I think it is perfectly reasonable to expect a text or msg from your daughter if she decides to stay away all night, purely from a safety point of view.
No-one is saying she shouldn't be free to come and go as she pleases, but she is living in your house and should let you know if her plans change, especially as you are in charge of her daughter while she is out.
Our children are both grown, with homes of their own, and obviously we don't know the details of their comings and goings. But...if they are staying over with us, or have been over to visit, I can't settle until I know they are safely home. I don't worry otherwise!
They both send either a " home safe" msg, or a thumbs up, as they know I would worry if they didn't. It only takes a second to do, and puts my mind at rest.
Take care xx