
So I ask him what his plans are for the day, the implication being that he has some. Or needs some.
So far he's weeded and swept the block paving, which took several days (my idea), and is now working his way through piles of paperwork and shredding what we don't want (his idea).
Being specific without getting ratty is the key ? ?