Hubbies deafness is driving me to distraction

I have to say things three times. I have said, if you don't hear me the first time stop what you're doing, and concentrate the second time.
Sometimes to be honest when he asks me to repeat something I just ignore him. If he can't be bothered getting a hearing test......

Take him back to where he got his aids from - a lot of the older NHS ones just make the sounds louder. The ones that are now available are digitally tuned to what the person needs - there is also a variety of designs available. If he was seen at a hospital, he will be able to go to places such as Specsavers or Boots instead without necessarily needing a referral.
I used to work at one of those companies and you wouldn't believe the number of people that do the same as your husband not just with hearing aids but specs! I would guess that they also have a wardrobe or cupboard filled with clothes, complete with labels that don't fit and they can't be bothered to take them back to the shop!

I'm ashamed to say, my deafness causes rows here.
I always swore I wouldn't be like my mum, but, here I am, accusing all and sundry of mumbling.
I have the cheek, now I come to think of it, to get angry with others because I can't hear them.

Speak clearly to him while facing him but make yourself a small sign which says, 'I will not keep repeating myself when you have hearing aids but chose not to wear them'. Hold it up to him whenever he asks you to repeat things and do not engage in any other way. He then chooses whether to wear them, get better ones or not hear what you anyone is saying to him.

Illte ?

muddy does he say why he won’t investigate getting more expensive aids? Not being able to hear properly is awful, and I have had problems with it all my life.

Do you think you could persuade him to go and get the hearing aids checked out muddynails?
I had hearing aids (NHS ones from Specsavers). I tried them a few times, but they seemed to make the background noise louder so my hearing was even worse, and they were uncomfortable. So they sat in a cupboard.
After 18 months I was called in for a check-up. I admitted the problems I'd had and that I hadn't been wearing them. The technician looked at the aids and said that, although I'd only had them a relatively short time, they were basically obsolete and the new ones (still NHS) were much much better. I got a pair of the new ones and she was right, a totally different experience! I wear them all the time now and wouldn't be without them.

That's very irritating of him.

Ive lived with hearing loss for most of my life and hearing aids these days are very high tech and discreet.

Having said that they can hurt and mine give me excema so it is a relief to take them out sometimes.

There's a lot I want to say about living with someone with hearing loss. They have to do what they can to mitigate it but the hearing person often doesn't help, mostly unconsciously but sometimes a bit spitefully because they get frustrated.

Even though I've said a million times to my partner Don't talk to me from another room, he still does it!
Please face me when you talk to me and don't turn your face or even walk away as you're speaking.

And sometimes we need a bit more detail. Last night he said (head in a cupboard?) Do you want this ay?
Sorry say that again
Do you want the ayyyy?
No I still can't get it.
The ayyyyy! Do you want it?

Me going over to cupboard and peering in.
The Glade!

If only he'd said air freshener ?

Oh it’s sooo annoying!

Completely understand. My husband is deaf as a post and refuses to admit it. It’s a trial.

Yes, complete sympathy, doesn't seem to feel the need to put them in when it is only me around and takes constant reminding, and I hate nagging.

It’s the same in our house you have my total sympathy.

No advice really, but I do understand. I have to repeat everything to my husband most of the time. On the plus side, he will wear hearing aids. It sounds like that ones your husband has are not suitable for him if he is getting those kind of problems. Has he talked about it with the audiologist? Maybe they need adjusting? My husband's hearing aids filter out background noise and he can adjust them using an app. It is worth it to get the right set, but I know you know that and the issue is convincing your husband that it can be better. Do you have any friends who have more encouraging experiences with hearing aids that they could share with him?