Elderly parent problem

You are not being unreasonable or selfish. As others have said, just say no!

No way. It’s ridiculous and unsafe ! It’s far too much for you and them.Put your foot down and have a lovely day.

It's a no from me too. Your sibling ought to be making arrangements and paying for your parents to travel to the wedding by taxi and booking them into a hotel for an overnight stay. If I were you I would also be staying overnight. Otherwise it will be a long, tiring day for you.

The problem isn't the elderly parents; it's The Sibling. As others have said, just say no, nothing else, no offers of taxi payments, etc, etc. "No" covers everything you need to say to Entitled, Blasted Sibling on this subject. Do it! or you'll be letting Gransnetters down ?

I would say the mother of the bride is being unreasonable to expect her parents to do all that in one day apart from all that driving for you. Is it impossible for you all to go the day before the wedding and stay somewhere and return home the day after the wedding? We did that as a family when DGD married and the grooms family did the same. We had a lovely gathering of the families before the wedding and we all knew each other a bit before the event.

Huh? Golden Child invites his/her parents to an event and then expects you to look after his/her guest? Nope!

They want your parents to attend so they sort the arrangements - not you !

Golden child has bossed you around long enough. Now, just say 'No'. You know that whatever you do you will be placed in a bad light, so you can be as selfish as you like, he is gping to badmouth you anyways. so best be hung for a sheep than a lamb. Say, No, suggest taxi and refuse to pay.

I agree with all the above answers. Stop being a doormat for Golden Child, and stand up for yourself and your own health.

Selfish, disrespectful, uncaring and very dismissive of your obvious physical problems. A taxi for your parents sounds like the answer, but why should you pay for it ? If your sibling has been the golden child then they should be prepared to give a little back for the privilege they’ve had from your parents over the years. The cheek and entitlement of some people astounds me !!

Why would you care what your sibling thinks of you? They sound awful. Mumsnet has a phrase "That doesn't work for me." This isn't your family wedding so it's up to your sibling or your niece to organise transport for your elderly parents.

I would have thought that was a very long day for your parents, let alone you! Are you able to discuss alternatives like them staying over at the venue with them?

The Golden Child needs to step up to the mantle of gold that has been bestowed upon them and accept the responsibility that goes with it. Making arrangements for their parents to attend their child’s wedding should be the least they can do. I hope you enjoy the celebration.

Thank you for responses, glad that i not being seen as selfish!! The reason i would offer to pay is as i know what will happen: sibling will say to parents “thelbg WONT collect you to take you to the wedding, and it has been left to them to sort it out”. Sibling has form for making me the bad guy. They could easily pay for themselves as they are very wealthy, far more than me, but i dont want sibling to think i an being unhelpful.

If the niece wants her grandparents to attend the wedding, then I think it is up to her to get them there. It's totally unreasonable of them to expect you to collect them and then take them home afterwards. I would suggest that paying for a taxi there and back is the best idea and it is up to the bride and groom to pay for it.

You are not being unreasonable. How selfish & disrespectful the Golden One is to even think of asking.
Be strong. Tell it like it is!
Have a lovely time at the wedding.

Great minds think alike , Grannybags ?

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Why does it have to be you that pays for the taxi? Couldn't you and your sibling share the cost?

I don't think YABU as it sounds like a long and tiring day for you otherwise

Also why on earth would you be the one to pay for a taxi? Their wedding, their costs not up to you to pay for it.

YANBU! The golden child is crazy.

All in one day and the wedding is far too much. Put your foot down.
I wouldn't even pay for the taxi! But if you must, that's a better option.

No I don’t think you are being unreasonable at all. Why can’t they organise your parents being as it is their daughters wedding, surely that are responsible for doing it all. I would think your role is purely as a guest. I wouldn’t want anyone driving that far in one day never mind someone older like us. It also sounds like a long day for your parents, can’t they stay overnight somewhere near the venue? I would say sorry can’t do and leave it down to them.