AIBU - CV19 is over according to my OH

Yes there have been spikes again here in France, we are concerned in our rural back water that visitors to the area will bring more infection as we are relatively virus free.

FlyingHandbag is spot on.
He is being totaly stupid if he thinks it`s over.
Every day there are covid deaths IT`S STILL HERE.

I feel that this is a bit of a lull. From what I am hearing things may pick up again in the autumn. For that reason it seems a good idea to make the most of the summer, assessing the risks and taking the usual precautions.

Can you stay away from him as much as possible? Move into another bedroom. Put a chair and TV in there and use it as your sitting room too. Obviously, you'll have to share the kitchen, but you can attempt to time your visits when he's less likely to be in there. Have a 2nd bathroom? Use that instead.

You won't totally be isolating, but you'll be minimising the risk as much as possible.

There are reports from various news outlets today of rising infection levels in France, especially in Brittany and the Loire Valley. The French believe it's connected to tourism and are considering a response.

news.sky.com/story/coronavirus-cases-soar-in-frances-brittany-region-as-summer-holidays-begin-12030616

People cannot just go out and ‘rent a small flat’ !

If your OH thinks it’s over, point out that it isn’t.Tell him you are worried for your own health.
Motorbike meets are outside and the end of August is a better time than now, but he will still have to be careful for your sake if not his own.

Annsixty. The advice is that travelling in a car, as a small enclosed space, carries a risk.
The mitigating advice is for people who can't avoid having or being a passenger.

People don't seem to be able to tell the difference.

If you're told about risks in any bit of life and you make the choice to go ahead anyway, then the consequences are your choice.
If somebody chooses to travel in the car and they get the virus from that journey that will be the consequence of their choice.
Nobody to blame but themselves.

The news today is that we cannot take someone else in our car.
However the advice is...if you do , this is how to proceed, wear masks, sit behind the driver etc etc.
Why don’t the government say, absolutely don’t do this, you can do that, make up your own mind.
When it all goes pear shaped and we have a second spike, it will be all our faultbecause we did as we were told.

Vivkymeldrew my HD’s doctor advised him to assess the risk and then decide if what he wanted to do was worth it.

I’ve been shielded too and find this transition period quite difficult.
Having been given dire warnings of the consequences of venturing outside our homes since mid March, it’s quite a stretch to start behaving more normally. However, for the sake of my mental well being I am now going out walking, visiting shops at quiet times and had a lunch in a pub garden. All of these things socially distanced of course.
However, I am still bursting to go to France to visit my DD and GC (I keep posting about this). I just want to ‘make a run for it’ and go.
So many people I know are going abroad now. Why can’t I ? The risk is less now and I am SO tempted.

I have just been to the Fish & Chip Shop where they have a system of 1 in and 1 out. There is a simple menu in the window and queuing outside is 2 metres apart. You order then go back out. They call out your order when it is ready between new people ordering. Simple, safe and very much what seems to be the norm around here for social distancing. Despite huge signs explaining a man walked in to the shop and had to be sent out again. He kept standing close to me so I kept moving. Eventually he said how backwards it was because he'd been staying in London and it was all pretty much back to normal. After he'd repeated it 3 times, I looked up and said that I much preferred to be using this system. He sneered, shrugged his shoulder and said he couldn't see the point. I pointed out that my mother has chronic kidney failure and I didn't want to be the one who killed her off (although I have my moments). You should have seen his sneery face. He just ignored me after that which was find by me but as I walked away, he and another man were pointing out how stupid I was to believe the hype. What the hell is wrong with these people.

I think he is being an idiot to be honest, I feel for you, I’m shielding too, this covid virus is going to be around for very long time, I feel for you

Everyone has to find their own level because it’s not going to suddenly disappear, Covid will be around perhaps for many more months even years so my own belief is that we have to learn to live with it or become mentally unwell, and of course a lot depends on the area you live in and how much there is around your area and your personal reason for shielding I must admit I have to pinch myself to remind myself about it all now as my life feels pretty much ok and normal I m back to work, meeting friends for lunch (albeit so far outside lunches) it feels a bit strange going in shops so few people at a time but everyone seems to be behaving pretty well and my area is now pretty low
However we are all different and if you don’t feel safe or have an illness that makes you extra vulnerable then your husband is being unreasonable and two such polar views will be very difficult to find a reasonable answer to you both All I can say is good luck

As our next-door neighbour is on a ventilator fighting for her life, we are only too well aware that Covid is not over.

I agree with what FlyingHandbag has said.

You are absolutely not unreasonable. If I was you, I would rent a small flat and leave him to get coronavirus. It is ridiculous, especially since you was shielding.
Under no circumstances should he be going to France. I'm so sorry you have to live like this. X