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Neighbour has Grandson with her on Easter Sunday .

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3nanny6 Sun 12-Apr-20 13:11:30

Am I an unreasonable neighbour to feel I am in the wrong for not wanting my daughter and children at my home on Easter day. (My daughter would not bring her children at the moment anyway)
The reason I ask is because my next door neighbour is outside talking to another neighbour whilst at the same time kissing and holding her two and a half year old grandson. The neighbours son (father of the child) does not even live next door so he has brought the child to see his grand-mother. I admit to feeling envious as yesterday when I took
my GC some Easter eggs I had to be thankful for a wave from the window. The neighbours GC is one week younger than my GC and when they were going to be born we would speculate which mother would give birth first.
They have gone in her house now and the childs mother has arrived as well so looks like they are all going to have lunch together. I know it is unreasonable to feel envious but I do.

Tangerine Sun 12-Apr-20 13:13:38

From what you've said, they are very much in the wrong. Let the fact that you're in the right comfort you.

They are a menace to society.

suziewoozie Sun 12-Apr-20 13:17:46

It’s not unreasonable to feel envious. I’m sure most of us are wishing we could hug our dgc. Your neighbour and her family are behaving appallingly - it’s a clear breach. Luckily most of us know how to be decent citizens.

Elegran Sun 12-Apr-20 13:19:15

What is the betting that infection figures are up in a week's time, and hospital admissions of older people a week or so later?

Harris27 Sun 12-Apr-20 13:21:45

Some people don’t honk this lockdown applies to them and that is why it’ll go on longer. Infuriating but nothing anyone can do about it expect doing the right thing is the right thing for us!if you know what I’m meaning!

Eglantine21 Sun 12-Apr-20 13:22:54

Yes, I’m afraid that will be so.

Of course you feel envious, but real love for your family is doing what’s best for them, not what you want.

Comfort yourself with the love your family show for you and you for them💐

vampirequeen Sun 12-Apr-20 13:24:41

People can be idiots. A family visited further up my street yesterday with a new born baby!

NotSpaghetti Sun 12-Apr-20 13:25:38

My husband did some shopping for his elderly mother yesterday and has “saved” it to deliver today to give her a wave through the window. I would NOT want to put my family (or me and my husband) at risk for the sake of a cuddle now. They are too important to me.

tickingbird Sun 12-Apr-20 13:26:53

I’d love to see my gc, especially the three that lost their mum. The little one can’t understand why he can’t come in or why I don’t go to their house anymore. We did have a facetime call this morning but he’s not himself. I’m more worried for him than upset for myself.

Greymar Sun 12-Apr-20 13:27:47

I'm sorry but that is appalling behaviour.

Greymar Sun 12-Apr-20 13:28:27

( the neighbours) not people facetiming obviously!

Greymar Sun 12-Apr-20 13:29:09

tickingbird, depending on the age of the little one, could you send small gifts and notes and cards?

3nanny6 Sun 12-Apr-20 13:39:20

Thank-you for all replies, and as Elegran says what's the betting that infection figures are up in a weeks time and the admission of older people admitted to hospital will also go up.

The neighbours other son goes in and out of her house as well
this is all with her consent. When I told my daughter she said
"I bet one of them will catch this virus and then they will be wondering why"

Buffybee Sun 12-Apr-20 13:58:19

Yesterday while sitting in the garden, I heard next doors Son, his wife and baby arrive and they stayed all afternoon sat in the garden.
I know for a fact my next door neighbour, walks across the road to his brother's house.
If this is happening in my close vicinity, it must be happening all over. Disgraceful...

May7 Sun 12-Apr-20 14:13:45

This is not news to me its happening in my road many times . Everyone here apart from 1 young family is retired. The young family have stayed in or played on the front lawn but some of the others are having grandchildren running up and down or going into their houses .I'm sick to my stomach today at the selfishness of what seems to me to be NOT the minority but the majority. I dont know if this is reflective of the rest of the country but are people just not watching the news anymore. The death rate from the last few days is terrifying. All my immediate family are staying in and we facetime, whatsapp and telephone. Its upsetting but not impossible to do with today's technology. I go out alone once every 10 days to shop for us and my parents then its back home for me. It's just soooooo peoply out there for now. My friend rang to tell me that Our local shopping centre was rammed with cars this morning. She overlooks it. Go figure 😖

grannysyb Sun 12-Apr-20 14:20:53

Bought some chocolate bunnies and a box of chocolates for DD and family and sent them a picture. They can get them later on . Had a nice video call from DD and the DGDs, but not from DGS as he was still in bed at 12.30!

vegansrock Sun 12-Apr-20 14:35:43

I saw my youngest GC this morning with parents on their walk who posted a handmade card through our door and we waved from the window. The toddler was waving and smiling like mad at us and then got a bit upset as he wanted to get out of the buggy and come into the house. I had a bit of a cry when they'd gone. People like the OPs neighbour really p*ss me off when I think about it.

lemongrove Sun 12-Apr-20 14:39:17

Well, if they get the virus by all the mingling with family members, then am guessing you won’t feel so envious then.
You are doing the right thing, they aren’t.

EllanVannin Sun 12-Apr-20 14:41:58

We'll never get rid of this virus !

EllanVannin Sun 12-Apr-20 14:45:55

I'd rather battle through the heartache than battle with the virus.

Hetty58 Sun 12-Apr-20 14:58:04

3nanny6, don't feel envious - feel either (a) sorry for her - or (b) angry.

(a) Her son doesn't love her enough to make protecting her from harm his top priority.

(b) Ignorant, stupid rule breakers are responsible for spreading this deadly virus, putting others' lives at risk.

Callistemon Sun 12-Apr-20 15:03:21

We've had virtual hugs on WhatsApp* this morning.
But I have heard of other, seemingly sensible, intelligent people who were going to a friend's for a bbq, assuring a mutual friend that they would be keeping their distance. She was horrified too.

No, we'll never get rid of it if people continue to behave as if they are justified.

Hetty58 Sun 12-Apr-20 15:49:32

Isn't it astonishing how many people think that the rules don't apply to them!

Daddima Sun 12-Apr-20 15:56:38

I have said from the beginning that people won’t take this seriously until folk in their street, village, or town take ill, or even die, and the way the numbers are going that’ll be very soon.
You know you’re doing the right thing.

3nanny6 Sun 12-Apr-20 16:04:41

Lemongrove; this virus will be with us for a long time and I for one am waiting on the up-date about the lockdown next week.

One thing you have got right for me if neighbours keep mingling from the different family households then not only are they part of the spreading of the virus but they could easily infect each other. I watch and wait the outcome for them and certainly I would not be envious that I missed the chance to hold my grandson on Easter Sunday and followed all rules laid out to us.