I did this. It took nearly a year and it wasn’t easy. He is 43 now and renting a small 1 bed flat in Birmingham. I live in Greater London. At the time he was living with me he refused to get a job/claim benefits. He was eking out a modest inheritance from his father and did not contribute to fuel/phone and did not pay rent. He was a big spender when employed abroad some years ago in East Asia so the inheritance was reducing at an alarming rate. It became clear he was only living with me to save money. He started money mooching too after a while. It all got too expensive for me. He would get abusive with me sometimes too or else he ignored me. And there was the drinking. So we did not get on. He was not open to a conversation about leaving. I found out he had no right to live in my home as he had not paid me rent. My therapist supported me and advised me to get help from a charity for abused women to get practical help. I went to the local Women’s Centre. They were gold and supported me practically through the process of getting him to leave. They reassured me as to my rights and from experience knew that the police would make sure he left. The police told me they would escort him out if necessary. Fortunately it did not come to that. I told him I had the Centre’s moral and practical support and that they knew all about the problems. I gave him a month’s deadline to go. He actually went early. He still had sufficient money of his own to fund the flat deposit. If there had been no money left, it would have been down to me and his stepfather to fund the flat with a deposit and rent in advance. Some well off people buy one for their adult child don’t they. I believe there are many in their sixties and some in their seventies going through this difficult situation. One father I knew was driven to sell his family home and downsize to make sure his several children moved out. He then bought a place in Majorca :0)
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