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Love and life in lock down without booz?

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merlotgran Tue 14-Apr-20 14:48:20

Life in Lockdown without wine?

Doesn't bear thinking about grin

Seriously though, it's your life - yours to take care of. This could be a good time to cut down but if you don't want to and it's not affecting you in any way then he is being hypocritical wanting you to do something he isn't!

If your four glasses is spread over a few hours and you are eating normally and drinking plenty of water then just tell him to change his attitude because you are not his former partner and you don't want to live under that kind of control.

Just make sure you stick to what you are used to and don't give him cause criticise you further.

Kalu Tue 14-Apr-20 14:48:06

A bottle of wine per night is an unhealthy limit. Sorry this is possibly not what you want to hear but I’m being honest with you.

If it is causing problems in your relationship and as you say, you can’t live without a glass of something. It’s time to address your lifestyle.

Jane10 Tue 14-Apr-20 14:43:26

Look on this as a good time to cut down on your alcohol consumption? its a Win win situation. You'll come out of the lockdown healthier and with a better relationship.

wildswan16 Tue 14-Apr-20 14:40:42

Not sure what you expect people to say. You drink too much. He is probably drinking too much as well. Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.

Have a close-up hard look at yourself and decide how you want your life to proceed. For me, anyone who moves in with a "boyfriend" after a few weeks is clearly not thinking right.

Luckygirl Tue 14-Apr-20 14:34:25

Hmmm - I too think it is far too much to be drinking. Maybe he is right and his comments could help you to get this under control.

As someone who cannot drink alcohol, I really do have to assure you that life without it can be just fine.

MiniMoon Tue 14-Apr-20 14:28:28

Guidelines for drinking wine - fourteen units per week. Considering that an average glass of wine equals about 2 units, that gives you one glass of wine per day.
A bottle of wine per night is far too much!
You say you can't imagine life without a drink of something, perhaps you should give it a try.

Sussexborn Tue 14-Apr-20 14:27:50

Sounds as if it’s not working for him any more and he’s nitpicking rather than being man enough to just tell you outright.

Undermining you is a form of abuse and a valid reason for moving out presuming you have somewhere to go.

Quick fire relationships sometimes work out but often it’s the niggly little things that cause eruption and you only get to know what these are over time.. I don’t think reasoning is going to get you anywhere unfortunately.

SueDonim Tue 14-Apr-20 14:14:31

A bottle a day? shock I’d never been sober if I drank that much and it won’t do your body much good in fighting off CV, should you catch it.

Why don’t you just go home if you’re not getting on well with your partner? Moving house is permitted, if necessary, as I understand it and it could be argued that you need to get out of a bad relationship.

FlexibleFriend Tue 14-Apr-20 14:11:24

You drink to excess no matter what you think.

Smileless2012 Tue 14-Apr-20 14:07:44

Oh dear; maybe hangups from previous relationships should have been aired before you moved in. Maybe going home is something to think about.

Manmar2 Tue 14-Apr-20 14:04:13

of not off!

Manmar2 Tue 14-Apr-20 14:03:21

You are in denial if you think a bottle off wine a day isn’t too much. You don’t get drunk because your body is used to it.

Urmstongran Tue 14-Apr-20 13:56:27

Is it to far to go home? Otherwise this lockdown might become fractious.

dortie145 Tue 14-Apr-20 13:53:40

I am in lock down with a man I had known for 6 weeks. Crazy 8 know! All has been idyllic truly magical and despite my reservations we are getting on so well I moved into his house and domestically all well But we have fallen out because he says I drink too much! Despite the fact he has enough beer in to stock a small shop and 5pm is beer and snack time I apparently consume too much wine 4 glasses to his 4 beers Yes it is a bottle but I have do e it for years and I don't get drunk! But he has gone cold and apparently this is the issue as in his last relationship she drank on an alcoholic scale I can't imagine life without a glass of something I am perfect apparently in all other respects But I don't want to be blinking perfect just me