People who say 'remind me'

If someone asked me to remind them of a date/appt. that would be it. Goodnight Vienna.

I am a very guilty lady

pigsmayfly.

There are those amongst us who are dyslexic and have trouble organising themselves. Also ADHD, the same. Some people will say that, not because they are too important but they really don’t want to forget. My friend bought me a calendar to help me, but then I put the calendar down and couldn’t remember where I put it…… I tend to remember things by numbers. I had an appointment on 25th at 10.25 which I remembered. I find texts a couple of days before really helpful from hairdressers etc. I’ve been like this since I was a child. It’s stressful!

In that case, if someone told me, "I have ADHD and can have trouble being organised. Would you mind reminding me the day before as I'd hate to make a mistake and miss it?" that would be fine. I'd put in my diary a note to remind them the day before. That's just supporting a friend who has some challenges, and I wouldn't hold it against them if they did forget one day. In other cases, I'm not managing someone else's life for them. I have enough to do in my own.

My husband and I exchange, “Remind me to…” pretty frequently. It’s for stuff like adding to the grocery list, to check for something in the basement, etc

Appointments get put on calendars.

I have had friends ask me to remind them and vice versa, but that’s more of a, “if I don’t contact you, reach out.” thing. It’s taken (and meant) as a shorthand way of saying a reminder isn’t a bother.

That said, if I was constantly reminding someone, doing all the emotional labour, I’d give it up as a bad job. Balance is the key, imo