Does anyone else.....

Thank you for your very warm and helpful replies. ? ? ?

I've noticed you, Purplepixie and have enjoyed your posts.

I'm looking forward to you joining us tomorrow morning on the GM thread. Give us a vague idea of the region where you live (e.g. north west), an idea of the weather and any brief thoughts/plans you might have. That's all there is to it. Post most days, join in and you'll soon start to recognise - and so remember - others. It's a gentle, kind, supportive thread devoid of confrontation which has led to me receiving lots of friendly PMs.

Hello Purplepixie ? (great name)

I sometimes join in the Good Morning thread and occasionally pop into soop's although I can't usually keep up.
As I'm not usually an early bird I don't know who sees my posts anyway.
I've never thought of them as a gang - just pop in and say hello.
I think there are so many on GN now it is a bit more impersonal though.

Anyone sending nasty pms is just totally out of order and I hope you report them to GNHQ.

When I put your name into the Gransnet search box, Purplepixie , it showed lots of posts of yours which had been answered, so I think you are doing about as well as anyone else. I find that many of my posts don't get answered, either., even the best ones. There isn't any shortcut - there are so many posts by so many posters that it is impossible that every one gets replies. If no-one has anything useful to say, no-one replies.

Don't think of it as a personal failure.. Ask questions that are likely to get answers, even very simple ones. Reply to anything that you can think of an answer to. If you read an interesting thread, add your own comment. Join in one of the many games threads, and praise other people's good games replies. Just keep posting on one of the repetitive threads, until your name becomes as familiar to the regular posters as theirs is to you. You are one poster in a very big crowd, some of whom are very busy writing assertive messages about everything under the sun. There are plenty of others who just lurk and read and never post. Perhaps some of them will join in your conversation?

You can choose not to receive personal messages. Click on your inbox and the settings and then click block all personal messages, which is exactly what I did after receiving PM's from people who responded to my threads not by posting on them but by wanting to start up a direct dialogue with me, no thank you not interested.

The " Good Morning " thread is fab. If you make regular visits to it you soon get to know who's who and their lives and foibles, it's surprising how quickly you can fit into this " introductory " thread as it becomes addictive once you're in tune with everyone.

PurplePixie, I would say that least 9 out of 10 of most people's post are ignored, in the sense that you get no referenced reply or that what the poster says is approved or disagreed with, without a name attached.

Unless, of course, you are obsessed with politics, in which case you will be referred to regularly usually in a pejorative sense, unless your views match to the last crossed t, every view of those who dominate these threads.

The fact that you make a post and no one responds to it directly, does not mean that it has not been read and added to the discussion. I am on a number of threads and often read and agree with a number of posts that I do not necessarily make any response to. Just add their contents to my thought processes.

On the question of PMs. I am horrified that you are receiving nasty ones. I would speak to GN HQ about those, those people should be sanctioned. You can be on GN and decide not to accept PMs. There are a number of people who do this. I am not sure how you do that but I am sure someone can tell you how.

No, I found they were very friendly from the start and I have only been on a few months. Anything remotely nasty I can’t be bothered with so I stop going on those threads, just watch them. I haven’t seen you Purplepixie you must go on different threads perhaps. I like your name !

I don't think that people get ignored so much as that a lot of posters don't read the thread at all - they just read the OP and then add their opinion. Just be persistent, and keep joining in.

I think that nasty PMs can be reported to HQ.

I think you need to remember it's the internet and you wont always get a response. Do you mean someone is sending you unpleasant PMs because I would report that.

No, I don’t find it cliquey and unfriendly. I’m quite new by GN standards, the ‘Good Morning’ thread was my way in. I got into it by reading others’ posts and adding one of my own each day. I don’t remember seeing you posting before, but I forget loads of things! So, hello there Purplepixie, (cool user name) will go search for your other posts ? Speaking for myself, if I don’t answer a post it’s because I have nothing to add.

Well, a bit mixed really.
I’ve been spoken down to on occasion, and I do find some people patronising , but mostly, I’ve found people kind and friendly.

Pixie the answer to your question is no definitely not unfriendly

I am fairly new compared to others but I've only ever had support and kindness from everyone

If you want to go on the good morning thread just do it you will be made very welcome

Goodness this really surprises me. I'm often responded to - probably sometimes in despair - but I certainly haven't had your experience. Good luck. Hope you find whatever it is you are hoping for.

I don’t know about unfriendly but I am very often ignored.