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To think friend was disrespectful

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Oopsadaisy1 Sun 23-Jan-22 13:28:36

Oops an extra i there.

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 23-Jan-22 13:28:08

Grandmabatty please reread the OP, it was the friend, not the wife.i

Grandmabatty Sun 23-Jan-22 13:27:09

You are being ridiculous. I'm sorry if you don't like the answer but really. She'd been in hospital and presumably was still recuperating. They were kind enough to take you for a meal and you think she's being disrespectful? Please give your head a wobble.

Lucca Sun 23-Jan-22 13:25:49

It depends on what her normal “style” is. Does she ever “make an effort”? If not then no problem.
I wouldnt go out for the evening without some kind of effort but each to their own,

Oopsadaisy1 Sun 23-Jan-22 13:25:02

As your friend was kind enough to help look after someone whilst their partner was ill does it matter?

Comfort over style maybe?

So yes ITYABU.

Oldwoman70 Sun 23-Jan-22 13:21:12

A friend and I have been helping out an elderly man whilst his wife was in hospital for an operation (shopping, cooking etc.). His wife is now back home and fully recovered. As a thank you they offered to take us out for a meal (wouldn't take no for an answer).

When I called to collect my friend she had made no effort in her appearance (wearing same clothes as when I saw her earlier in the day). I had showered, changed and even put on make up (rare for me). I felt as this couple were being kind enough to take us for a meal, it was disrespectful not to make an effort with her appearance. What do other GNs think? I would add that whilst it wasn't an "up market" restaurant - it wasn't the local pub either