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AIBU to get a bit annoyed every year with SIL giving us a Christmas card from a pack.

(318 Posts)
Kandinsky Tue 15-Dec-20 13:26:10

She’s my DH’s only sibling - you’d think she’d buy a special, ‘to my brother & family’ type card rather than a card from a box that she probably uses for the neighbours & milkman too.
I always buy ‘special’ cards for immediate family.
Also, they have money so that’s not the issue ( I’d completely understand if it was )

AIBU?

Greenfinch Tue 15-Dec-20 16:44:54

I think we all have different ideas on this topic which makes this an interesting thread. I don't like Facebook at all but love sending and receiving cards. I don't like the special cards but felt obliged to send ones to my cousins as they sent me one. The words were terrible and I won't do it again.Silly to be influenced by others but I thought I should make the effort. Wish I had got in first!

BBbevan Tue 15-Dec-20 16:40:25

I can’t stand those ‘ to my ‘ brother, sister, etc cards. A nice, preferably charity card, no glitter , is best

Judy54 Tue 15-Dec-20 16:35:50

Oh dear tiredoldwoman "You don't deserve any card at all". How unkind. If we can't show kindness at Christmas when can we? I am grateful for any cards received because it means family and friends are thinking about me.

Jomarie Tue 15-Dec-20 16:35:41

Minimoon snap - same experience ! I buy nice charity cards and everyone gets one of those excepting grandchildren who get individual cards from us as we get specially made or chosen cards from them - these take pride of place in our home obviously. Enjoying it whilst it lasts - tchsmile

Fennel Tue 15-Dec-20 16:33:38

Another alternative is to use the online website -Ja.... La....
(hope that's not advertising.)
That's the only type of card I get now and they're lovely.
I agree those special cards are far too expensive.

trisher Tue 15-Dec-20 16:30:45

I think might be more upset if she sent me one of those sickening "special' cards. Most of them are awful. There are some really nice charity cards.

AGAA4 Tue 15-Dec-20 16:30:15

I always buy special cards for my AC and GC but don't care if they don't. More pleasure in giving than receiving was what I was taught as a child.

sodapop Tue 15-Dec-20 16:22:33

I enjoy sending and receiving cards despite criticism from some quarters. I think its just nice that someone thinks enough about me to send a card. I wish I was artistic and could make my own but sadly I have no talent.
I think you are being quite unreasonable Kandinsky.

BlueBelle Tue 15-Dec-20 16:21:59

I buy special cards for my immediate family and make all the rest ( which is no cheaper but gives me enjoyment) but honest if all you ve got to worry about and pick holes in is the type of card you get you’re one lucky lady
99.9% of people have much bigger things to worry about
Be glad you got a card at all

Pittcity Tue 15-Dec-20 16:18:30

Yes. YABU.
I only send charity cards from a pack.
I make an effort to find the right card on the Birthdays and Anniversaries of close family but not at Christmas.
The long queue at our local branch of a discount card chain showed me that a lot of people do shop for cards like the OP.

Smileless2012 Tue 15-Dec-20 16:11:35

I buy special cards for family and close friends but everyone's different Kandinsky. Any card is preferable to no card.

eazybee Tue 15-Dec-20 16:09:07

Is this serious?

TerriBull Tue 15-Dec-20 16:06:25

I get a special card for my husband, all the other cards sent are cards bought from a local church for various charities.

LadyHonoriaDedlock Tue 15-Dec-20 15:54:19

Everybody gets charity cards from me. In recent years I've cut my card list right back to close friends only as the postage has become, frankly, prohibitive.

I have two friends who both, independently, make their own annual hand-drawn and painted cards. One usually does a witty Christmas-themed watercolour involving her animals (by sheer bad luck she lost both of her cats this year, athough they have been succeeded by two very naughty kittens and I'm longing to see what this year's design will be), and one always does a hand-drawn angel engaged in some activity, often topical. I envy them this and every year I think this is the year I will do my own cards, and every year Christmas is upon me before I get around to it. So I'm afraid it's charity cards again.

kittylester Tue 15-Dec-20 15:48:04

The cards I cherish the most are from my friend over the road who makes the most beautiful cards herself.

Apart from that one the most important criteria to me is whether the cards are for Charity.

I think those special cards are terribly baff.

I'm only a bit judgemental blush

tiredoldwoman Tue 15-Dec-20 15:45:09

you don't deserve any card at all ! smile

GillT57 Tue 15-Dec-20 15:44:56

Apart from buying a special one for Mum when she was alive, everyone else gets a nice charity card from the pack.

MiniMoon Tue 15-Dec-20 15:43:31

My mother didn't give "special" cards to family, and when I married DH the first Christmas I didn't either.
My sisters in law thought that I had rather snubbed them when they received a card from my box. Since then I've bought sister and brother in law cards for them, but I don't do it for my own sisters.

It's the thought that counts, be thankful that she sends any type of card.

Charleygirl5 Tue 15-Dec-20 15:43:19

You are lucky to be receiving a card at all. There are many on GN who have sons who no longer give their mother a thought for various reasons and would be delighted to receive anything.

Callistemon Tue 15-Dec-20 15:38:12

"Merry Christmas to Our Dog" anyone?
www.yappy.com/uk/dogs/c/christmas-cards

But I have bought him a present tchblush

crazyH Tue 15-Dec-20 15:37:02

I buy special cards for my children and grandchildren and my only living brother...and I receive special cards from them. I like the sentiments they contain.....that's just me.

Ilovecheese Tue 15-Dec-20 15:29:45

While I agree that you are perhaps being a tiny bit unreasonable to be annoyed, I must admit that other years I have bought Granddaughter and Grandson cards and "From our house to your house". I rather enjoy the cheesiness. Not this year though as have not been able to go to those sort of shops.

annodomini Tue 15-Dec-20 15:27:49

I think those 'special' cards are pretty gross. I prefer, as some others do, to choose charity cards and use my own words.

Urmstongran Tue 15-Dec-20 15:26:09

I find the ‘From our House to Your House’ and most ‘specials’ a bit cheesy to be honest. Then again, I’m obviously not consistent as I get grandson and granddaughter cards! I think though that’s because we are the only set of grandparents - our son-in-law’s parents didn’t live to see their grandchildren, sadly.

GagaJo Tue 15-Dec-20 15:19:18

You're lucky you get a card Kandinsky. I've done away with them altogether.