AIBU to get a bit annoyed every year with SIL giving us a Christmas card from a pack.

Kandinsky If you are still reading this and not tearing your hair out I think you are being very reasonable indeed . Your replies were very gracious, and to be ignored by people who are not gracious enough to have read them but still see fit to be unkind to you must be infuriating.

Merry Christmas from me too.

Sorry just to add I only think you’re being a little bit unreasonable though as your sil has probably not even given it a second thought xx
I’ve not seen your updated posts but didn’t mean to sound harsh.
Happy Christmas x

Happy Christmas Kadinsky.

This year I have been very unwell and received quite a few get well cards throughout the year so took this Christmas as an opportunity to send a card with a short Thankyou for their support and well wishes etc. I was horrified at how much I ended up spending between cards and postage - almost 60euro!! So next year will be back to the scaled down immediate family and for those I usually do but special cards. I don’t however expect them in return, I’m just happy to get one.
It’s not something I’ve even thought about tbh so I think you are being a bit unreasonable x

Wibblywobbly

YABU to complain about such an unimportant thing.

Please read the thread.

Yearoff

Sorry I do think YABU. I only buy a special card for my mum (I’m widowed so no hubby). Everyone else gets a good quality box card. I only posted 21 this year. One abroad and 20 2nd class. Cost was over £17. So expensive.

Again....... read the thread ! OP has replied very graciously. She does not need to be told YABU. Any more!!

I write my own message on ordinary cards and it lets people know that I am still alive.

I stopped cards many years ago always send a donation to Salvation army it's a family thing

YABU to complain about such an unimportant thing.

Surely, the important thing is that she sends you a card?

I think it sounds very ungrateful to criticise the card you get.

If it annoys you this much, send her an "ordinary" card.

I've never heard of anyone sending the milkman a card!

I got a special card for the first time this year. I didn’t recognise the names. After puzzling it out for some time, I worked out that it was somebody up the road’s mum who lives the other end of the country. I was actually very touched to get a personal card and bought and sent one back!

I always used to buy 'special' cards for all my family which cost me a fortune, then I started receiving the cheap 'standard' rubbish you buy for the neighbours, so I stopped doing it for everyone apart from my partner, sons and my best friend, now everyone else gets a card out of a box, albeit a very nice one, usually at least £4 for about 6 cards as I only send about 10 anyway.

So, if you're funny about it, just start doing the same as they do. The majority of xmas cards ends up in the bin/recycling after the holiday anyway

This is a vexed question. I had to have a word with myself when I found myself annoyed at the cheap & nasty card a friend sent to me. When her birthday came round I was riffling through my card stock thinking, “ This is good enough for her, as she has no aesthetic sensibilities.” Don’t I sound horrible?

I make my own personalised cards

I don’t send cards at all...I donate to charity instead...

I love getting cards and writing them too. I also like newsletters! Don’t always get round to doing them myself. I always buy charity cards - try to match the charity to the person - eg RNLI cards to sailors - never crosses my mind to to get worked up about the type of card we receive - just glad to be remembered!!

Yellow canary, my sister and i always make a donation to a homeless charity in lieu of cards not sent. I would prefer not to get cards either especially a 'special" one.

My sister & I both liked the cards we brought each other 21 years ago, so we kept them & they come out every year !! I’ve saved a fortune.
The only special cards I but are sons & partners and Grandchildren. X

Sorry I love special cards and give/send them to my daughters and Granddaughters, best friend, and two godchildren . We all like it in our family and have always done it. Each to their own everyone must do as they like but don’t criticise just because you don’t like it

My dh and his brother used to send each other's cards back for years, suitably annotated ...

Whoever asked ‘Who give a card to the milkman?’ - we do! With something inside.
Always have, and for some years now he’s been coming at about 2-3 am, so IMO if anyone’s deserving, he is.

I buy special cards for my grown up children and their families, all other relatives get the charity cards I also send to my friends. They do the same with me. We're all happy about it.

Of course I buy special cards..... I wait until they are remaindered in January
One year I managed to find 50 assorted 'Special' cards for £5
Then comes the fun of allocating them My 69 year old brother much enjoyed a sombre looking card addressed to 'my favorite brother on his 100 th birthday' and wishing him 'peace and contentment'
A former land lord who kept a bookshop marvelled that someone had asked him for a card for ' my blue-eyed brother in law'
There is also the fun of writing Constance Spry type verses. Just one small proviso. Choose your recipients carefully..... otherwise no card really could be a better option

I never buy those ‘special’ cards - I often find them too corny - I like to write my own message.

Everyone, including close family, gets a card from a charity pack at Christmas. TBH it wouldn’t occur to me to object to receiving a ‘pack’ card from anybody.

Hi I haven’t read through all the responses but I think ‘Summerlove’s’
comment hit the nail on the head.