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Trisha57 Mon 10-May-21 21:28:15

We have treated ourselves to a new Smart TV which is bigger and better than our old one. I paid for half of it, which is our usual practice. The TV has super HD and would be brilliant if we were able to use all its facilities. However, my husband has discovered that if we use the proper route to the TV via its own remote control, he will not be able to access Now TV to watch some of his favourite team's football matches. We also have Sky Sport which costs quite a lot of money per month so that he can watch football. I pay half the subscription cost to both Now TV and Sky Sport although I never watch those channels. So, the upshot is that we watch TV via another route with our old remote control and the picture is far less sharp, and the sound is very fuzzy. Tonight, the old TV remote packed up and nothing will bring it back to life, so the TV got stuck on one channel. I suggested we used new remote control as it was supposed to be used, but of course he won't programme the viewing via that as he wouldn't be able to watch Now TV.

Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit fed up with him? I do, after all, pay for the subscriptions that I don't watch and I have said that if he wants to buy another TV and pay for the subscriptions himself I would be quite happy for him to watch his sport in another room. He didn't reply to that one!

Sorry if I don't know all the technical terms, but I do know that our son-in-law, when we first bought the TV, programmed it so that we could watch programmes in super HD with just one remote control for all functions but when DH found that he couldn't access Now TV he asked for it to be accessed via our old remote control with a not-so-good picture and sound.

jaylucy Tue 11-May-21 10:56:31

If he won't agree to at the very least watch what you want , I'd stop paying your share.
Get someone in to retune your tv and then teach your husband exactly how the new remote works, then leave him to it.
Buy another tv for yourself, site it in another room,with or without Sky. We have BT with Freeview channels plus some extras and I can usually find something that I am happy to watch.
One of my uncles and his wife have been married for nearly 50 years and for certainly the last 30 of those years have sat in separate rooms every evening to watch tv !

Trisha57 Tue 11-May-21 10:53:42

Ah, it appears that NowTV app is not compatible with our TV. We have a Phillips 50PUS7085/12. Apparently it affects Sony TVs as well. Maybe a Now TV stick? StatenIsland?

Aveline Tue 11-May-21 10:44:34

I dont have Sky but can access various Sky channels via NOWTV. Do you need both? I get NOW TV free with my BT TV package.

Trisha57 Tue 11-May-21 10:37:24

How weird, I've looked in Apps and Now TV isn't there! Going to go on Google now and look up our model of TV..........

Trisha57 Tue 11-May-21 10:35:24

MiniMoon - so glad I'm not the only one with this DH problem! I wonder if I could get him a "dummy" remote that he could use as a pacifier? hmm

StatenIsland Tue 11-May-21 10:34:18

Trisha57

Oh, I've found the sound settings and changed it to "Cinema", which has made the sound much crisper!

Well done. A step in the right direction. Now to explore those apps! Pun intended. smile

MiniMoon Tue 11-May-21 10:33:15

trisha, we have a smart remote that I set up to control the TV and the freesat box. It was so easy. My DH is still so attached to the two separate remotes, that when the one for the TV failed I bought him a new one. The freesat remote is losing functions now, and I refuse to buy a new one of those. The old fuddy daddy will just have to learn to use the smart remote. Honestly, men!

Trisha57 Tue 11-May-21 10:33:15

Sorry, not Cinema but "Movie" - we've gone all American!

Trisha57 Tue 11-May-21 10:24:44

Oh, I've found the sound settings and changed it to "Cinema", which has made the sound much crisper!

StatenIsland Tue 11-May-21 10:18:14

Trisha57

Hi all. I'm going to have a proper look at what we've got set up when DH goes to play tennis this morning. We haven't got Sky, so I think all the Sky sports channels must be coming via Now TV. You can tell I'm not a TV techie! Thanks for taking the trouble to reply - I'll wait with baited breath as he's now ordered a replacement remote!

That makes it simpler, Trisha. You must be getting the Sky sports channels through Now so it should just be a case of activating the Now app on your new TV. If it’s not listed along the bottom with all the others, do as I said in my first post, go to the App icon and look in there.

I really want this story to end by you having resolved all this yourself by the time he gets back.

Cabbie21 Tue 11-May-21 09:46:18

Sounds just like my DH, who thinks he is a techie but gets it wrong. I hope you can sort it whilst he is out. Glad we don’t pay for any extras. I certainly wouldn’t be paying half for any sports channels.

FannyCornforth Tue 11-May-21 09:46:15

Excellent stuff!
I'm sure that you will be surprised at how simple it is.
Things are much easier now than they were.

Pittcity Tue 11-May-21 09:45:45

lovebeigecardigans1955

That is very annoying. If you were to buy another telly would you have to get an additional tv licence? I hate all this technical stuff and would dread having to cope with new stuff.

Beige a TV license covers the house, you don't need one per telly.

Trisha, Google is your friend. Google the model of TV and Now . There will be help there as the manuals that come with tech are usually difficult to understand and my DH never reads them!!

Trisha57 Tue 11-May-21 09:43:50

Right, I've made my mind up! I will get someone in to set it all up properly. I think Polarbear2 hit the nail on the head - he wants to stick to what he knows rather than do things the "proper" way which he is unfamiliar with. Now to persuade him that his wind-up mobile phone is a little out of date (joking!)

SpringyChicken Tue 11-May-21 09:34:20

I’m horrified he’s ordered a new remote. Get someone in to set it up for you. Carrying on like that is crazy

timetogo2016 Tue 11-May-21 09:19:39

Stop subscribing until he sees sence.

Trisha57 Tue 11-May-21 09:15:56

Hi all. I'm going to have a proper look at what we've got set up when DH goes to play tennis this morning. We haven't got Sky, so I think all the Sky sports channels must be coming via Now TV. You can tell I'm not a TV techie! Thanks for taking the trouble to reply - I'll wait with baited breath as he's now ordered a replacement remote!

StatenIsland Tue 11-May-21 08:56:23

You may have a point Polarbear. Although it would be news to many of them, men do not know everything. Nor do they have to cling to the remote like it’s a bodily appendage. If manufacturers made them in the shape of a clothes iron they might be less likely to.

Smart devices are intuitive and women are perfectly capable of setting them up*. However, adding a Sky receiver into the mix can complicate things. From what Trisha has written, I’m assuming that that they have separate Now and Sky services although the two are owned by Sky and offer broadly similar content including Sky Sports channels - one without a contract and one with. Otherwise I can’t think why the tech problem as described exists.

*Smart TVs aren’t difficult to set up. Initially, you need to enter the password for your WiFi router to connect the devices and then activate the different apps which can easily be done from your laptop, tablet or phone - just follow the onscreen instructions. Each will say something like … go to www.itv.com/activate and enter this code … Have your laptop, tablet or Smartphone alongside and it’s easy.

The set will come with preset screen icons for many of the most popular apps: Netflix, Amazon Prime, BBC, ITV etc but they still have to be activated to access streamed content. There are many, many more services offered under the Apps option so that you can curate your own viewing preferences. Some are free, some are subscription. You need to figure out what suits you.

I don’t understand what footballhead has done if vision and sound quality is so poor. After all, the sound must be coming either from the TV speakers or a separate soundbar if, as is often the case, integrated TV speakers are poor. In addition to what I said in my earlier post, also investigate the Settings button on the TV remote to make sure vision and sound is set to how you wish to watch and listen.

I agree with vegansrock and FannyCornforth. There is more than one issue here and if the man is hogging the TV watching sport much of the time, then a second TV (set up herself) is a way to go. I haven’t looked too far (or compared) but see that Now’s Sports package is £34 a month so over £400 a year. Half of that or a little over will buy a perfectly decent second Smart TV.

FannyCornforth Tue 11-May-21 08:54:53

Yes, I can't understand the Now TV bit. It's sounds like he doesn't know what he's doing.

FannyCornforth Tue 11-May-21 08:52:36

Trisha - On a technical front - perhaps a firestick or similar may be the answer?
They are means of accessing loads of channels and channel providers on one remote. They are also voice operated. I'm a techno-fool but I'm fine with it.
You plug it in the back of the TV.
You also don't need an aerial so you can use them with TVs in the house anywhere you can get WiFi.
I definitely think that this might be the way forward.
TV wise, anyway; you are on your own with DH! smile

Redhead56 Tue 11-May-21 08:51:37

Not all men are geniuses with tv remotes and navigating the roads etc they will not ask for help! It’s all too complicated for them. You can pretty much watch what you want on your iPad. Stick to that and cancel the subscription let him pay for his own.

Greyduster Tue 11-May-21 08:48:49

I’m another who is wondering why he needs Now TV to watch sport when you have Sky? DH has a Now TV sports sub because we don’t have Sky. We have a smart TV and I don’t think it was ever set up properly by John Lewis when we bought it, but DH seems to know what makes it tick in a circuitous kind of way, so I just leave him to it. As Springychicken says, best get a tv installer in.

M0nica Tue 11-May-21 08:48:21

Why do you pay for tv channels you never watch? If you are going half and half on things, it should be half and half for things you both use and each pay for their 'them only' pleasures.

To be honest your DH sounds a bit of a bully and you sound a bit of a doormat.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Tue 11-May-21 08:45:34

That is very annoying. If you were to buy another telly would you have to get an additional tv licence? I hate all this technical stuff and would dread having to cope with new stuff.

FannyCornforth Tue 11-May-21 08:42:59

Gingster

Another tv is what is needed.

Or another husband.

Hello Trisha, I must admit that I find your post a bit difficult to understand.
It's seems like two different threads; a TV one and a DH one.