Neighbour has Grandson with her on Easter Sunday .

Hello Franbern; Please let me point out I was not "curtain twitching" and have no reason to want to. I was sitting on computer which is placed near my large window where I do not use net curtain as I like the light that it throws in. I am not judgemental and do not think I wear a nice shiny halo. I had the large window open due to lovely weather when I heard the sound of laughing and talking outside. I was able to glance out and there was my neighbour stood holding the two and half year old grand-child and kissing it over the face.
Now I am sorry to upset you but I thought that was appalling not just for my neighbour bur for the child in fact I will go further and say down right disgusting and I almost swore at her to see that behaviour.

I can empathize with your friends wanting to see their son particularly as he is at the end of life care for cancer and it must be distressing for them that is a lot to take on board and driving to see him was a chance they took.

In regard of my neighbours I know there is no terminal illness in the house and even she has a job. The sons that go in and out also have jobs so nobody is at end of life care. I only pointed out that all of us have to support and keep the rules we have been told and if we all just keep seeing family and carrying on as normal then there is no point to lockdown.

I know ALL about my neighbours life, because she calls in every time she goes past,to update me. (About ten times a day, on average.
It's been quite a relief to distance, not least because she is still going out and about as usual.

We miss our grandkids a lot too, particularly the one we cared for since he was 18 months old. He is now nine. I live in the U.S. and people are not in lockdown, at least not by law, but are self isolating for the most part. Still, we thought it wise not to have contact with my son's family. It is hard on the boy to not see us anymore, or once from 6ft away when we dropped things off. So, we did make the decision he could come to our back yard and play while keeping distance. I had made mouth masks for him, my husband, live in daughter and myself, and while wearing those we gave him a hug. It did us and him a world of good!

So something like that can be considered by those who want some connection. But, do keep the distance, and wear a mask for the welcome or goodbye hug!

I am 63, my husband 65 and here in Colorado things are still reasonably good. But, yes....contact should be kept to a minimum.

We can abide by the rules without getting obsessive about it surely? My daughter and family came Easter Sunday and we had a lovely time - in the garden BUT we kept the social distances. If ANY of my neighbours had 'reported' us simply because they were jealous I would be mortified. Give people credit for some things eh?

No - because you know the rules, the Govt has been pumping this information out for weeks now. You should not be mixing households, end of. It’s how the virus spreads and it’s not hard to understand at all.

I think my neighbour has decided that incense is the answer. She keeps setting the fire alarm off and my flat occasionally fills with the smell of incense.
She was a bit sheepish about it the first time but it was quite funny because it is a bit silent and tense here usually. 99% of the people on my estate seem to be following the rules and the few people I have seen in the street had face masks on. There is a woman opposite whose family visit but she is the only one so far as I know.

Yes, we can abide by the rules.
It's a shame some choose not to, considering the potential consequences.

I'm afraid I'm one of the guilty ones - MIL (86) is the only driver in the family - she takes DS and me shopping weekly, waits in the car and I do our family shop while DS does hers. Then she takes us home and goes home herself as soon as we've unpacked our purchases. But our sin is that she visits us each Saturday; one week she cooks, one week we do and we make sure that we sort out her techy bits and pieces - on Saturday I dealt with some urgent government paperwork for her, including some photocopying, as she can't cope with it herself.

Valerie you were breaking the rules - it’s not obsessive to say so. What makes you so special that you are free to potentially spread the virus?

Are you joking Sky or just unutterably selfish and stupid?

Surely the posts from Sky, Valerie and Fun are wind ups? They must be - there can’t be that many stupid and selfish people on here in less than 40 minutes?

And when people become sick with the virus because they flouted the advice to stay at home, someone somewhere has to put their lives on the line to nurse them. Fact.

I haven't been "curtain twitching" either Franburn. My partner and I were sitting in the dining room, window open, eating when my neighbour's ex returned with the 4 girls in the car. The girls next door came back bubbly after their trip out and there were lots of goodbyes to the other two girls and their father. That's how I know what they all did.
ValerieF jealousy is a very negative emotion. An act carried out due to jealousy is never one thought out. I am not jealous of either my neighbour's (and the other family of neighbours) nor her ex's behaviour, sad they do not seem to recognize the potential risk their actions are exposing their children, themselves and others to - yes. I'd feel the same if I knew her ex was drink driving.

You could be right there SirChenjin.

If they are windups, that’s a rotten thing to do and if they are true it’s a rotten thing to do - in other words , rotten posts

Exactly!

It’s an awful things to do, but shouldn’t we be calling 101 in these cases? The general consensus says this behaviour will probably spread the virus and, as we are the ones who will be hit badly, we should try to prevent this. The police ARE interested in this sort of tentatively dangerous activity, after all they don’t want the bug any more than the rest of us.

suziewoozie* How am I breaking the rules? Distancing more than ten feet (not the 6 feet advised?)

I’m spitting feathers after reading those two confessions! Unbelievable !

I had a veritable rant when two of my children reported that they had neighbours having family parties! I was shocked and it made me so angry. None of them lived alone - they were all family groups visiting family groups. I on the other hand live alone, out of town, and won't see another soul for a week when I get a delivery. I do this willingly because doing anything that would spread the virus is just criminal, selfish ignorance. End of second rant!

So mad, I can’t count. There are 3 telling everyone how they are twisting and ignoring the rules

I feel very sorry for any family suffering from devastating consequences of terminal cancer. I think under those circumstances I too would risk breaking the rules on social distancing.
We all know many people dying of other causes are not being reported on a daily basis to the general public. However cancer and cardiac arrests and many other life limiting conditions are not contagious and they do not put other people’s lives at risk.
Socialising for the sake of it is not acceptable!

Val different households are not supposed to meet up even if they practice social distancing. Your dd could call round with necessary supplies ( and leave them outside) or her and the dgc could wave as they went past your house whilst on a walk.Thats it.

I wrote about a family gathering in the communal garden where I live and again the same residents had family in their flat this time 2 young boys I feel afraid to leave my flat to even go down to garden They must have touched handles lift buttons etc I am not at all pleased Why have we got Management Rules ?