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Noisy Neighbours

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caramel Tue 12-May-20 09:43:58

AIBU on the lovely bank holiday afternoon sitting in the garden with my locked in family. The neighbours decided to mow and strim their lawn even though they could hear we were in the garden. I was very upset and feel that they should not have been doing this on a special afternoon when the sun was shining. Arn't we allowed any time any more when we can relax and enjoy our gardens without constant noise.

Oopsminty Tue 12-May-20 16:43:07

Mowing the lawn,can't see a problem with that, unless it's very early in the morning

We had a charming gent next door to us.

Once a week, during summertime, he'd have his mower going at 6am

Not ideal!

We didn't complain though because he was such a sweet gentleman and I didn't want to upset him.

Merryweather Tue 12-May-20 16:45:28

I’ll swap you my neighbours drug addicts who shout and argue - take no notice of their children and smoke weed in the garden. The other side has people over all the time partying the night away.
I’ve a newborn and two older children who play quietly and only after the set school work and the extra I set them. Any time they are in the garden I am or my partner is to ensure the volume is kept to a minimum. Children need to play out in the fresh air and if I didn’t mow my lawn it would be something to complain about.

Yangste1007 Tue 12-May-20 16:49:37

We live in a small close of 6 houses. It is rather comforting to hear other people mowing their lawn or the children playing and laughing. What does irritate me is why people feel the need to light up their houses like Christmas trees! The people who back on to us have installed lighting down both sides of their garden and also have a spotlight that comes on when there is movement i.e. wind. The neighbours opposite (who are lovely) have got 6 outside lights on the outside of their house and something that resembles the second sun in their porch! Wind chimes annoy me too. I don't want to hear other peoples wind chimes I'm afraid.

Alittlemadam Tue 12-May-20 17:04:58

Whilst it can be annoying while you are relaxing in the garden there is nothing you can do about it. I cut my lawns on BH Friday mainly because after being a front line worker and doing a succession of 16 days in a row it was the only time I had to do it. Think your being a little petty on this one

phoenix Tue 12-May-20 17:34:01

Yes, YABU.

HTH

caramel Tue 12-May-20 17:40:41

Thank you all for your comments and was so sorry to hear what some of you have to put up with. I usually work Fridays but was on holiday for the bank holiday. To me it is a special day. We knew we were getting a nice Saturday and Sunday to follow I thought they would have done it then seeing as though we cannot go anywhere.

SYLVIAPATTEN Tue 12-May-20 17:59:12

Our neighbours are lovely but they seem to talk so loudly in the garden . Also the children scream often never checked. I remember our neighbours saying we didn’t know children lived next door! But the days of respect have gone it seems!

Jodieb Tue 12-May-20 18:06:21

My neighbours have a new organ in their cabin and they practice on loud volume! Why not use earphones?! They keep playing the same notes too. All the neighbours round about are mostly quiet apart from these. He's nice but has a loud voice, the teenager is always playing music, oh, and they have hunting dog with a loud bark, which they sometimes encourage. No thought for anyone else.

Weeno59 Tue 12-May-20 18:52:08

We would gladly swap your neighbours for ours. I called 999 on Sunday evening because he was firing his crossbow at a target in ‘his’ garden towards the street. The police did attend and spoke to him from the front garden - he was upstairs with his friend who comes round every day (never mind lockdown). He denied having a bow but admitted to having a spear. The police said this was allowed so long as it didn’t go onto anyone else’s land. He said that wouldn’t happen and the police thanked him for his time! This morning at about 5am we heard him shouting and screaming and the sound of furniture crashing - not unusual. This evening at 5pm he was firing off the bow again.

SalsaQueen Tue 12-May-20 19:01:03

Yes, you ARE being unreasonable. You're lucky that's the only noise your neighbours make. Things could be so much worse, and you're not special...........

lincolnimp Tue 12-May-20 19:03:28

The one thing that constitutes noisy neighbours while we are enjoying our garden is thumping music---can't get away from it, and difficult to tell exactly which part of which terraced house it is coming from

GabriellaG54 Tue 12-May-20 19:39:37

Unfortunately, that is another DIY category which can get on your wick.
There are designated times for the use of appliances such as are used by your local highways services or building sites and next-door neighbours doing DIY and playing music.
Your complaint won't be met with much sympathy I'm afraid as individuals are allowed to use strimmers and the like at reasonable times.
The only exception is bonfires.

GabriellaG54 Tue 12-May-20 19:41:44

The above was to the OP.

GabriellaG54 Tue 12-May-20 19:45:17

Any empty flats there Felice ?

Torbroud Tue 12-May-20 19:55:59

Count your blessings, that's all they do

grannypiper Tue 12-May-20 20:52:08

I do wish we could have Ruhezeit (quiet hours) that Germany have. At least then you knew you could sit in your garden in peace for 2 hours every afternoon.

biddycatt Tue 12-May-20 21:26:59

l had a neighbour who cut the lawn, five minuits cutting then five minuits resting, it took all afternoon and happened every sunny day all summer, l think it may have been for exercise but drove me out of my garden. lt can be very annoying when it goes on too long, apparently he hated to see the daisies popping up

Stewpot47 Tue 12-May-20 21:40:49

Seriously @caramel! I can only say that I’m glad I don’t live next door to you as you are obviously unreasonable. Gardening and mowing the lawns is a perfectly normal thing to do on a nice sunny afternoon. Now if it had been at 8am I too would be a bit peeved, or loud music or kids screeching around, but come on be reasonable!

NotAGran55 Tue 12-May-20 21:51:54

I dare say there is more than just mowing on a Bank Holiday going on here . A back-story of some sort.
If you are retired you can sit out every day of the week .

Missiseff Tue 12-May-20 22:15:27

Eh?? How on earth can you complain about someone cutting their own grass in their own garden?? When do you do yours? When the whole street are out? I bet you do it early morning when your neighbours are having a lie-in. Or have you got artificial grass? Unbelievable. Yes. You are being unreasonable! I'm glad you're not my neighbour!

Ellie Anne Tue 12-May-20 22:28:04

What difference does it make if they cut it on Friday Saturday or Sunday? The noise would be the same whatever day. When I read what some people have to cope with it’s really sad. Then there are people who don’t even have a garden. I think you are being unreasonable.

kevincharley Tue 12-May-20 22:36:37

The only way you can guarantee peace and quiet when you want it is to live somewhere very remote.
Not many of us can afford our own island and we have to live and let live.

nannyof4 Tue 12-May-20 22:57:31

I cant see what the problem is,its nice to hear people in there gardens chatting and mowing the lawn etc.Rather that than a barking dog.

Eloethan Wed 13-May-20 01:21:16

It is a bit irritating when you get ready to collapse into a chair in the garden and enjoy the sun - and then the power drills, hedge trimmers, lawn mowers, etc, etc, start up. But, to be fair, when the weather is nice, it is natural that people will start sorting their gardens out.

I try and remind myself that there have probably been lovely sunny days when we have mown the lawn or the children have played a noisy game outside. Can you honestly say that doesn't apply to you too? Try not to see the noise as a deliberate act of unkindness by your neighbours (which I'm sure it isn't ) because then you will feel stressed and angry and it will become much more of an irritant.

Alioop Wed 13-May-20 07:51:18

My neighbour had 'word' with me about noise cos I was putting a new fence up cos he was sitting in his conservatory. You have to get jobs in your home done through the day, I wasn't doing it at midnight! I have been checking on this man every day since lockdown, got him a food hamper delivered and this is what I get back.