Having just read all these posts, it made me think what lucky children ?. They have obviously had so much love poured into them by you their parents.
As others have said it's our job as mothers to make our children independent and we do need to remember to congratulate ourselves when we do that. But I agree it leaves a huge hole in your life when your children leave home. I am lucky that my adult children live nearby and we have a great relationship seeing them lots. I'm just going through empty nest syndrome part two with my grandson having just started school! ? I have been very involved with his care and I am now really missing looking after him in the day whilst he's at school. I think you just have to make yourself become a bit selfish and do things you want to do for yourself rather than for or with other people all the time. As someone else wrote I am missing the manic of family and working life but retirement and aslqer pace of life with just my husband and me at home is slowly becoming more enjoyable for me.
I did some online mindfulness courses during lockdown and that has helped me really live in the moment and enjoy simple things around me and appreciate what I have and helped make me feel happier. I recommend giving it a try.
Keep on being the great mums you are but from a distance ?? and keep posting here as Reading that others feel like you is a great comfort
Frank Field, Labour Peer has died, aged 81y.