Firstly, sorry for such a long post. I am being pushed out of the Family by other Family Members. Mum & Dad are now elderly...Father was diagnosed with Dementia last year and Mother is listening to the other siblings and allowing it to happen.
I am the eldest of seven and helped/supported my Parents for many years whilst some siblings did not visit nor take an interest..the rest of the siblings did very little.
I have since sorted everything with my Fathers health since his diagnosis with Dementia, bough and replaced all his wardrobe and some of Mums and replaced all threadbare bedding, curtains and bought new expensive beds with my own money whilst the others have never put their hands in their pockets. Mum & Dad are not ones to spend their money on such things. I just wanted them to live in comfort in their latter days.
Mum had a fall back in February 2021 outside the house and broke her arm from then on the other six siblings walked in and have took over.
They have now influenced/manipulated my Mum & Dad against me despite everything I have done for them. I am feeling powerless and I dont trust any of the siblings.
I have always lived by my conscience whereby the others havent. I have always been different and my siblings have always wanted what I have, what I got and copy everything I do. I always seem to go in and set the foundations for something and then they take over. Most recently I found out two sibling were running my Mothers Bank Account and my Mother found out money was going missing. Now another is running her Bank Account and put the bulk of her money in a Bank Account in his name. He is now running my Fathers Bank Account and I suspect he has done the same there too. He and I were meant to be Power of Attorneys for both Mum & Dad Health/Wealth until I found out what he was doing with Mothers Bank Account etc and told him to put the money back in my Mothers name. A Solicitotr my brother does work for done the Will for Mum & Dad last year before my Father was diagnosed with Dementia. The Solicitor made an error on the Power of Attorney forms which voided my Fathers Wealth Power of Attorney. Through the arguments I had with my brother...all Power of Attorney fell apart because I did not know if one backed out the other had to too. I was wanting my brother to behave honestly but he and the others dont know how too.
I have one sister who never visited Mum & Dad tell me they dont want me at their house and so I have been staying away. The few times I have been there since February I am not welcome. Dad is saying things to me that are coming from other peoples mouths and it is making me so ill. I try to put a brave face on it to others but I am broken hearted...relationships have not always been good with Mum & Dad over my life time (I am 56) but I have took time out and gone back to be the dutiful daughter when I maybe should have stayed away like the rest of them. But I just wanted to do good by them to the end so that I could get on with my life when they have gone.
I believe the others are now in because of Money and althoug a Mirred Will was drawn up for Mum & Dad I suspect I will be written out their Wills influenced by the others. I dont care if I am not left any money as long as the rest of them dont too. I always wanted Mum & dads money going on them...even if it meant it was taken out of out hands and they had to go into a Care Home I would have wanted them to go Private. As I said before Mum & Dad have never been one to spend their money and I know there is a great deal of it ... If left to each of us it would be life changing.
I feel I am living a night mare .. I am not a walk over (just in case people think I am) but in this case I feel I cannot do anything about it and time is passing by where two Parents who have not always treated me well are coming to the end of their lives and I cannot be around them for fear of what my siblings may do to stop it happening...they want me out and away for fear of what I may see as I would be the one who would hold them to account when my Mother & Father has not.
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