AIBU - CV19 is over according to my OH

wreaks not wreakls.

FlakesDayOut :
Thank goodness he has started to see sense, please feel free to use my husband and myself in your argument, we have had covid and have suffered terribly, neither of us are particularly old(late fifties) we have struggled to breathe and had the most terrifying symptoms, ended up in hospital with suspected stroke and blood clots, we are monitored every week, we have such terrible fatigue and midway through this, we thought we would never see loved ones again, we are not given to dramatics, but we are now week 10 of this horrendous disease, and we have NEVER suffered like this. It's still out there, it still wreakls havoc, maybe you will be lucky and have it mildly, we thought we had, at first until it developed. Be careful everybody, it's much worse than people think.

The virus is still here, it has not gone away. The trouble is because of the governments attitude towards it , lifting restrictions and trying to get the economy going ,people think it is over. It is not. I just feel people who think it is ok to do what they want should be told in no uncertain terms of the horrific things that occur to people who get this virus.

I can understand your anxiety, and am glad you have reached a compromise, which is what marriage is all about, after all He has given up his longed for trip to France for you. I assume that bikes are his life, in which case he will be struggling at the moment. He can work with his friend on the bike in the garage to give him a vital bit of normality, and assuming they are not in the prime of youth, his friend may need to use the loo, but that really isn't a problem, just put the wipes and sanitiser in there and ask your OH to rewipe everything once he has gone.

It will be law here next week with up to a £100 pound fine if you don’t do it

You're absolutely NOT being unreasonable Flakes but sadly I think your OH is being unreasonable. Covid is still out there, regrouping and, some say, mutating, for another surge and sadly it's people like your OH who will help this to happen. I wear my mask while out shopping, but I didn't while at the petrol pumps as it was pay by card and nobody else was near. I did use

I'm in France and people are definately getting edgy again
as the first of restrictions come back in - compulsory wearing of masks in shops - I wouldn't travel to England at the moment because it would be an unnecessary risk be that the travelling or the covid numbers

always look after number one, you, no one else will and your story proves it!
Covid is not over we are just lucky the numbers are going down!
Keep inside, do NOT let the man inside and tell him you were / are shielding!

I'm with crafty cat and am much less worried now - I only know of two people who have had it, both with underlying medical problems and both recovered. My son, DIL and GCs have gone to Corfu for a week - don't envy them the plane journey, but hope they have a lovely time. Obviously the health of the nation is important but we must thing about the economy and people's mental health and tgry and get back to some sort of normality.

I have been bending over backwards to protect my DH who has heart disease and PAD, he had his 2nd heart attack during lockdown and had a new valve fitted 2 weeks ago. The family are also being ultra careful, sitting in the garden accessed by the side gate. DH had a friend visit the other day, invited him in through the house! Now he wants another friend round and expected me to go pick this man up in the car!! I have obviously been wasting my time

To be honest I do not know of anyone locally who has had it or knows anyone who has. A neighbour who is a nurse says patients are being sent to our local hospital from other areas as we have the spare capacity.
I do not think it is over but I am much less worried that I was & I have never worn a mask although I do have one.

I have been going out shopping, trying to pick quiet times usually as early in the day as possible. I was also doing my neighbour's shopping as she chose to self isolate (74 & Type 2 Diabetic). About 3 weeks ago she asked me whether I would be willing to take her in my car as she was getting "cabin fever" & was desperate to actually do her own shopping. I felt fine with this & we took all precautions, she feels so much better now although it's only about once a week. I understand how frustrating it is not to be able to walk round a shop & pick up things yourself instead of giving some-one a list.

I am reluctant to go to pubs/restaurants/cafes or visit any the coast or Dartmoor as I live in a tourist area. Devon apart from Exeter & Plymouth has a very low level of Covid 19, I fear a spike due to the influx of tourists.

I only wear a mask when am required to, this morning I'm off for a blood test, I have to provide my own mask, from Friday I will wear one in shops. I also volunteer at our local Railway Station, mask must be worn at all times. I have several washable masks.

I believe we have to learn to live with this, hand sanitizer in my pocket/handbag at all times, something I did pre-Covid. Frequent hand washing is a must where possible

Flakesdayout.
Make sure he does stay in the camper van and after that sanitise everything he touches. He is unbelievably selfish
Given your complaint. Good luck

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I like your style, Phloembundle.

Have you had him tested for dementia? He has clearly lost touch with reality. And before anyone accuses me of being flippant, I have two close family members with dementia. I am gobsmacked by all the women writing on here about their selfish fucks of husbands. Get rid of them and be happy!

I hope you let your OH to read what has been written here, he might just realise what an idiot he is. He is endangering your life!

Yes, I agree with the Posters here today.
On the other hand, if there have been no new cases in your region/country for at least a month, and your borders are secure, then Covid 19 could be over in your wee patch for the moment. Otherwise follow the FACTS i.e Face coverings, Avoid large crowds, Clean clean clean,Two metre rule if you can, Self isolate if you have symptoms and book a test. Stay safe everyone.

The virus will not go away! its here to stay like the annual flu.Hopefully there will be a vaccine soon, but until then, we must remember the rules, handwashing, social distancing, wearing face masks when told to do so.In this way we MAY avoid the virus, its still hanging around,its time to believe this, those who are in doubt!!

Well done, FlakesDayOut. It's clearly really tough for all those who are particularly at risk. It's all of YOU (and all of those who against the odds might react very badly to the virus) that everyone absolutely has to think about and act responsibly for. It's a test of basic humanity for us all.

That said, I understand about unintended consequences - they need to be considered too, but not at the expense of unnecessarily throwing our fellows in harm's way.

My heart goes out to you. Keep looking after yourself!

Your husband is seriously deluded and putting you at risk.
I have no idea what you can do about it though.
Best of luck.

BlueBelle I could have written your post - other than the bit about going back to work as I'm retired. Risk assessment has become a normal part of my life. I feel so much better now I'm not scared to go outside. Quality of life is as important as quantity.

I don't thinknCovid 19 will ever be over. We will lesrn to live with it like we donwith other diseases, and like our ancestors did before us.
I think its still right to be cautious. We are still shoelding - its our son - the shieldee''s birthday today and visitors will be doorstep at 2m only!! I know we could meet in the park but we're not ready for that (largely wntto limit opportunities for him launching himself at people for hugs)

If Covid is over now , then ask him about yesterday's announcement that the world had it's highest new cases in one day 260,000 ( 18/07/20)

For those who have been shielding and that loosely involved myself just because of age and not underlying conditions There has to be a gentle easing back into a way of life that includes more social contact even though it’s more distanced than previously - without that we are building up a whole swathe of the population that has added emotional ill-health to their physical infirmity. However the incidence of COVID is differential across the country. In London we had a shocking experience - so quick and contagious and people in other parts of the country had no idea what it was like here - now that situation has changed and some places are in a difficult position while others aren’t so it’s a question of being sensible - I suggest you find out what the COVID rate is in your area - how many cases are there - I’d your OH wants to work on his bike in the garage with a stranger ask him to follow the rules - don’t allow this person into your house not even to use the toilet or do so. It ask him to wash his hands thoroughly - you set the rules. If your OH wants to go to France in August ask what his plan would be for self-protection - he still has to wear a mask on public transport here and I think the same applies in French cities but if he’s going to the countryside and fairly isolated then this is a sensible way to ease oneself back into a more sociable existence. We all want to get back to normal. It will not be possible but we can make rules for ourselves that we use our internal logic to decide are right for us. If people do not get some kind of a break from shielding we will have an enormous mental health problem as the impact of missing a summer holiday hits home in the autumn when the light disappears.