In August, we'll be spending two weeks at SIL and daughter's beach house with our twin grandchildren. At seventeen, they are both great kids and they are thoughtful, mature and polite.
This afternoon, DH and I got into a heated argument......
DH ..."You were on the phone. Did I overhear that M's boyfriend is sleeping in her room? Me...."No! no.....no! She was talking about one of the girls in M's group. M does have a 'friend', but DD tells me they're not serious. She (DD) was conflicted about what to do if and when M were to bring a boy to the beach house. DD wants to know how I feel about 'same room' sleeping arrangements and I said it seemed disrespectful for unmarried couples to co-sleep in their own parents house. I then added that I was also from a different generation so ultimately, it was her house, her rules.
DH argued that a mother has the right to forbid such a thing and that I should have told her that. I said we needed to stay out of it, because it's none of our business anyway. We went back and forth for a few minutes, and the next thing I know, DH got up from his chair and lashed out (angrily) that if M brings a boy into her room while were at the beach house, we won't stay another minute...we will be packing up and leaving straight away! He didn't seem to realize how unreasonable such a response would be. It would also lead to a lot of trouble, hurt feelings and a serious falling out with our children.
To begin with, M won't be allowed to bring anyone into the house while we're visiting (Covid)....Second, same reason, they're not even having house guests this year, so the entire argument is moot. Third...It's not our call to correct M, on who she invites to sleep over her house or what arrangements they make...that's her parents' job and it's their house!
Right now, DH is holed up somewhere in our house and he's not speaking.
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