AIBU to expect DH to have common sense?

Chardy, I do not recognise the picture you paint of men only propping up the bar in a pub discussing what their wives and partners do not carry out for them.

That habit and behaviour went out with Benny Hill type humour in the 1970s although many women on this forum seem to cling to those outdated habits as an excuse for their outdated views and actions in life.

When entering a pub in these times I find it is both men and women propping up the bar all to often in joint discussion on many topics.

Anyway, I have work to get on with so I will leave this thread to the ladies of the forum until later in the day. ?

How did this amusing thread turn into a let’s pick on one poster bunfight? As I said earlier on, we ALL have foibles which irritate our other halves because none of us are perfect!

Grandad1943 merely gave an example of one in his marriage and if anyone didn’t find it interesting all they had to do was ‘read and run’! Why the need to belittle someone?

Grandad1943 You are doing something called "sea-lioning". It's a close relation to "whataboutery". Always fun to see these things in action!

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Quizzer, as the OP this thread started out (like so many on this forum) with you whining in regard to the stupidity of your husband. In that, I responded ( if you care to look) by advising that all these very unintelligent men were lucky to live with women who must be perfect in every aspect of their lives.

Since that post, I have responded politely to every post and request made on me in regard to the topic, but it would seem that some female forum members are not content with that.

Could it be that those women hold guilt for so often talking very disparagingly about their husbands and partners behind their backs on an open forum?

As for myself being on this forum, I have been here for more than two years. The Equality Act states I have a right to be here, and I very much intend to remain on here.

My intention to remain is due to so many like yourself Quizzer openly opposing men being on this forum.

Equality works both ways.?

Clearly Grandad you've not worked in a pub. Pairs of men propping up the bar discussing in public how awful it is not to have this or that done for you. Or maybe it's only in front of the barmaids they do it.

Sadly there are still many men who like things done their way, regardless. I taught in a school that served a naval estate, and my own children went there. There were times when you could tell if a kid's dad was home on leave.

I'm glad for Mrs Grandad that you're not like that. It's a misogynist hangover from 'head of the household' days.

No Grandad1943,i think if you watch the comedians on channel 4 and comedy stand-ups,you will find that some of them have not moved on& often tell "the wife"& "the mother-in-law" jokes!

To be fair, this is supposed to be a forum for grandparents, not just grandmothers. Over the years, grandads have dropped in and mostly dropped out again. The fact is that the majority of concerns raised are those that relate to the lives and relationships of women. I wonder how the founders of Gransnet expected it to evolve - it would be interesting to know.

It's nice to hear that Grandad1943 no longer 'speaks of the failings of others behind their backs on a public forum', as I seem to recall he made some rather unfair judgements on me back in March. Good that we can all improve! {smile]

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What starts out as a “tongue in cheek” fun post, then turns into a serious nit picking battle of the sexes ..... lighten up ! We all have faults and we all have to learn to laugh at them .....not to start scoring points ..... Men and women are wired differently, “vive la difference” !

Grandad. I suggest you leave Gransnet and start up Grandadsnet and leave us little women to complain all we like about whatever we want if you're going to be so touchy.

Welbeck I'm not in the habit of correcting people. And I apologise. But I thought you might like to know the lyrics are They paved paradise...?

Callistemon in the above I feel that for someone of such perception and accuracy in their posts you are unusually on this occasion somewhat erroneous.

However, I will concede in this event that my earlier post should have been written as "my equal half and I". ???

You missed a trick, there Grandad
Surely you meant to say "my better half", especially if you read this thread to her.

sodapop, if you try looking up-thread you will see that a forum member requested that us male members of the forum give account of the foibles of our wives. The above is my polite response to that female forum members request.

But of course, sodapop to look back through a thread or witness someone is responding to a request is obviously quite beyond such as yourself.

Who indeed Grandad

In regard to us men talking about the foibles in their wives, my other half and I have continuously worked together since we started our company in 2003.

She has always looked after the accounts while I have always been on the operational side of the business and although we are both in what is a very large open office with many others (when the company is operating as normal) it can often be that we do not relate to each other very much all day.

In that, she will very often, when we are finished for the day, ask questions on my work such as "how is that accident investigation going at " whatever company" and do you think that strange bloke Steven mentioned will make a credible witness.

However, when I have had my mind on the problems of that matter all day often it can be somewhat tiresome to go through it all with her when I am looking to relax.

However, I realise such situations can be of interest to her and others she works with in the office so I always take the time to relate all that's going on normaly over a glass of wine later in the evening.

When the boot is on the other foot though and I ask how is the financial balance is shaping up for the end of the month or quarter I always get the same responce, being, oh, we are still chasing all that up with a long way to go. Problem is all her workmates in admin also always give the same responce. I always say, "this is a bloody stitch-up".

By the way I am telling my wife what I am writing here, and she has been in fits of laughter at it, asking who would want to know all that.??

Jane10, men telling those mother in law jokes went out with the Benny Hill humour in the 1970s

At the age of seventy seven, even I can accept that the world has moved on by way of humour, and in that, much for the better, I find.

Just because because your DH was in the Merchant Navy doesn’t necessarily make him tidy EV. My DH was in the RN and has latterly developed the habit of not being at all tidy, leaving stuff in the wrong place very frequently. That, combined with going round making sure anything I have left out of place is immediatelily stowed away even if I have mentioned I hadn’t finished with whatever it may be.
As this appears to be a thread about strange things husbands do maybe the men on here could start a thread about what their wives/partners/mothers/sisters do that they find incomprehensible. Might give us some insight.

Jane10 Yes, we've heard those jokes for years, haven't we. Never about "my wife" or " my mother-in-law", always "the wife" or "the mother-in-law".

Quizzer didn't objectify her DH, she referred to him as her Dear or Darling Husband!

DH does like the bedroom window open when it's minus 20C outside, but that's another story.

the day paradise put up a parking lot,
you don't know what you've got til it's gone.

I have tried locking him out there


I am being very nice to DH. He's cooking tonight.

Grandad. We don't know you in real life. Try not to take this personally. Just think of all those comedians who tell 'wife' or 'mother in law' jokes. We've had to suck it up all these years. Surely we're entitled to let off steam about husbands somewhere or should us little women just scuttle off back to the kitchen and not dare voice a protest about our lords and masters?

The ‘praise in public, play hell in private’ is a pretty good idea for a happy marriage isn’t it Grandad1943? I’m sure DH could list my foibles but would be ill advised doing it outdoors!