I was going to say same Sarahh1968. Grief is often combined with guilt.
Ok OP says she took her father in despite knowing his past history. Maybe the brother didn't see it same way? Who knows?
As for implying something strange about his death. That would be upsetting. What exactly did he say or is it just how you interpreted it? I think if you refuse to speak to him you will never have the opportunity to iron it out.
As for Facebook - well I don't know anyone who would go on and report a death negatively, nor would anyone offer anything other than sympathy. It means zilch anyway. Ignore that.
What matters now is how your relationship with your brothers moves from now on. If you value them, put the past to rest.
Good Morning Good Friday 29th March 2024
Shall we reboot our cartoons thread again? 😁