To not do unecessary errands just because Im not shielding?

No not unreasonable at all. They are being very unreasonable expecting you to take on any level of risk for a letter or a parcel. I would absolutely not expect anyone to send me anything right now and I won't be sending a thing, we are working. When people show you who they are, believe them.

I am sure you are doing a good job Notanan. There have been people who have upset one of my grandchildren and as you say you can do without these people.
We all have enough to cope with without selfish people thinking they are the priority.

I have been in communication with friends and family a lot over the last three weeks. I have not received a single letter.

notanan your relatives are being utterly ridiculous

My DH is on 'the list' so we are both staying in obviously, we do not want or expect anyone to run around after us, perish the thought

for you and your girls

Least said, soonest mended I suppose. Don’t bite back.
Be nice (even though fuming).

"me Me ME!"

There is a bit of CV19 Top trumps going on for sure Rosecaramel

There is no one unaffected.

AGA
I also feel bad because the girls had to read it. They dont appear to care but you cant always tell with teens.

Both letters came together. I had assumed they were both friendly so gave them theirs while I read mine

I just dont need this. Am trying to keep the households spirits up.

You are right Notanan. CV19 can affect anyone not just the shielded ones.
To put others at risk to bring essential food is bad enough but to ask them to risk their health/lives for non-essentials is extremely unreasonable.
And I have teenage grandchildren so I understand that their lives are not easy at present so extra problems unwelcome to say the least!

I've had the girls acting like performing seals on SM sending everyone messages and thank yous etc

They are self conscious teens but have done it because we thought it was important at the moment...

I know in my head that most people will have appreciated its just one selfish person but the wind is out of my sails now.

Eglantine exactly that.

We have had a LOT of post from various shilding people (and barely any from anyone else) who have had others do it for them. So clearly a lot of people who are shielding think all non shielding people are business as usual!

Up until now we have just graciously thanked them all digitally/by phone

I know its only ONE of them who has been nasty but it has really deflated me.

We have I think been understanding about how hard it must be to be shielding and have made extra calls etc but where is the understanding for those of us who HAVE to go out for oursrlves? Thats a trauma too!

notanan people as daft as your relatives do not deserve a reply. Why not complain and say you only accept letters if they are sent by pigeon post because of concerns about how many people with the virus might handle a letter in transit through the post?

A communication is a communication is a communication, whether emailed, texted, done over the phone, sent by pigeon, or carried by a runner running the whole way, or written by hand or typed and posted.

Hard to believe that people in the shielded group think that others can just run around as normal.

They have a bunch of good samaritans running around getting them whatever they want (not just what they need) and they have had those people post us packages so dont see why we dont want run around the place themselves.

Personally I am helping neighbours with essentials but would not agree to go gift shopping/posting for them. Some people are clearly willing to go buy nic nacks for them but that doesnt equate with all non shielding people being safe or willing to do the same.

I think I would be less angry if they hadnt written to the girls about it.
Teens are going through a lot at the moment too. They arent shielding, but have their own CV19 crosses to bear!

Nobody gets to have a monopoly on CV19 just because of their category

I know how you feel.

I had a text today from an elderly friend to tell me a parcel is on its way. She got some one to buy the treat and somebody else to go and post it and, of course, the post will have to handle and deliver it.

And she’ll want a Thank you note.

My head is in my hands.....l.l

Pish! .. Send her a slice of Minny Jackson pie .. HAahahaha

They are able. We phone. They just don't count that.

Also they wrote directly to my teen DDs as well as myself.

They want care packages. Not food and medicine, we made sure that essentials are organised for them. They want extras/treats to cheer them up because theyre shielding. Thats not just dropping a letter in an outdoor letter box, that sort of thing involves queueing!
And because they have sent other people out to do that sort of thing to send us treats, they dont get that its still a risky thing for non shielding people to do!

Thing is we're not even treating ourselves at the moment. We just want shopping to be over as quick as possible.

E.g. easter: girls got whatever easter eggs we could grab on our usual shop: no special requests or shopping around for X brand of chocolate.

Just because we CAN go out does not mean we are doing or buying whatever we would normally fancy!

Im sounding miserly now but Im not we still celebrate, we just dont shop around or make extra trips to do so IYKWIM.

Hard to believe that people in the shielded group think that others can just run around as normal.
I don't think we should be posting unessential items. Chatty letters and cards can be done without.
Apart from someone having to go out, buy a card and then go to the post box what about the postmen? They have to continue working and handling mail, putting them at risk.

I am happy with phone calls and texts as this risks nobody.

Notanana. You are not being unreasonable!

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No, you are no being unreasonable. Your relative needs putting straight!

Like I said to my son the other day, to me it appears to be business as usual regarding technology usage and attitude- But more so- Like ramped up on crack or meth-

me Me ME!

I think your relatives are in the wrong and should not have sent the nasty letter.

I go out to the supermarket and shop for other people and, while there, I do post ordinary letters.

It's up to you. I don't see what's wrong with communicating on the phone or electronically but I imagine there are plenty of people who just are not able to do this for one reason or another.