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Purplepixie Sun 02-May-21 13:39:28

Find Gransnet so clinqy and unfriendly? Honestly I have posted lots of times and often been ignored or just had some rotten PMs sent to me. How do I get into the gang that is the GOOD MORNING topic? I am invisible on there! Ok I am going to run naked through each topic and I still won’t be noticed. I am here and a real person............................... Also I bleed when cut and cry when hurt.

Gingster Thu 06-May-21 08:27:25

I hardly ever get any response to my posts and Ive been on the good morning one for about 18 months.
I’m used to it now and don’t expect anyone to comment . It’s nice when someone does though! ?

Elizabeth1 Thu 06-May-21 08:04:49

Sorry everyone if I don’t respond to your good morning post but in all fairness I forget what’s been said, I think mostly due to my poor memory. each and everyone of us should be treated respectfully and with kindness, this is a fabulous forum to vent daily thoughts in our own way, to give individual opinions and to seek supportive viewpoints. Those gns who don’t get what they need from this forum please don’t give up greater things will evolve. flowers

Greyduster Thu 06-May-21 07:56:20

kitty has said what I was going to say - that at its inception, the good morning thread was just a ‘how do’ from everyone and no-one needed or expected a reply. It has developed fairly recently into a conversational thread because that’s what people seem to want from it now, or not, as the case may be. I’ve been on GN almost from the beginning and I’ve never had a nasty PM. Its rare for my posts to be acknowledged but I’m always pleased when they are. Keep posting; it’s early days for you yet?!

M0nica Thu 06-May-21 07:17:30

I have never received an unpleasant email in 10 years on GN and I am reasonably regular poster.

Did have one from a handsome colonel serving in Afghanistan, who if I had followed it up, would probably have asked for financial help, as he had left his credit card back in the US of A, but he love bombed almost everyone on GN on one day, so I wasn't impressed.

Maggiemaybe Wed 05-May-21 23:34:57

I'm really surprised that anyone gets rotten pms. I've been on here for over eight years and just had the one. It was more puzzling than upsetting, and I felt sorry for the person who sent it.

I'm not a joiner, and have only posted a couple of times on the GM thread or Soop's. They seem very supportive of each other, and I'm sure wouldn't ignore you on purpose.

Itsawelshthing Wed 05-May-21 22:47:23

So far I find Gransnet users to be friendly and very supportive and I hope I am the same.

foxie48 Mon 03-May-21 06:42:10

FannyCornforth

BlueBelle

A like button would be a dream from heaven because you would know your post had been acknowledged without having to post a reply and would feel so much more inclusive and friendly

No. A 'like' button is terrible.
It stops people from interacting properly.
It just becomes a binary decision ie like / don't like.
The more that I think about it, the more I'm against it. It is very Orwellian

Not my experience. I belong to a very active forum that introduced this after members requested it. It means people don't keep repeating the same things which is especially useful in discussions and improves the quality of threads rather than diminishing them. Also as on most forums there are people with very strong opinions or who sometimes lack "manners" when replying, someone will usually make an appropriate comment which others then like. It's a very effective way of ensuring that keyboard warriors are kept in check and keeps the forum as a friendly supportive place that is there for everyone to enjoy. It doesn't stop lively debates though.

CanadianGran Mon 03-May-21 04:38:14

But please no running naked...smile

I've noticed that the time of day posted makes a difference. There is the good morning crowd, and the game playing evening crowd. I'm in a different time zone so am often looking at threads once all the activity is over and everyone has gone to bed. I do feel I miss a bit of live action chit chat if there is a lively discussion, but I can catch up on it and add my two cents in time.

Purplepixie Mon 03-May-21 03:39:39

OK, I'll give it another go. You've all be so kind and warm to me. Thank you. ?

Jaxjacky Sun 02-May-21 20:18:47

purplepixie I’ve only been here since September, I don’t find any of this site has obvious cliques, just that some have been on here a longer time and have an online shared history. I post on the GM thread, but often it’s a statement of fact, weather blah, today I’ll be blah, so no acknowledgement required. I’d give it another go, it’s worth it.

Trisha57 Sun 02-May-21 20:17:19

At one time I felt a bit like you, Purplepixie, but as I have posted more I have had some lovely replies and feel a bit more included. I think it depends what thread you post on, or what subject you start a thread on. I avoid the Politics thread like the plague - too much controversy for me! But on the whole I have found other posters friendly and inclusive. It's lovely to have a sounding board when I doubt myself!

BlueBelle Sun 02-May-21 20:05:49

Well we ll have to agree to disagree
I don’t think a like button stops you from responding if you ve got anything to add but if you don’t have anything to add it’s an simple acknowledgement, which is nice to have

FannyCornforth Sun 02-May-21 19:58:31

Purplepixie

Once again, thank you all so much for your wonderful, kind and lovely replies. ?

Anything else to add?

Artaylar Sun 02-May-21 19:08:23

I occasionally put a post up on GNet and if it attracts other posts, that's nice, and if it doesn't that's ok too; I don't have any expectations on responses.

I sometimes post in response to a post, though quite often I find that what I would have said, someone else has already said and I haven't got anything to add.

Purplepixie (great name) smile there are far bigger things to worry or get upset about, so maybe it's best to just try to chill about it.

Purplepixie Sun 02-May-21 19:06:20

Once again, thank you all so much for your wonderful, kind and lovely replies. ?

lemsip Sun 02-May-21 18:55:40

i see that you had a post in july /aug 2020 and had 19 replies and you wrote a very nice than-you to that. realise thats some time ago

mokryna Sun 02-May-21 18:47:36

I agree Fanny

kittylester Sun 02-May-21 18:32:27

I agree Fanny.

FannyCornforth Sun 02-May-21 18:27:35

BlueBelle

A like button would be a dream from heaven because you would know your post had been acknowledged without having to post a reply and would feel so much more inclusive and friendly

No. A 'like' button is terrible.
It stops people from interacting properly.
It just becomes a binary decision ie like / don't like.
The more that I think about it, the more I'm against it. It is very Orwellian

FannyCornforth Sun 02-May-21 18:22:53

I'm with Meryl.
I assumed that Purplepixie wanted some sort of conversation, not just a message of acknowledgement?

Blossoming Sun 02-May-21 17:19:30

MerylStreep The OP has replied, thanking people. You must have scrolled past accidentally.

Nannagarra Sun 02-May-21 17:16:34

MerylStreep

An OP from a poster who complains that she’s being ignored ( when she’s not) and doesn’t reply to the kind people ( not me)
who have taken the trouble to reply kindly and give a welcome.
Oh the irony.

If you're referring to Purplepixie she replied and thanked us at 14.58.

kittylester Sun 02-May-21 17:16:14

Well, I saw a reply from purplepixie so dont stir it merylstreep.

When the Gm thread was started by Mick way back in the mists of time, it was just a 'Good Morning from wherever, the weather is flipping awful/really sunny/ peeing with rain etc and few words about our plans. I don't have time, first thing, to do all the responding stuff, so I don't!

Nowadays that flipping Urmston wants to know what your house is worth! grin

Ro60 Sun 02-May-21 17:14:12

I imagine GN as one big coffee morning with several tables (the threads),
In RL out of a group of people one wouldn't answer ever comment in the conversation, but just by being there does include you.

Apologies if I haven't acknowledged comments. Sometimes I don't know what to say or the thread has moved on.

BlueBelle Sun 02-May-21 17:13:53

A like button would be a dream from heaven because you would know your post had been acknowledged without having to post a reply and would feel so much more inclusive and friendly