Second Opinions - Saying NO to Quarentine in Our House with Our Baby

Hi All
Thank you for your comments and support.
They were wanting to visit mid-June when baby is just under 2 months. We've said we are happy for the grandparents to stay once no quarantine is required but we can't have more than 2 people at one time and no longer than a week. I know they won't be happy, understand they're sad they can't come but they need to compromise and be fair on us.

The length of time this has been on here, and knowing that it was posted and discussed on Mumsnet first makes me wonder if the visitors are already here and busy 'isolating' under your roof.
If this is the case I feel sorry for your poor wife.

You are definitely not being unreasonable. Explain that having a new baby means your wife will need lots of rest and an extra 4 people in a 2 bedroom house will make rest impossible. You would like to see them when allowed under current government guidelines so will give them the names of a couple of hotels or Airbnb places.

When are they coming?

Stand by your decision!!!
Who do they think they are, expecting you and your family to risk not only your lives but that of your precious new baby, too? I'd absolutely tell them NO!!!
If they are that impatient to see your baby, then tell them SKYPE and ZOOM work just fine, or they'll have to rely on you sending them camera pics (just to be awkward and make them wait longer).
Anyway, apart from them seeing your baby, wouldn't it just be lovely for you and your wife to get to know your little one first, and to be able to get into as much of a routine as possible before others visit and try to take over?!!
Good luck and the best of health to you, your wife and beautiful baby!

You are not being unreasonable, they are. Your little family must come first.

Are they mad! Goodness me, never ina million years would we allow that ! So very selfish of them to even ask! They are not thinking of you are they!

Tell them if they come they need to stay in a hotel - even aside from the covid risk it would be incredibly crowded with your own family and 4 visitors in a 2 bedroom house. I think its unreasonable for them to expect to stay in your house, even if there was no pandemic. Be polite but firm and say you would love to see them once covid restrictions ease.

Nope ! Under no circumstances are you being unreasonable !

They are being extremely unreasonable !

I completely understand their excitement (why four people though?)

Take lots of photos and videos and FaceTime/video call with them.

No way should they be arriving lock stock and barrel in your house for 10 days with a brand new baby at any time !!! Good luck and congrats on your new little one x

Sounds like this is grand parents. Try saying we are excited for you to come. But its against the law. Cant wait for to see our precious baby. We need to stick to the rules.

If you've tried that just say, No we hope you understand our reasons. We will look forward to seeing you when this is done. We must put our babies health and safty first. Keep repeating if necessary ?

I’d cancel altogether if I were you. What are they thinking about? Quaratine means just that you don’t go visiting to quarantine in someone else’s house.

Absolutely not !! Far too much of a squeeze and far too long and way out of line even to invite themselves to stay with you !! Your first loyalty has to be to your wife, the mother of our baby right now. Her hormones will be all over the place and her maternal anxiety will be off the radar. Look after the 3 of you !! By all means help your 'guests' to source quarantine accommodation where you could visit them when allowed and when it suits you and yours. Help them by pointing them in the right direction. Help the 3 of you by saying sorry but NO NO NO !!

Definitely NOT ....let them sulk and tell them outright they are being selfish and unreasonable !

It's a no you are not from me! My son and daughter in law have a 2yr old and a new born, they said no visitors for 2weeks and even now only outside visits, until they are comfortable with people going x

I'm = in

1s this a first for GN?
All answers I'm 100% agreement!?

SunshineDad you have done the right thing.well done

SunshineDad21

Thanks all, it is helpful for me as I've been stuck with the guilt tripping (it's my family). My wife has been upset that we are getting such bad treatment / attitude now, but quite rightly is pretty shocked they even expected it.
We only have a 2 bedroom house... so even without quarantine you can imagine how much of a squeeze it will be.

Good for you standing up to your family.

How ridiculously entitled they are acting!!

If a falling out occurs, no matter what they say, it’s not your fault.

Personally I would be inclined to say, you have upset us so much with your unreasonable attitude I am seriously considering whether it is in our best interests to meet at all once the quarantine is over.

YANBU they ARE

YANBU I’m pretty sure the idea of quarantine is that you stay away from other people - otherwise what’s the point of quarantining!

No you are not being unreasonable.
It's your house and your family so it's your rules. Lovely to hear you are being supportive to your wife.

No!!

I wouldn’t have had them to stay in normal circumstances, if we all got on really well, with a new born. This is your time, covid or not. People never fail to amaze me with their expectations of others.
Congratulations and enjoy. Do not have them at all. It could all lead to problems and resentment further down the line, and then they wouldn’t see you at all. I know, it happened to us.

They are being selfish to even ask this. Say no and don't feel guilty, just relief that they are not coming in your house. I thought there were special 'hotels' for quarantining.