suzie thank you for clarification. All my husband’s brothers are married, and obviously mother in law and father in law live together, so they were never able to form a bubble. It is really a big problem isn’t it? I’m not interfering because I think I’d be smartly told that it’s not to do with me, but in any case I don’t think anyone in the family will change their behaviour whatever anyone says. My husband rings his parents regularly and also talks to one of his brothers about his parents, but living as we do, 250 miles away, we can’t do anything to help and probably can’t influence their behaviour. I have tried enquiring just what the official carers do as I would have thought food preparation would be something they could do to help. My mother in law seems unable to tell my husband what they do, and she doesn’t have dementia and so I’m wondering what they actually do. My husband is in the process of applying for the Independent Living Allowance (not sure if it’s still called that) for both of them and hopefully they can get some better carers then. The carers are the complimentary ones provided for six weeks after hospital discharge in their area. I really think the position of people such as my parents in law has not been thought through at all by government. Simply because they are two people it is assumed they don’t need a support bubble, but actually that’s exactly what they do need. Your suggestion of the brothers doing a week each is a good one, but I suspect they will not go for it. In fairness, it’s a family trying to do it’s best for its elderly parents, with everything pitted against them. It’s not about rule breaking just because they want to. What a dilemma! I’m thankful my own mum moved down here after my dad died, it’s been so much easier to look after her with her nearby.