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AiryFlyingFairy Mon 26-Apr-21 17:16:01

Hello Gransnetters,
Yesterday neighbours had a garden party. Lots of their family came including lots of children.
My own family had gone inside by evening and I was doing some gardening.
Got to 8pm and I'm bending down weeding when I'm startled by "Hello! Hello!" Looked up to see neighbour's Son in Law holding his toddler Nephew up on our wall.
I said hello and had a little chat about how nice the day had been. I don't know them except to say hello to.
He said "He wants to see the trampoline" I didn't reply. He said it again, more pointedly "He wants to go on the trampoline" I ignored that. I just said " It's gone so cold. I'm going in now"
My gut tells me this was cheeky.
The little one is too small to go on it anyway. Felt like he was expecting me to take the little boy over the wall.
But also if I'd let him on, all the other kids would have had to have a go too They were still out playing.
My partner thinks it was cheeky too.
I'm just wondering if this kind of thing happened to you? A small part of me is wondering if it was a bit mean not to take the little one and let him have a bounce but with C19 that's not allowed anyway.
I feel like the Sil put me in an awkward situation.

AiryFlyingFairy Mon 26-Apr-21 17:22:17

Just to add, the wall is high so another reason I was startled to see them!
Am I over thinking this?

Septimia Mon 26-Apr-21 17:25:32

Not the way to ask anyway.

"Do you think he might..." "Would it be possible, please...." - a totally different kettle of fish.

But still an imposition in these times, or at any time really.

If it happens again, I'd mutter something about insurance and health & safety, and that you wouldn't want to be responsible even with parental permission.

Oopsadaisy1 Mon 26-Apr-21 17:26:37

He shouldn’t have asked you

You did the right thing, you might want to say No even when the pandemic is over or you are likely to have umpteen kiddies over every time they are next door

Jaxjacky Mon 26-Apr-21 17:33:49

Flipping rude, I might have mentioned chances of Covid as they obviously broke the rule of 6 in their garden. But no is a perfectly acceptable reply.

Alexa Mon 26-Apr-21 18:03:26

He was insolent and you handled the situation well.

JustMe Mon 26-Apr-21 18:13:25

I'm very good at pretending I don't know what someone is talking about, and I would've reacted just like you!

Calendargirl Mon 26-Apr-21 18:14:12

What a nerve!

If you had let him come over, they would expect it every time they visit.

Cannot believe the cheek that some people have.

Nell8 Mon 26-Apr-21 19:35:57

I suspect alcohol had been taken! Don't let it get to you. If it happens again stick to your guns and say you're sorry but you don't want the responsibility, or ignore it and change the subject like before. You don't want a queue of tots at your door in the school holidays begging for "a go".

Nonogran Mon 26-Apr-21 19:40:40

You did the right thing. I'd have been very cross. Stick to your guns. Your garden is not the local playpark.

AiryFlyingFairy Mon 26-Apr-21 20:21:20

Nell8 I do too. It sounded like they'd had a jolly time. I do think he wanted to go on the trampoline himself!

Bridgeit Mon 26-Apr-21 20:27:01

Definitely cheeky.! Best wishes try not to think about it anymore. (Ps I would have & have felt like you but sadly people then take advantage)

lemsip Mon 26-Apr-21 20:51:12

what a cheek. you did right to ignore the remark. If the child had an accident on the trampoline you would have been sued

Charleygirl5 Mon 26-Apr-21 22:35:03

If you had allowed it the child would want to go on the trampoline every time he visited and before you knew it you would be running some sort of play area with you in sole charge and the parents enjoying a bit of freedom next door.

Next time, look at your watch and just say-OMG I am late and go indoors if you do not feel like telling him to bog off.

cornergran Mon 26-Apr-21 22:43:13

Of course you did the right thing, because of covid and as a general principle. Time to let go of it now, please don’t worry about your responses.

timetogo2016 Tue 27-Apr-21 10:15:14

Sounds like it could have been the drink talking,but you did the right thing anyway.

henetha Tue 27-Apr-21 10:18:09

I think you handled it very well. Blooming cheek on his part!

PinkCosmos Tue 27-Apr-21 11:20:46

I have started a similar post about people being cheeky.

I was brought up to wait to be invited/offered and not to ask as it was cheeky!!

Covid aside, if you said yes, you could (as another poster said) end up being an unpaid child minder every time the child was around.

AiryFlyingFairy Tue 27-Apr-21 14:50:26

Thanks for all your replies and suggestions. I will be on my guard in future as I wouldn't be surprised if will try it again next time they have a garden party.

leeds22 Wed 28-Apr-21 10:49:06

He was being very cheeky. We have a small gym in an out building and took the decision not to let anyone else use it on liability grounds alone. I'm sure the same would apply to a trampoline in your garden.

Alioop Wed 28-Apr-21 10:49:27

You did the right thing. He was being a bit pushy to me, why do some people think they have the right just to use other peoples things and speak to them how they like nowadays. Manners have gone right out the window.

Fernhillnana Wed 28-Apr-21 10:49:49

If the child broke its neck who would be blamed?

AcornFairy Wed 28-Apr-21 10:51:23

Goodness knows what I might have said in the heat of the moment, but I doubt I would have been as restrained as AiryFlyingFairy. (In spite of our possible shared genes). I’d like to think I would have said “Yes, I bet he would. But no he can’t. And neither can you. Goodnight.” A bit a-la Basil Fawlty …

Toots Wed 28-Apr-21 10:58:34

AcornFairy. Brilliant answer..made me chuckle.! ?

greenlady102 Wed 28-Apr-21 11:03:13

I have had this a couple of times. When I had neighbours with small children, I had a couple of asks of "can the children play with your puppy (hell no) and "can the children visit your tortoises" (again hell no) In both cases I just said "sorry that's not possible goodbye" btw this was some 30 years ago, its not a new thing.