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Considering breast reduction at 62

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MaggieTulliver Sun 28-Jun-20 13:35:06

My boobs are making me miserable ? My BMI is around 22 and I wear a 32FF. I have deep shoulder grooves, intertrigo under one breast (because they sag) and neck and shoulder pain. It’s a pain finding clothes that fit and there are loads of things I can’t wear.

I wish I’d had a breast reduction ages ago but have now decided to go for it. I’m quite active with no known health issues and can’t bear the thought of possibly having to lug these things around for the next 20-30 years! Am I mad to be thinking about this procedure at my age and has anyone had one done later in life?

minxie Mon 29-Jun-20 10:25:58

You won’t get it on the NHS. Your boobs are tiny compared to my friend Who is a 38K. Yes a K and she can’t get one. The back problems it gives, her she should be able to. Lord knows how much it would cost her to have them reduced

Meta Mon 29-Jun-20 10:27:03

I have a friend who had a reduction last year at 71. She says it has changed her life, and was totally worth paying for. Her joy knows no bounds.

Dareyouto Mon 29-Jun-20 10:32:22

I had a breast reduction when I was well into my 50s (I am 69 years now) and I have never for one moment regretted it. I had extraordinary firm breasts but was really slim at the time and I did not have the outgoing personality to match my 34f size upright breasts.
When I approached my Dr about it she was extremely supportive and arranged for me to have it on the NHS and the consultant she sent me to agreed immediately as I was ‘out of all proportion’. I did have to wait 18 months for it but it was well worth the wait.
Two years later my daughter had the same op with the same surgeon in the same hospital but she decided to pay instead of waiting. The only difference was she had a private room and better choice of diet. Unfortunately, but yet fortunately, after giving up on ever getting pregnant and failing at IVF she became naturally pregnant the following year and then went on to quite quickly having a second child, which undid all what the surgeon had accomplished. One of those things and she wouldn’t have changed her 2 precious babies for the world. She is now nearing 50 and considering paying again to have another reduction and if I were able to help pay for it I would have no hesitation in doing so.
It doesn’t matter what age you are, if you are in good health, you must just consider it as an improvement which will make you feel so much more confident. I have known quite a few ladies who have done the same and have never once regretted the decision.
I wish you all the best for the future. Go for it and have no regrets!

arthursfam Mon 29-Jun-20 10:37:03

Now is the time to spend money on yourself !

SueLindsey Mon 29-Jun-20 10:45:33

I'm 69 now but have thought of having it done for years.
(At the age of 12 I was teased for having the biggest breasts in the class.) And being a teenager in the 1960s I didn't suit any of the fashions.
I blame it on Twiggy!!
The breasts have always been painful and uncomfortable.
I had Stage 1 breast cancer eleven years ago. I am due a small inheritance and could spend it on this but wonder if I have left it too late. My friends sister had it done at the operation went badly and she nearly died.

60yearsyoung Mon 29-Jun-20 10:53:58

You're not mad at all, you won't regret it. I had an NHS funded reduction and uplift in my 50s. Was unhappy with large, uncomfortable breasts for years and consulted GP who was unsympathetic and told me that I couldn't have the procedure on the NHS unless it was causing physical or mental distress. A few years later I saw a very supportive GP for advice about having it done privately but she applied to the CCG who agreed to NHS funding. The waiting list was 6 months and the procedure was cancelled twice. I have lost sensation in my nipples but it has changed my life and I don't regret it.

LovelyLady Mon 29-Jun-20 10:54:26

Cost of going private please?

Froglady Mon 29-Jun-20 11:12:01

I would go for it if I were you. I had one done many years ago after I had lost a lot of weight with gastric stapling. It was one of the best things I've ever done as it gave me such confidence. Ask your Gp for a referral and make a list of every problem that comes from your breast size - like you say the back pain; make sure you list everything. The more weight you give to your request to have the surgery on the NHS the better. If you do decide to go private, sometimes the guys that do the NHS surgeries do private ones as well, so you may be able to get some advice from a consultant about who to go to. But I would leave asking that as a last resource, plug for the NHS as hard as you can.
Good luck.

leeds22 Mon 29-Jun-20 11:14:13

Go for it. I'd hate to have big boobs.

chattykathy Mon 29-Jun-20 11:15:04

Are you sure you're 32FF? Try Boob or Bust. Most people come out smaller on the band and bigger in the cup so you might qualify for the NHS grin
booborbust.com/

jaylucy Mon 29-Jun-20 11:19:28

Why not have it done? A decent surgeon will run through all the pros and cons of surgery, but with the health problems they are causing I very much doubt they would say that they wouldn't do it.
A friend in Holland had a reduction from an H cup to DD. She may be 5ft 9, but was having the same problems as you with her back and shoulders, and it has made such a difference for her!
Only thing was that her husband complained about the money she spent on new bras and tops !

Purplepixie Mon 29-Jun-20 11:22:06

Go for it girl! You might live until you are 100+ and you would still have them. Sending you love and hugs and let us know how you get on.

Gwenisgreat1 Mon 29-Jun-20 11:34:55

Go for it!! I wish I could have afforded it years ago! A bit late now.

Annaram1 Mon 29-Jun-20 11:35:02

I would say if you are unhappy about your boobs, or anything else, go for it and get the operation no matter your age.

I am 79 and at the age of 63 I was so unhappy about my nose (think Jane McDonald or Davina McColl) that I considered surgery, and my husband said if it made me happy to have my conk reduced he would support me. Cost would have been about £3000. My daughter in law who is a doctor said "Why? How long do you think you'll live? Its not worth it." That made me think again... but that was 16 years ago and I could have had a nice little schnozzle all that time. Most likely you will enjoy smaller boobs for many years. Good luck!

Thecatshatontgemat Mon 29-Jun-20 11:38:02

Absolutely go for it!
Why poke up with the pain when you don't have to.
Just choose your surgeon very very carefully, hopefully as you work in the "trade" that will be easy.
Very best of luck.

tattygran14 Mon 29-Jun-20 11:44:01

Could I suggest a bra size check first? Try Boob or bust, just to do the home measuring. The M and S fitter assured me I was 36DD, I'm a 32 FF, and wear size 16 clothes. No grooves on my shoulders now, and clothes are looking better too.

Oopsadaisy Mon 29-Jun-20 11:45:03

Best money I ever spent, I was 51 when I had my reduction and never looked back. Go for it

oodles Mon 29-Jun-20 11:47:09

agree with chattycathy, even if you do decide to have it done, while you are waiting a really comfy bra will make a big difference, I'm huge but getting properly fitted has made such a difference, to he discomfort, if I had it done it would be for cosmetic reasons only now

tattygran14 Mon 29-Jun-20 11:47:10

Sorry Chattykathy, I hadn't seen your post

Flakesdayout Mon 29-Jun-20 12:01:09

Ooh go for it. I am a 36G and same age as you, with one side larger than the other. I know if I lost weight I would be a 34F as I once was before, but I cant reduce just one side. My partner thinks its great as he says he has the best of both worlds!! If I could and wasn't such a coward I would definitely join you.

Chookmama Mon 29-Jun-20 12:11:03

I had mine done in my 60s, a few years after having a lumpectomy. I had always wanted a reduction and had spoken to my GP several years earlier - he referred me initially to an orthopaedic colleague to confirm that it was contributing to my chronic back pain. However my husband was then offered a job overseas and it got put on hold. After the breast cancer and radiotherapy 10 years ago I had over a year of problems with infections, rashes, etc for which none of the doctors seemed to have an explanation/solution. In the end, after many visits to the breast care centre at the hospital, one of the surgeons asked me if I would like a reduction. She said that if I had been her patient for my bc surgery she would have suggested it be done at the same time! I did worry that it was a bit mad to go through more (and “unnecessary”) surgery but I’m really glad I did. My only regret is not having it done years ago. The rest of me had mostly been quite slim and I used to hate shopping for clothes and constantly trying to camouflage my disproportionately huge boobs. So I would encourage you to go for it!!

GrannyBettie Mon 29-Jun-20 12:26:32

I had mine done at 60. 11 years after my first consultation with same surgeon!! It will make you feel so much better - it did me. Years of carrying a heavy load means that I still have shoulder indentations but now not carrying as much. I have never looked back. If you live in London and want the name of my surgeon let me know.
Good luck

Nannan2 Mon 29-Jun-20 12:36:55

I would say do it- but wait a bit as isnt it a lot more risky while covid19 is STILL around, and you'd be best being more cautious around/in hospitals, even private ones? Its not a life threatening reason for surgery, and personally i wouldn't take the risk yet just for something cosmetic donehmm

TrixieB Mon 29-Jun-20 13:00:26

Money well spent! It’ll give you a new lease of life. Tell us about it after you have the op and good luck!

moggie57 Mon 29-Jun-20 13:19:42

have it done . wish my would go away... i think once you pass 60 yrs boobs should disappear...lol.... fed up with mine anyway .42c