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Purplepixie Sun 02-May-21 13:39:28

Find Gransnet so clinqy and unfriendly? Honestly I have posted lots of times and often been ignored or just had some rotten PMs sent to me. How do I get into the gang that is the GOOD MORNING topic? I am invisible on there! Ok I am going to run naked through each topic and I still won’t be noticed. I am here and a real person............................... Also I bleed when cut and cry when hurt.

BBbevan Sun 02-May-21 13:44:29

I don’t know about unfriendly but I am very often ignored.

Kim19 Sun 02-May-21 13:45:01

Goodness this really surprises me. I'm often responded to - probably sometimes in despair - but I certainly haven't had your experience. Good luck. Hope you find whatever it is you are hoping for.

Roses Sun 02-May-21 13:46:47

Pixie the answer to your question is no definitely not unfriendly

I am fairly new compared to others but I've only ever had support and kindness from everyone

If you want to go on the good morning thread just do it you will be made very welcome

Sara1954 Sun 02-May-21 13:47:43

Well, a bit mixed really.
I’ve been spoken down to on occasion, and I do find some people patronising , but mostly, I’ve found people kind and friendly.

Blossoming Sun 02-May-21 13:47:54

No, I don’t find it cliquey and unfriendly. I’m quite new by GN standards, the ‘Good Morning’ thread was my way in. I got into it by reading others’ posts and adding one of my own each day. I don’t remember seeing you posting before, but I forget loads of things! So, hello there Purplepixie, (cool user name) will go search for your other posts 🙂 Speaking for myself, if I don’t answer a post it’s because I have nothing to add.

Galaxy Sun 02-May-21 13:48:23

I think you need to remember it's the internet and you wont always get a response. Do you mean someone is sending you unpleasant PMs because I would report that.

Doodledog Sun 02-May-21 13:51:39

I don't think that people get ignored so much as that a lot of posters don't read the thread at all - they just read the OP and then add their opinion. Just be persistent, and keep joining in.

I think that nasty PMs can be reported to HQ.

nanna8 Sun 02-May-21 13:53:50

No, I found they were very friendly from the start and I have only been on a few months. Anything remotely nasty I can’t be bothered with so I stop going on those threads, just watch them. I haven’t seen you Purplepixie you must go on different threads perhaps. I like your name !

M0nica Sun 02-May-21 13:59:12

PurplePixie, I would say that least 9 out of 10 of most people's post are ignored, in the sense that you get no referenced reply or that what the poster says is approved or disagreed with, without a name attached.

Unless, of course, you are obsessed with politics, in which case you will be referred to regularly usually in a pejorative sense, unless your views match to the last crossed t, every view of those who dominate these threads.

The fact that you make a post and no one responds to it directly, does not mean that it has not been read and added to the discussion. I am on a number of threads and often read and agree with a number of posts that I do not necessarily make any response to. Just add their contents to my thought processes.

On the question of PMs. I am horrified that you are receiving nasty ones. I would speak to GN HQ about those, those people should be sanctioned. You can be on GN and decide not to accept PMs. There are a number of people who do this. I am not sure how you do that but I am sure someone can tell you how.

EllanVannin Sun 02-May-21 14:04:36

The " Good Morning " thread is fab. If you make regular visits to it you soon get to know who's who and their lives and foibles, it's surprising how quickly you can fit into this " introductory " thread as it becomes addictive once you're in tune with everyone.

Judy54 Sun 02-May-21 14:11:58

You can choose not to receive personal messages. Click on your inbox and the settings and then click block all personal messages, which is exactly what I did after receiving PM's from people who responded to my threads not by posting on them but by wanting to start up a direct dialogue with me, no thank you not interested.

Elegran Sun 02-May-21 14:14:14

When I put your name into the Gransnet search box, Purplepixie , it showed lots of posts of yours which had been answered, so I think you are doing about as well as anyone else. I find that many of my posts don't get answered, either., even the best ones. There isn't any shortcut - there are so many posts by so many posters that it is impossible that every one gets replies. If no-one has anything useful to say, no-one replies.

Don't think of it as a personal failure.. Ask questions that are likely to get answers, even very simple ones. Reply to anything that you can think of an answer to. If you read an interesting thread, add your own comment. Join in one of the many games threads, and praise other people's good games replies. Just keep posting on one of the repetitive threads, until your name becomes as familiar to the regular posters as theirs is to you. You are one poster in a very big crowd, some of whom are very busy writing assertive messages about everything under the sun. There are plenty of others who just lurk and read and never post. Perhaps some of them will join in your conversation?

Callistemon Sun 02-May-21 14:25:39

Hello Purplepixie 👋 (great name)

I sometimes join in the Good Morning thread and occasionally pop into soop's although I can't usually keep up.
As I'm not usually an early bird I don't know who sees my posts anyway.
I've never thought of them as a gang - just pop in and say hello.
I think there are so many on GN now it is a bit more impersonal though.

Anyone sending nasty pms is just totally out of order and I hope you report them to GNHQ.

Nannagarra Sun 02-May-21 14:32:46

I've noticed you, Purplepixie and have enjoyed your posts.

I'm looking forward to you joining us tomorrow morning on the GM thread. Give us a vague idea of the region where you live (e.g. north west), an idea of the weather and any brief thoughts/plans you might have. That's all there is to it. Post most days, join in and you'll soon start to recognise - and so remember - others. It's a gentle, kind, supportive thread devoid of confrontation which has led to me receiving lots of friendly PMs.

Purplepixie Sun 02-May-21 14:58:45

Thank you for your very warm and helpful replies. 🤗 🤗 🤗

ginny Sun 02-May-21 15:11:01

I love the Good Morning thread.
Sometimes people respond and sometimes not. Same with me. Some days I have time to loiter and take in all the posts and others I have to just scan through.
I don’t think I have seen cliquiness , just sometimes those who have been on the thread for a long time obviously get to ‘know ‘ each other.
It’s certainly been lovely to see others sharing the joy of our new DGS over the last few days.

Marydoll Sun 02-May-21 15:34:02

Purplepixie, I am horrified that you think the GM thread is a gang and unwelcoming to new posters.
We were all new members on it at one time, but I have found Mick's thread to be nothing but welcoming and supportive. Once you have posted a few times, people recognise your name.
We would be on GN 24 hours a day, if we replied to every post.
I have had a few nasty and hurtful PMs in my time, I just report to HQ, block the poster and that's the end of it.
I certainly don't expect people to respond to my posts, it's an anonymous forum and GN is huge now, compared to when I first joined.
I have made a good few friends over the years, but it's definitely a two way thing.

Of course, I am quite chuffed when someone does! wink

BlueBelle Sun 02-May-21 15:36:14

I don’t find it unfriendly but I find most of my posts are ignored so it all sounds pretty normal purplepixie

I ve never had any luck on the Good morning thread I ve tried a few times to get onboard but my good mornings are rarely answered and I do find that a difficult one to get involved in, as I presume it’s the same people most days who are familiar with each other so I don’t try any more
I just keep posting away and sometimes it feels you’re talking to yourself but hey ho
I hope you don’t get any more nasty PM s I ve never had that problem

ixion Sun 02-May-21 15:53:50

Is the idea of a thread purely to be acknowledged, to await someone replying?
I read the GM a bit like the entries from someone's diary.
When people describe their weather and their plans for the day, why does this need to be acknowledged?
It's just interesting, that's all.

Sundaze Sun 02-May-21 15:59:37

Hi Purplepixie, I posted on the Welcome to Gransnet thread in March, but didn't receive any response sad.
Hey ho, I'm not going to take it personally, I'll just pop onto a topic if I've something to add or ask.
It can be hard being a newbie - a bit like being a new kid in class! I think the more you post, the more other posters will remember you.

shysal Sun 02-May-21 16:07:03

I have been on GN right from the start, but can still kill a thread stone dead!
The Good Morning thread was a good place to start, so I am sorry you haven't felt welcome. I suggest to try again giving brief information about yourself and the day's weather. Showing concern or interest in others' problems or happy events could be a way to be noticed.
Please persevere, we are mostly nice people. A visit to Soop's kitchen bearing virtual cake is another place where there is only support, never an unkind word. Good luck!

GrannySomerset Sun 02-May-21 16:07:55

You can’t make reference to every poster especially if you don’t join in till late morning, but the thing is to read everything and possibly make a general comment unless something really strikes you as needing a mention. I thought I hadn’t seen you recently, Purplepixie, so keep pegging away.

MerylStreep Sun 02-May-21 16:13:00

Purplepixie
You had 30 replies when you posted a pic of one of your paintings. Not bad going I would have thought?

hulahoop Sun 02-May-21 16:13:43

I post on good morning thread some days don't always get acknowledged probably because what I have posted doesn't require an answer. I have emailed people sometimes with a question and have had some very helpful answers from them 🤔😊