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What is the average age of mumsnet and gransnet ?

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NambyPamby Sat 15-May-21 16:20:51

Am I being unresonable to ask if I'm too old for Mumsnet and too young for Gransnet?
I feel like neither represent my views, opinions or lifestyle.
I dont believe life has changed soo much, it used to be that people married young and were probably young grandparents but perhaps they were older in their lifestyle as it was a different age.
But there are now people having children later in life and therefore older grandparents (And opinions!)
As well as teen pregnancies which is in every generation and so therefore younger grandparents possibly.
So where do younger grandparents go or older mums, I dont feel represented anywhere.

GagaJo Sat 15-May-21 19:51:35

I joined Gransnet because I was so overjoyed to be a granny. It was nothing like I was expecting though. On a day to day basis, I prefer Mumsnet. There is a lot less pearl clutching there. However, I do enjoy the political threads on here. Even with the extreme right wing contingency.

Mamardoit Sat 15-May-21 20:18:52

JustMe

nanaK54

I enjoy both Gransnet and Mumsnet, I am 66

Me the same!

I'm on both but haven't posted on MN for a while.

Mamardoit Sat 15-May-21 20:26:47

You have to be careful on MN not to give your age away. Some are very anti the boomer generation. I have name changed over there but I keep the same name on GN.

JustMe Sat 15-May-21 20:31:22

Galaxy

I saw that one Maggie, it was very funny.

I saw that!
It rang a bell because it is the sort of thing I would do given I'm cack handed!

JustMe Sat 15-May-21 20:32:31

Mamardoit

You have to be careful on MN not to give your age away. Some are very anti the boomer generation. I have name changed over there but I keep the same name on GN.

I say my age because I really Do Not Care. And I call out blatant ageism because it gets on my tits (am I allowed to say tits here?!)

NambyPamby Sat 15-May-21 20:44:08

Pearl clutching - yes !
Although I do have some great pearl necklaces myself.

I expect it's the far right I have umbrage with.

I think as soon as I was a grandparent I thought this was the place to go but it was not what I expected.

An awful lot of moaning about nothing and nimby ism - showing my age is that expression even used any more.

Until recently I worked in fashion but felt that I shouldn't be trying to be young on mumsnet as I am now a grandparent.

I shall just have to be content in that I do not fit in anywhere !

watermeadow Sat 15-May-21 20:45:56

I am far too old for Mumsnet but Gransnet often feels like an old folks’ outing. The attitudes and interests here can be more like those of my parents’ generation, very traditional, white working class, immersed in royalty, probably Daily Mail or Express readers, honest, decent people not much interested in the outside world. More akin to Netmums than Mumsnet.

NambyPamby Sat 15-May-21 20:50:37

Thankyou for the tip Msma !

Just me - I always thought I would get to a certain age and it would be great because I wouldn't care anymore.
Ageism, is terrible in many ways. Ignored over a certain age, controlled as deemed too old and decrepid by society.
Men certainly put an emphasis on age also.
Actresses punished for it (although it's become much more acceptable and extinguished now)

But yes putting it upon ourselves - is not good.

stella1949 Sat 15-May-21 21:01:38

I'm on both - I'm 71. I like reading the MN posts, it keeps me in touch with the younger generation and sometimes I feel equipped to make a comment !

Callistemon Sat 15-May-21 21:08:47

watermeadow

I am far too old for Mumsnet but Gransnet often feels like an old folks’ outing. The attitudes and interests here can be more like those of my parents’ generation, very traditional, white working class, immersed in royalty, probably Daily Mail or Express readers, honest, decent people not much interested in the outside world. More akin to Netmums than Mumsnet.

??????

How old are you? 12?

kittylester Sat 15-May-21 21:20:31

And have you read any of the threads watermeadow.

BTW I have no pearls.

Harris27 Sat 15-May-21 21:26:20

I’m 61 and like both.

TrendyNannie6 Sat 15-May-21 21:28:13

I’m 63, post on both and enjoy both forums

Callistemon Sat 15-May-21 21:29:29

watermeadow

I am far too old for Mumsnet but Gransnet often feels like an old folks’ outing. The attitudes and interests here can be more like those of my parents’ generation, very traditional, white working class, immersed in royalty, probably Daily Mail or Express readers, honest, decent people not much interested in the outside world. More akin to Netmums than Mumsnet.

Quite funny really as there are so many diverse views on GN.
But generally, yes, more polite than MN.

Not much interested in the outside world

?

Grammaretto Sat 15-May-21 22:48:28

I looked at mumsnet once to see what people here were talking about but life's too short to read what you have no interest in.
I stick to a few threads here and dive in if, like this, I see something which catches my eye.
Although now it's been done to death - sorry grin

Gwyneth Sat 15-May-21 22:55:32

I read the political threads but rarely comment as I have no strong political views. However, as an independent observer I would say that there are far more ‘left wing’ posters on this site who express their views than there are ‘right wing’.

M0nica Sat 15-May-21 23:07:11

I am fascinated by the comments about the political threads. Some people prefer MN because, horror of horrors, those on GN who lean to the left have to fratinise with right wingers who do not agree with them. Talk about pearl clutching!

What on earth do they do on MN political threads? Sit around like little nodding donkeys, all parrotting the same phrases and and nodding their heads in agreement, My goodness they must be boring.

An interesting political discussion consists of people from all shades of the political spectrum discussing issues from their viewpoint and treating those who see things differently and their views with respect. Mind you, that doesn't occur on GN either, just people tossing insults like flaming brands and just about as useful.

I like GN because it is useful. I join threads that interest me and avoid those that do not and age seems utterly irrelevant, or even whether we are actually grandmothers or not.

Why does a forum like GN need to meet to represent your views, opinions or life style? What makes GN good is that it introduces you to new views, opinions and lifestyles and learning about life outside ones cosy little circle of those who agree with us is good for all of us and salutary for some.

Sara1954 Sat 15-May-21 23:10:29

I have never been on Mumsnet, I briefly looked once, and that was enough for me.
Sometimes I see a thread which looks interesting on Gransnet but I just know it’s going to end in a blood bath, so I don’t bother joining in, it’s not that I’m not up for a good discussion, but it’s sometimes so predictable.
I really enjoy the book threads, they’re really what keeps me here.

NambyPamby Sat 15-May-21 23:21:06

"Why does a forum like GN need to meet to represent your views, opinions or life style? What makes GN good is that it introduces you to new views, opinions and lifestyles and learning about life outside ones cosy little circle of those who agree with us is good for all of us and salutary for some."

I did mention something similar. afterall knowledge and learning should be a life long mission, but it can be waring when it is very one sided and nothing is learnt from repeating a viewpoint.

I dont know what the average age is on here or but there comes a point where its generational and sometimes I seek an alternative voice to my mothers. Obviously I speak personally, as my mother is extremely strong willed and likes to project her point of view whilst clutching her Pearl's, all be it from the Daily Mail #sigh

Redhead56 Sat 15-May-21 23:25:53

I am 64 but I don't think age is that relevant I became a nan just before I was 60. I know nans twenty years younger than me. I think there is something on Gransnet for everyone and especially for those on their own. It can be company and a comfort for those with a problem and needing advice. When a discussion gets heated it can be quite amusing. Like many this last year I have enjoyed browsing the posts and get involved when I can.

M0nica Sat 15-May-21 23:41:42

nambypamby Have you read the political threads? Dominated by those well to the left of centre, in fact I would say the majority of those on GN were left of centre and, to be honest, I do not see much pearl clutching either.

I do see quite a lot of intolerance from people who cannot bear to mix with anyone who doesn't share there world view - that group are certainly not Dail Mail readers

Having spent most of my life on the opposite side of arguments to the majority, I find it quite revitalising.

CafeAuLait Sat 15-May-21 23:48:40

I understand OP. I feel I fall into a middle ground where I'm not quite part of either side.

Antonia Sun 16-May-21 01:48:23

I'm on both. I'm 68. Different usernames on each site.

Lesley60 Sun 16-May-21 02:28:05

I’m 62 and became a grandmother for the first time at 36

FannyCornforth Sun 16-May-21 03:24:00

Not for the first time, I've got my post planned in my head, only to find that M0nica has already written it for me!

I don't get this must 'represent my views, opinions and lifestyle' guff.
I represent my views, opinions and lifestyle myself! I really don't want or need anyone else to do it thanks.

I'm 49 and as most people on here probably know, I love it here.

I use Mumsnet and Gransnet totally differently. I read Mumsnet - I've learned a lot from the feminist boards especially. The search facility is a great resource for looking up anything from beauty products to medical issues.

I totally ignore the stupid stuff.
I come to Gransnet for a friendly natter. Like in real life a talk to who I want to. I don't really give a stuff who anyone votes for.